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What did you wear... under there?
I'm clueless. When I tried on bridal gowns, I brought some loose fitting (for some reason) Spanx and a long line bra. When my gown arrived, I put it on with the same under-garments and you could see the long-line bra coming out over the top of the back of the gown.
I am scheduled for my first fitting, but I've lost some weight and need new under-garments. Do I get those first and then the dress is altered to fit those? Or do I get the under-garments and return them if they reveal outside the gown?
Where should I begin looking for under-garments? Should I be looking for a particular cut? I'm pretty full-chested, so I need lots of support up there, but I also want a smooth line because my dress is pretty fitting to my body.
Thank you!
I am scheduled for my first fitting, but I've lost some weight and need new under-garments. Do I get those first and then the dress is altered to fit those? Or do I get the under-garments and return them if they reveal outside the gown?
Where should I begin looking for under-garments? Should I be looking for a particular cut? I'm pretty full-chested, so I need lots of support up there, but I also want a smooth line because my dress is pretty fitting to my body.
Thank you!
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Re: What did you wear... under there?
ETA: I think it's better for you to find a bra that works for you and then get the dress altered to fit that. Plus, don't cheap out on it, especially if you've got something in the boobage department. You'll kick yourself for buying a cheapy thing that stretches out, I promise you.
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Don't go to a David's Bridal or Macy's lingerie department for this, especially if you are top-heavy (I am jealous that you have that problem...I will probably be putting socks in my corset the night before just to see how they look LOL). Find a mom & pop, specialty or boutique shop that does this. You will be amazed how the personal attention of a one-on-one bra fitting will change your outlook on your shape and undergarments in general.
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[QUOTE]YES get the undergarments FIRST! My friend's mother is a full-time seamtstress who is kindly doing my alterations and she threatened my life if I came to her without getting the undergarments first. It's apparently a tailor's worst nightmare. Don't go to a David's Bridal or Macy's lingerie department for this, especially if you are top-heavy (I am jealous that you have that problem...I will probably be putting socks in my corset the night before just to see how they look LOL). Find a mom & pop, specialty or boutique shop that does this. You will be amazed how the personal attention of a one-on-one bra fitting will change your outlook on your shape and undergarments in general.
Posted by ZoeTheDog[/QUOTE]
Wow! Thanks so much for the excellent advice! Out of curiosity, would I be looking for a lingerie store? Or... Do you know?
[QUOTE]I had a regular strapless bra sewn into the cups of the wedding dress to add to the support of the dress. My seamstress also changed the boning for me so that helped as well. I found that all of the foundation garment type things showed up under my dress so I opted out of them completely and just wore regular underwear. ETA: I think it's better for you to find a bra that works for you and then get the dress altered to fit that. Plus, don't cheap out on it, especially if you've got something in the boobage department. You'll kick yourself for buying a cheapy thing that stretches out, I promise you. :)
Posted by september's bride[/QUOTE]
Thank you so much! This is great advice. I like the idea of having cups sewn in.
Do not skimp on this haha...the advice I got was, 'The dress will only look as good as the bra holding it up!"
But yes, definitely get a great bra fitting. You might have to go above and beyond, but you'll be amazed at the difference in your rack. It's never flattering to see a woman with boobs coming out of her stomach.
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Good luck!
[QUOTE]Hey Shannon, I would google lingerie or undergarments and the town you're in. Some specialty dress shops will offer this service as well. Also try googling Lady Olga - this is a specific line that shops will carry and that might be easier if you can't find lingerie shops near you. Do not skimp on this haha...the advice I got was, 'The dress will only look as good as the bra holding it up!"
Posted by ZoeTheDog[/QUOTE]
Thank you, thank you!! That makes perfect sense. Thanks for steering me in a direction! <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />
[QUOTE]I bought the full on spanx. The one's that go from your bra down to your thighs. Love. Them. Weird though, I could still see my freaking belly button through the dress, but I think that's because I didn't wash them between my fitting and wedding day- they weren't as tight I needed them to be! But yes, definitely get a great bra fitting. You might have to go above and beyond, but you'll be amazed at the difference in your rack. It's never flattering to see a woman with boobs coming out of her stomach. :D lol
Posted by AmoroAgain[/QUOTE]
HAHA!!! Never flattering at all. I don't want any knee shooters. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />
I wore the silk "blushing bride" undies from TK and I loved them--they felt great.
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[QUOTE]I had cups sewn in also. I found the bras added too much extra material and my dress already had boning, so I didn't need spanx or anything. I wore the silk "blushing bride" undies from TK and I loved them--they felt great.
Posted by stephiehall[/QUOTE]
I'll have to look for those! Thanks!
Anyway what I did was buy several undergarment options, brought them to the fitting, and tried them all on under my dress before they actually pinned it for alterations and such (leaving tags on and wearing my own unders under those so it wasn't gross), then returned the ones that didn't work.
My long line bra showed at first in the back of my dress (which was a deep V), but if you just undo the first 2 or 3 hooks at the top of the longline bra, then tuck those new loose flaps down under the rest of it (to make the top of the bra a V too), it shouldn't show anymore since it's lower and fits the shape. We sewed the little flaps down, but you don't have to.
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[QUOTE]This is one of the reasons I really wish I had chosen a dress with more structure to it. I ended up wearing a long line bra with giant boob to knee spanx over it, and could still see my belly button unfortunately. And I was even thinner then than I am now, but oh well. Anyway what I did was buy several undergarment options, brought them to the fitting, and tried them all on under my dress before they actually pinned it for alterations and such (leaving tags on and wearing my own unders under those so it wasn't gross), then returned the ones that didn't work. My long line bra showed at first in the back of my dress (which was a deep V), but if you just undo the first 2 or 3 hooks at the top of the longline bra, then tuck those new loose flaps down under the rest of it (to make the top of the bra a V too), it shouldn't show anymore since it's lower and fits the shape. We sewed the little flaps down, but you don't have to.
Posted by tlv204[/QUOTE]
That's a really great idea. Thanks!
[QUOTE]I vote nieman marcus. They have some nice stuff that is under $200, and very sleek (no seams, etc).
Posted by ZRex[/QUOTE]
Thank you! I'll give it a look!
however when i was younger we had a bare necessities store in the area and my oldest sister was very top heavy so that is wear my mother took her for her bra's after seeing the care my sister got she ended taking all of my sisters and my self there and i mean all 6 of us girls. Not only did it make me feel not as scared geting my first bra, but they have bra's for anyone in size A to a custom size Z if the person needed it. (yes i know there is no size z but you get the piont)
my sister also got her wedding knickers from there aswell.
Sadly the plaza it was in was sold but hopefully i can find a new one a town over. Either wa the direct care is worth every penny and it is so much cheaper there than at VC or FoH.
I hope this helps a little.
I hear you about the weight change issues. I'm freting about it, too. Hence, all the phone calls that I already made. When I bought the dress, just after the Holidays, I told the girls that my weight would change, it always does. It seems to be a popular theme with brides, the seamstresses I called knew it all too well.
[QUOTE]As far as the chest support/bra situation goes, II highly recommend looking into the nu-bra. They are silcone cups that stick right to you, and peel off with ease (no sticky mess). The added benefit is they are completely reusable and washable. I purchased mine from Macy's, but VS and other department stores carry them. They are around $65, but I lucked out and got mine on clearance for half off! Good luck!
Posted by missmandy1984[/QUOTE]
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</div><div>yeah but these are not going to work for a bustier bride. These don't really provide support that someone with more than a C needs. Don't get them.</div>