I have had posts on TheKnot about my MOH and I wish, oh how I wish I thought this through, but never did I imagine my MOH turning out like this.
I have chosen the bridesmaids dresses and everyone was on board. The BM tried on the dresses in November, and I asked the associate how long they tippically take to get them. I was told 8 weeks. So I told the BM's that they should buy them in January as soon as possible to prevent any kind of hold up. The associate also told us if we order early enough we won't have a problem, but if it's a popular dress it could take 12 weeks.
It's now the beginning of January, and I took my younger sister in to get her junior BM's dress. I felt I liked that one better, so I told the girls about the dress. It's cheaper (which works with everyone's budget) but it's a 12 week order meaning they will have to order it now because it won't be here until the middle of April.
I have helped my JBM and my sister, who is a BM, financially because I know they don't have the money. So I know they will have their dresses on time.
My MOH and my other BM, however, are another story. My MOH is also engaged and is planning to get married in August (side note: she's still legally married to her first husband so I don't know if she'll be able to get married in August) and decided that it was more important to put money down on her own wedding dress and not her MOH dress. I feel that it's a huge slap in the face considering my wedding is just a short while away and she needs her dress, and yet she tells me she doesn't have the money for it. My other BM is also causing me some unneeded stress. She has told me that she is having some financial issues, and I'm understanding, until I find out that with the money she could be using towards a dress is going towards a new tattoo. So to me, it seems like they have their priorities a little mixed up.
So do I tell them, if they don't get their dresses in time, they are out of the wedding? I've been under so much pressure, my MOH hasn't helped me at all with the wedding planning even though I have asked her numberous times. And she's planning my Bridal Shower, but won't clue me in on anything she is doing. I don't like that, I have lots of family coming in from out of town and I need to know where it's going to be, what time, etc. so I can have them plan accordingly. HELP!! And I just crazy and this happens to everyone??