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Opinions about Labor Day Weekend Weddings

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I am newly engaged, and my fiance and I are planning a very untraditional, and unique wedding. That being said, we are also trying to save our pennies for a house, so we are looking to cut costs at the wedding in numerous ways. How do people feel about a Sunday evening wedding on the weekend on Labor Day? Most people have off on Labor Day Monday, so we are thinking it would be a perfect opportunity to still have an evening reception, and still give people a break. Thoughts?
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  • sgdc2011sgdc2011 member
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    edited December 2011
    I was thinking about planning my wedding for the day before July 4th which would be a sunday.  The consesus was that people go away for these types of weekends. Do what's good for you, those that matter will be there.
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  • lucreciaclucreciac
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    edited December 2011
    We were thinking about doing a Memorial Day weekend. After taking an informal poll, almost everyone said it would be inconvenient since most people go away. We actually went for a regular Sat in June. That being said, I have been to a wedding on labor day weekend, and because it was one of my close friends I didn't care. But I think it's up to each person.
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  • ffbride_0813ffbride_0813
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    edited December 2011
    We are doing our second reception in FIs home town Labor Day weekend but his family always gets together and has a large party at him moms that weekend  so hopefully we aren't inconveniencing too many people.  If you are in a similar situation i would say do it but if most of your friends and family go away that weekend maybe pick a different one.
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  • hcer0708hcer0708 member
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    edited December 2011
    We are still the process of booking our wedding and we are most likely going with the sunday of Labor Day weekend as well, I believe that you can not please everyone and the people that truely matter will be there.
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  • Danes983Danes983 member
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    edited December 2011
    The bottom line is that its your wedding, and if I can offer any advice to you its that you cant please everyone. With that  being said if Labor Day Weekend is when you want to have the wedding then go for it!  No matter what the weekend or day someone will have something to say.  The people that matter the  most will be there for you.
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  • cvl105cvl105
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    edited December 2011

    One of my best friends did this this year and it was perfect. No problem for me at all. But it may annoy some guests that typically go away for the long weekend each year.

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  • 30may09bride30may09bride
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    edited December 2011
    I personally stayed away from Memorial Day weekend to make things easier for my guests, but I have been to weddings on holiday weekends before and as pp's said, those that want to be there will be there.  And I personally would have no issues at all with it as long as I didn't have to travel too far (Labor Day traffic can be a bear). 
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  • LolyalyssaLolyalyssa member
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    edited December 2011

    I just booked my wedding for the Sunday of Labor Day weekend 2011.  If you really want to do it, start looking at places now because I wanted Sunday night of Memorial Day weekend 2011 and it was booked at many venues.

    We are doing it because my entire family is coming from out of state and we didn't want anyone to miss work to come to our wedding.  The local people would have preferred the Saturday of a regular weekend but it was a compromise to allow more out of town guests to attend.  Plus everyone loves a holiday weekend near NYC!

    Beware, Sunday of Holiday weekends are only about $10 less per person because they are in such high demand.  Unless you go with an afternoon wedding on a Sunday then you can save more.

    If your entire family is in town, then stick with the traditional Saturday unless you want to save the extra $1 to $2K then go with a Sunday night of a holiday weekend.  But most local people want the Saturday.

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  • caketimecaketime
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    edited December 2011
    I would look at your guests and see what the majority do.  Are they going to have to fly in - if so that's an extra expense because it's a holiday so some may not be able to come.  Do a lot go away, if so they might still come and while you won't hear the grumbling they will grumble.  For some that is also precious family vacation time of which they get little.

    Look and see what works best for you and for your guests, then go from there.
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  • alliecarrie41alliecarrie41 member
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    edited December 2011
    as long as the VIP people will be there, you can do whatever weekend you'd like. 
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  • brad1431brad1431
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    edited December 2011
    horrible, I am sure people will hang their hat on the stupid it is convenient for OOT guests, or they will make a holiday weekend out of my wedding.  Thanks for ruining  one of my only chances for a weekend getaway with your wedding.
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  • RocksHow041RocksHow041
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    edited December 2011
    Since most of my family won't have to fly (except a few), and nearly all of my family (that I know of) doesn't do a formal vacay on Labor Day weekend, I'm thinking that it might be fine. My family will definitely be there, no matter when it is, and like most of you said, all that matters is that the VIPs come, and I think they will if it's a Sunday of Labor Day weekend. Thanks for all your input! It definitely made the decision/consideration of Lab or Day weekend easier!
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  • lknud819lknud819
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    edited December 2011
    i don't have a problem with it being on a holiday weekend.
    i'm just not generally a fan of sunday weddings, but it's obviously much better when you know most guests will have the following monday off
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  • tbrose16tbrose16 member
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    edited December 2011

    You might want to verify that you'll get a discount having it on a holiday weekend. When I was looking at places, I asked if the prices were less expensive, I was told "no" at various places - they said a Sunday night of a holiday weekend was equivalent to a Saturday night of a normal weekend so there is no discount. If you're looking to save money, you might want to look into daytime weddings as the prices were less money at the places I looked.

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  • Lola MinnieLola Minnie member
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    edited December 2011
    I wouldn't mind it at all if I didn't have anything planned. Most of the time, I stay local on the holiday anyway. I enjoyed attending a Sunday wedding on Columbus Day. 
    So if this is something you really want, go for it and don't worry what others think, it is *your* wedding. Those that are important will come.
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  • brad1431brad1431
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    edited December 2011
    there are lots of easier ways to save money on a wedding, this isnt going to be it, and even if you save money no one will say anything to you, but you will be pissing off lots of people.  If you want to save money, dont spend more then $500 on flowers, dont have a limo, and dont spend more the $500 on your dress.  Those 3 things alone could save you 3-10 times more than the $10pp having for having it on a sunday of a holiday weekend
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  • mrs.spunky1508mrs.spunky1508
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    edited December 2011
    If you're not looking at NJ Shore locations, I don't see a problem with it. Then again, I'd be wary to have a wedding in that area at all in the summer as shore traffic is a b!tch, especially Memorial day and Labor day weekends.
    If you wanted to have the wedding on that Monday, yes that would be bad. We have friends who are planning their wedding for Monday, July 5th 2010 b/c "everyone is off that day". Yes, but not the next day, idiots!

    And Brad, it's an invitation, not a subpoena. If you don't like the date the couple chose, don't go! DH and I are considering not going to the 7/5/10 wedding and don't feel bad about it one bit.

    ETA: I do have to agree with Brad on one thing: the prices aren't going to be THAT much lower for a Holiday Weekend Sunday b/c it almost = Saturday. Your best bet for the lowest prices are off-season (November-March, but the absolute lowest prices are in January IME) and/or Friday/Sunday/Saturday daytime (12-5PM) of a non-holiday weekend.
    And Brad, besides myself, I don't know ANYONE who got a (new) wedding dress below $500... and mine was $499.99 :P so you really need to shut your mouth on a subject you a) know nothing about and b) does not pertain to you.
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  • melissa82melissa82 member
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    edited December 2011
    I wouldn't care at all...send me a STD and I won't make other plans. I definitely don't make Labor Day plans months and months in advance! I would check with your close fam and friends to make sure they don't either and can come and consider your guest list, like Caketime said. I also agree with Kate that I'd avoid the shore area.
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  • velveenavelveena
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    edited December 2011
    It hinges on this - how many people/families CLOSE to you have recurring plans for Labor Day weekend?  None of ours did, so we were totally willing (unfortunately our venue was booked for that day!) but definitely our first choice.

    Maybe I'm going to sound like an ungrateful b1tch bride, but if they aren't that close to you and have those recurring plans, they shouldn't expect you know what their schedules are like.  I just don't feel it should be the bride's concern, lol.  Send out very early STDs (like, 9 months!) and let them make a decision about what do do that weekend.

    Brad, you gave some great money saving tips, but what was your reason for disliking holiday weekend weddings?  Do you have recurring plans with your family or just hate traffic?  Not asking to be a nudge, just wondering what other objections there would be
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  • stapletondstapletond
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    edited December 2011
    Sorry to be a downer, but I think holiday weekend weddings, especially a Sunday night wedding, to be annoying.  I'm a teacher, so a Labor Day wedding is a pain in the arse.  In general, I love 3 day weekends and would rather spend them not attending a wedding.

    That being said, I wouldn't complain if it were a close friend.  But in general, I find them to be annoying and more costly (for hotel, travel arrangements, etc).
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  • kewltifkewltif member
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    edited December 2011
    It really wouldn't bother me at all. I prefer this over a Sunday or Friday night wedding.  Like other people said, just stay away from the shore.

    The people who want to be there will! I sent out STDs a year in advance and I had a couple of people say they couldn't make it because they planned weekend trips skiing. Hmm... easy way to figure out who your true friends are quickly!
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  • njbrowneyedgrl74njbrowneyedgrl74 member
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    edited December 2011
    We had the Friday of Memorial Day weekend and I sent STDs out the August before.  The people that mattered came and the others, well the hell with them.  These were my family members, so I can say that.  Anyhow, do what you both feel is best and know that you can't please everyone.
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  • uppereastgirluppereastgirl member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_opinions-labor-day-weekend-weddings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:aaed8309-3091-4798-9def-a5d52d5f77acPost:7e6d6067-da8d-40ba-8756-4b3967020aff">Re: Opinions about Labor Day Weekend Weddings</a>:
    [QUOTE]It really wouldn't bother me at all. I prefer this over a Sunday or Friday night wedding.  Like other people said, just stay away from the shore. 
    Posted by kewltif[/QUOTE]

    <div>This.  I don't see how it is any less convenient, particularly for out of town guests, than a Friday or Sunday night wedding.  Weddings are inconvenient.</div>
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  • brad1431brad1431
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    edited December 2011
    Mrs Spunky a coworker is getting married in Jan, her dress $350, another is getting married next Nov, her dress also under $500.  you dont have to buy into all that say yes to the dress BS, cause that is what it is. 
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  • brad1431brad1431
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    edited December 2011
    yup no dresses on here less than $500, oh wait, half of them are, and look as nice or better than any Kleinfeld dress


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  • uppereastgirluppereastgirl member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_opinions-labor-day-weekend-weddings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:aaed8309-3091-4798-9def-a5d52d5f77acPost:eceb4f51-82d5-4fdc-83e3-b814ecf4221c">Re: Opinions about Labor Day Weekend Weddings</a>:
    [QUOTE]yup no dresses on here less than $500, oh wait, half of them are, and look as nice or better than any Kleinfeld dress <a href="http://www.camillelavie.com/c-prodsub.cfm?gid=9&cid=2" rel="nofollow">http://www.camillelavie.com/c-prodsub.cfm?gid=9&cid=2</a>
    Posted by brad1431[/QUOTE]

    Brad, how many times have you tried on dresses at Kleinfeld's?  How many times have you seen those Camille La Vie dresses in person?  And how many times have you looked at those dresses next to, say, a Carolina Herrera dress?  I agree that not going for a super expensive dress is a great way to cut your budget, but I think it is silly to think that in person the fabric and stiching and beading and such of a Group USA dress will necessarily look as nice as that of a designer dress.

    Also, some people want more than $500 worth of flowers etc. to get the look they want for their reception.  If it was as easy as you suggest to cut your budget without making sacrifices, I would imagine a lot more girls on this board would get married on Saturday nights instead of Sundays or Fridays.
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  • brad1431brad1431
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    edited December 2011
    and for the person who asked, FI and  only get 2 weeks vacation and we go away with family EVERY single labor day, 4th of july and memorial day weekends.  It is our only time to get away without using vacation, so thanks for taking that away from us
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  • brad1431brad1431
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    edited December 2011
    I would much rather not have ridiculously tall floral CP that no one wants to take home or those stupid branch ones, than inconvenience my guests and ruin their holiday weekend, but that is just me.
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  • cvl105cvl105
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.weddings.com/Sites/Weddings/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_opinions-labor-day-weekend-weddings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:aaed8309-3091-4798-9def-a5d52d5f77acPost:5fc07fe1-74b6-49f6-a9f7-e1395b143c14">Re: Opinions about Labor Day Weekend Weddings</a>:
    [QUOTE]and for the person who asked, FI and  only get 2 weeks vacation and we go away with family EVERY single labor day, 4th of july and memorial day weekends.  It is our only time to get away without using vacation, so thanks for taking that away from us
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    Last time I checked a wedding is an invitation, not a requirement.  You don't have to go if you don't want to or can't.  Most people having a holiday weekend wedding understand that they may have a few less guests because of the weekend they chose.
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  • uppereastgirluppereastgirl member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_opinions-labor-day-weekend-weddings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:aaed8309-3091-4798-9def-a5d52d5f77acPost:f5da2fe7-dfe4-4f8c-a367-7f3163021664">Re: Opinions about Labor Day Weekend Weddings</a>:
    [QUOTE]I would much rather not have ridiculously tall floral CP that no one wants to take home or those stupid branch ones, than inconvenience my guests and ruin their holiday weekend, but that is just me.
    Posted by brad1431[/QUOTE]

    And if I have to go to a Sunday wedding, I would much prefer for it to be on a holiday weekend because (a) we avoid holiday weekend travel like the plague usually (I'd be happy to have a wedding as an excuse to stay in town without feeling lame); and (b) the day at work after a Sunday wedding is vicious.  I'm sorry, but if going to someone's wedding would "ruin" your holiday weekend, maybe the people getting married aren't really important to you?

    Weddings are inconvenient no matter how you slice it.  You have to travel, or leave work early or take the day off, be tired at work the next day, deal with a long gap between the ceremony and the reception, etc. etc.  I don't think I've ever gone to a wedding that wasn't inconvenient in some way.  I also don't think I've been to a wedding -- even a very inconvenient one -- that ruined my anything.

    I would be interested to hear how not one of your guests is being inconvenienced in any way, Brad. 
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