wedding fb gripe

Re: wedding fb gripe

• jml1981

  

  January 2012

  I understand this too. I mention it on facebook but everyone knows it's a destination wedding so they understand that it's going to be small. But I only invited a few people from work that I want to to join pre-wedding festivites here (shower/bachelorette) and also the wedding if they can make it. I had a girl come over the other day going on and on about the invites and how excited she was and I had to shush her up so some other people wouldn't overhear. I just didn't want to invite certain people and I didn't want them to know I invited others. Sad to say, I guess it goes with the wedding planning territory...

  
  

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• ralbro member

  

  January 2012

  I totally hear you!! I changed my FB status waaayyy back in the day, and have been very careful not to mention the venue, date, etc. I've posted about my fitting, and rehearsal dinner venue woes, but have tried really hard not to mention it too much. Obviously your other "mutual friends" aren't close enough to be invited, so if they did take offense for some weird reason I wouldn't stress too much about it. ;-) You can always use the "budget" response if someone actually says something to you about it! It's your wedding and most people understand that you can't invite everyone you've ever known. 

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  January 2012

  Yea, I could see how that could create tension.

  
  

  I've posted generic planning complaints, and I did post the date back when we first set it, but nothing about invites going out or anything.

  Lucky for me, the people who have gotten invites and had questions or comments have had the good sense to call, text, or email and keep it off FB!

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• cmac3504

  

  January 2012

  Yikes.. yeah I use theknot the post all of my comments because there are several people I felt bad about not inviting... but that really sucks about your friend.  Oh well... damage is done and hopefully that's it!!

  

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• adrienne0925

  

  January 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_march-2012-weddings_wedding-fb-gripe?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:955e4823-0be1-44ef-9ee7-99a63794e103Discussion:47802a9b-057d-488e-b427-2b9c6ae1021cPost:a542d17a-4322-4ad6-ba3e-3a16f723b7b0">wedding fb gripe</a>:
  [QUOTE]I have never mentioned my wedding on facebook, other than the updated status change to "engaged". I don't talk wedding at work, unless it's private conversation with someone who is invited. We'd love to invite everyone, but just can't. I'm sure everyone here understands that. Sent out our wedding invites at the beginning of January. Responses are starting to come back (yay!). A good friend from back home has to post (on my wall) that she received her invite and how pretty it was. I love that she got it, and love that she likes the invite. But, crap....we have like 20 mutual friends!!! Only 1 other person from our "mutual" friends was invited. It just bothers me. The post has been up for some time since I hadn't checked in a while, so who knows who saw it. I know *most* people will understand. But why do people have to say stuff on facebook...especially somewhere where others can read it. I double checked our mutual friends and yeah, there might be hurt feelings if any of them saw the post. :( Oh well...nothing to do now. Just wanted to complain!
  Posted by angelfish10[/QUOTE]
  
  Not to be harsh, but I think you can delete her wall post. That way people can't see it.  Then send her a PM on FB to let her know the deal! :)

  

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• elidellio member

  

  January 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_march-2012-weddings_wedding-fb-gripe?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:955e4823-0be1-44ef-9ee7-99a63794e103Discussion:47802a9b-057d-488e-b427-2b9c6ae1021cPost:7a12b817-d866-434b-8ae7-26a3cba060c2">Re: wedding fb gripe</a>:
  [QUOTE]In Response to wedding fb gripe : Not to be harsh, but I think you can delete her wall post. That way people can't see it.  Then send her a PM on FB to let her know the deal! :)
  Posted by adrienne0925[/QUOTE]
  
  <div>This!! Honestly I would never think about it being a bad thing to post that to someone's wall. I understand why it is in this case but I'm sure her feelings wouldn't be hurt if you explain why you had to remove it. It probably just never crossed her mind.</div>

  
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• brittandjp member

  

  January 2012

  People have posted on my wall about my invites. I've made wedding related updates, including those that relate to the day (for example, we officially have 50 days left as of today and I posted about it). I don't do it daily, but every once in a while. Honestly, I have over 300 friends on fb, if everyone thinks they're invited, it's just not realistic. I invited the people that are closest to me. I had a couple people defriend me (how old are we again?!), but it honestly doesn't really bother me. If they were getting married tomorrow and I wasn't invited, I wouldn't be offended unless it was a really good and close friend.
  
  Try to to let it get to you and if it does, like PPs said, just delete it and send her a little message explaining why although she probably won't even notice.
  

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