Black tie optional - Friday night wedding

Habs2Hart · December 2011

FFS Cindy. Your head is made out of brick.

LissyM83 · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_black-tie-optional-friday-night-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:d0b2a419-b833-4d28-b39d-d25e60666e57Post:4c476cbc-a32e-490e-9dbe-e8bc5e134a42">Re: Black tie optional - Friday night wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Black tie optional - Friday night wedding : Why yes, yes they did. And hopefully our awesome mod will step in soon and put an end to this ridiculousness. I am not going to give these people the satisfaction of directly responding to them on my local board that they have clearly invaded, as a means to continue rudely forcing their ridiculous opinions down our throats. People's opinions on this entire subject are greatly affected by living in NJ and attending the customary NJ weddings - same as the "cover your plate" rule and other NJ "traditions", if I can call them that. Therefore, we can understand where the OP is coming from with this better than some of the people over on the E board. I'm sure there are many customs that people in other states do, that we don't do in NJ - and I would never force my opinion on them - or accuse them of being rude - just because it isn't something that I am used to. It seems many people are extremely close minded in their opinions of what is considered rude - and can't fathom it possible that other people don't completely agree with them. When you deem something as RUDE - you are basing that on your OPINION. And many forget, that Rude is different from "inappropriate" or "against etiquette". If etiquette states that you shouldn't put "black tie optional" on your invite, and you do so anyway - that doesn't make you a rude person. It just means you didn't follow that etiquette rule. I get it that we all don't agree on whether or not this is considered rude - but seeing as the majority of local people strongly disagree with everything being said on the E board - then as I said over there - either all of us NJ girls are completely lacking manners and etiquette, or we just understand that sometimes it will make more people happy/work better to follow our customs/traditions and not carry an etiquette book around in our pockets. Again, if a family member actually decided "wow, Sally is an extremely rude person. How dare she put "black tie optional" on the wedding invitation. Now I dont' know what to wear and I'm going to stress out about it for the next 3 months".. then that family member has some other issues they should be dealing with.
Posted by cindyn9178[/QUOTE]

I wish the Knot had a LIKE button!

mkrupar · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_black-tie-optional-friday-night-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:d0b2a419-b833-4d28-b39d-d25e60666e57Post:273602f1-2a53-4e1e-9a4b-692c0b9c769b">Re: Black tie optional - Friday night wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Black tie optional - Friday night wedding : I wish the Knot had a LIKE button!
Posted by LissyM83[/QUOTE]

You guys sure do like to stick together.

cindyn9178 · December 2011

For the record -the OP never asked here, is this against etiquette? So therefore, the etiquette argument on this board is irrelevant. She was looking for opinions on what would be acceptable, and we gave her those opinions based on what is customary for us.

KellyBrian2013 · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_black-tie-optional-friday-night-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:d0b2a419-b833-4d28-b39d-d25e60666e57Post:273602f1-2a53-4e1e-9a4b-692c0b9c769b">Re: Black tie optional - Friday night wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Black tie optional - Friday night wedding : I wish the Knot had a LIKE button!
Posted by LissyM83[/QUOTE]

Ie: "thank you once again for validating rude behavior that is against etiquette simply because we don't like what etiquette has to say"

mkrupar · December 2011

Well, when someone said they wished the E girls would come over, it brought the etiquette over. OP brought etiquette in to it when she posted it on the E board. She could have happily gone along her way being validated in her delusional belief that "black tie optional" is appropriate if she had never gone to the E board.

Habs2Hart · December 2011

:: head desk ::

37 Butter Knives · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_black-tie-optional-friday-night-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:d0b2a419-b833-4d28-b39d-d25e60666e57Post:6ae2ab69-9714-4188-ba1b-497ae696dea0">Re: Black tie optional - Friday night wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]FFS Cindy. You're head is made out of brick.
Posted by Habs2Hart[/QUOTE]

<div>YOUR. <strong>YOUR</strong>.</div><div>
</div><div>How the hell can you fancy yourself a paragon of proper social behavior when you can't use proper grammar?</div><div>
</div><div>
</div>

Jacky225 · December 2011

Seriously Etiquette board people? Please do not come to this board and again attack someone's intelligence and BE RUDE YOURSELF. Is this at the same level of RUDE if I put black tie optional???? HOW DARE I do such a thing! Yet its okay for you to say someone's head is made out of bricks? Wonder what Emily Post would have to say about that!

cindyn9178 · December 2011

News flash**** this is not the E board.

mkrupar · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_black-tie-optional-friday-night-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:d0b2a419-b833-4d28-b39d-d25e60666e57Post:70cd6e47-fa2f-4b4a-b0ee-6c506061ce6d">Re: Black tie optional - Friday night wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]News flash**** this is not the E board.
Posted by cindyn9178[/QUOTE]

News flash: maybe you should stick to the NJ board. Etiquette is hard...

cindyn9178 · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_black-tie-optional-friday-night-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:d0b2a419-b833-4d28-b39d-d25e60666e57Post:60e32b09-b98f-457e-93df-f4c3692428cc">Re: Black tie optional - Friday night wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]Seriously Etiquette board people? Please do not come to this board and again attack someone's intelligence and BE RUDE YOURSELF. Is this at the same level of RUDE if I put black tie optional???? HOW DARE I do such a thing! Yet its okay for you to say someone's head is made out of bricks? Wonder what Emily Post would have to say about that!
Posted by Jacky225[/QUOTE]

It looks to me like all of us have more manners than all of them combined. If we disagree with something here, we talk about it without being rude.

Habs2Hart · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_black-tie-optional-friday-night-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:d0b2a419-b833-4d28-b39d-d25e60666e57Post:14ba6c4c-10a5-4ca8-badd-f06f2959ac79">Re: Black tie optional - Friday night wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Black tie optional - Friday night wedding : YOUR. YOUR . How the hell can you fancy yourself a paragon of proper social behavior when you can't use proper grammar?
Posted by 37 Butter Knives[/QUOTE]

Oh Ima bery sory. Usumally I uses much better gramaticalness.

adamar15 · December 2011

News flash: this is the internet. We can post where we like. Novel concept, I know.

cindyn9178 · December 2011

I'm done responding before this gets out of hand. I refuse to let these people make me any more angry.

mkrupar · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_black-tie-optional-friday-night-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:d0b2a419-b833-4d28-b39d-d25e60666e57Post:2606628c-c4cf-4071-bb54-6274de7408eb">Re: Black tie optional - Friday night wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Black tie optional - Friday night wedding : It looks to me like all of us have more manners than all of them combined. If we disagree with something here, we talk about it without being rude.
Posted by cindyn9178[/QUOTE]

I don't feel I've been rude. Well until you were to me.

Habs2Hart · December 2011

Hey guys, did you know that you can post anywhere you want on the internet?

Did you also know that you guys bashed E for 2 pages straight, called us phsychos and bitches.

You bat signaled us. We came. Get over it.

Meg1036 · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_black-tie-optional-friday-night-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:d0b2a419-b833-4d28-b39d-d25e60666e57Post:6c056c4d-d0b4-4cc0-a1e4-3fbbb4fdcf02">Re: Black tie optional - Friday night wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm done responding before this gets out of hand. I refuse to let these people make me any more angry.
Posted by cindyn9178[/QUOTE]

We were over that thread. You came and stirred it up again - eventually discouting your own source when it showed we were right. Simultaneously, ladies on the NJ board were bashing ladies on E. Don't be surprised when we
1) Answered you and
2) Defended ourselves.

So its pretty much your own fault you're angry.

mkrupar · December 2011

Habs maybe NJ dictionaries have a different definition of the word rude in them.

I'm leaving now. It's been fun. Thanks for letting me play in your sandbox. It's froyo time.

jcg98 · December 2011

I'm going to close this thread now, in the interest of stopping before any lines are crossed. I am traveling today for the holidays and have limited posting availability. If anyone has any issues with this decision please PM me.

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