our rsvp deadline was yesterday, and naturally we are not planning on getting anxious about missing replies until the end of the week. i'm sure people probably dropped them in the mail yesterday or today, which is fine.
however, we are waiting on about 75+ responses, and i know that there are going to be some phone calls that need to be made asking people to please drop their reply in the mail.
my question is: who is responsible for these phone calls? my FMIL has been less than enthusiastic about our wedding and has actually made it more difficult due to incorrect guest names/spellings, addresses, etc. she also takes quite a while to finish a task for us or to respond to myself or my fiance when we need something from her. (she offered to do the rehearsal dinner but i wound up planning it when i didn't hear from her until a month before the wedding and she asked me where i wanted to have it)
i would call people myself, however, i don't know 80% of my fiance's family that his mom and dad invited. is it reasonable to ask her to call their guest list and for my parents to call our guest list? my parents are paying for/hosting the reception, so is it technically up to my parents to call everyone on the list?
are these calls ever generally well received? i would hate for people to be angry with us!
thanks for your help!
Re: late/missing replies--what to do?
I would have your FI call his side of the list and you call your side of the list. All you have to say is, "Hey, just checking on your RSVP. Will you be able to join us at our wedding?"
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People won't be angry with you for checking. They know they should RSVP.
My sister had to make a handful of calls for her RSVPs and they weren't angry or upset or anything. Most people had simply forgotten to mail the RSVP back. And there were even 2 that had sent them, but my parents hadn't received (although they ended up receiving weeks after the wedding).
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Since your deadline is probably close to the day you need to turn your final head count in, i wouldn't ask FMIL to do it. You and FI should split it up somehow. We know we are going to have to do this soon, since our deadlne is Friday and we are still missing quite a few. Some of our family members we have already talked to, but the rest we will probably call Monday after the mail comes.
My suggestion though would be when you do call just to ask if they are attending, instead of asking them to put their response card in the mail. This way you have the info immediately, and you aren't stuck dealing with nmore delays. I would just say something like "We haven't received your response yet from the wedding, and were just wondering if you would be joining us on our day." Also get a meal choice if you need it.
Yes.
Their names are on the top line of your invitation as the people who are hosting and therefore they are requesting the presence of the guest.
If the guest doesn't respond, then the guest-asker needs to ask again.