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Yet another invite question

MmorayMmoray member
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I'm working on save-the-date's, and just wanted to double check that this is all happening correctly.. 

Overall, I'm trying to avoid the Mr., Mrs., etc. titles because they seem unnecessary, so most will be addressed as "Jane and John Smith."

However, I have one couple where the husband is a doctor, so I'm guessing that one should be to "Mrs. Jane and Dr. John Smith"? 

Also, another random thing. For single people (or my widowed grandmother for example) my mother wants me to include middle initials on the address. Like instead of "Jane Smith," she would prefer "Jane E. Smith." Any opinions on this? 

One last thing.. As far as families with children who are invited, is there any particularly "right" way to deal with the "and family" part? Like, if the invitation is for Jane and John as well as their child James, would the address line read "Jane and John Smith & Family" or "Jane and John Smith and Family" (all on the same line) or just go whole hog and say "Jane and John Smith" and on the next line "James Smith." Or something completely different? James is an only child and a 6-year-old if that matters.

Thanks! This process is annoying beyond compare! 
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Re: Yet another invite question

  • LeiselEBLeiselEB member
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    The title of Dr. is a higher title than Mrs., so it should come first. This rule trumps the ladies first rule. Dr. John Smith and Mrs. Jane Smith or simply Dr. and Mrs. John Smith
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  • MmorayMmoray member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_yet-another-invite-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:3519bf83-457c-44dc-b2c2-f9babb82f7cfPost:28e76360-b090-4a17-ae42-74f9e65f47dc">Re: Yet another invite question</a>:
    [QUOTE]You are sending "Save the dates" not invitations.  These are informal.  You do not need to list every person you will invite to your wedding.  Once you have sent them out, you MUST follow up with an invitation, so no last minute trimming of the guest list.  I would not include the childrens' names on STDs.  Save it for your invitations.  Be careful how many of these you send out!  You might need to cut your guest list later.
    Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]

    <div>We're only sending save-the-dates to OOT people and very close family, so we shouldn't really have a problems with cutting from that portion of the guest list. Thanks for the advice though.  :)</div><div>
    </div><div>Also, we're basically have a child-free wedding. The only children we're planning on inviting are three cousins of mine (ages 6, 13, and 16), so they're our only "and family" situation. Is there any reason you're against listing the children's names on the STDs other than last minute trimming? </div>
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  • MmorayMmoray member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_yet-another-invite-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:3519bf83-457c-44dc-b2c2-f9babb82f7cfPost:28e76360-b090-4a17-ae42-74f9e65f47dc">Re: Yet another invite question</a>:
    [QUOTE]You are sending "Save the dates" not invitations.  These are informal.  You do not need to list every person you will invite to your wedding.  Once you have sent them out, you MUST follow up with an invitation, so no last minute trimming of the guest list.  I would not include the childrens' names on STDs.  Save it for your invitations.  Be careful how many of these you send out!  You might need to cut your guest list later.
    Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]

    <div>We're only sending save-the-dates to OOT people and very close family, so we shouldn't really have a problems with cutting from that portion of the guest list. Thanks for the advice though.  :)</div><div>
    </div><div>Also, we're basically have a child-free wedding. The only children we're planning on inviting are three cousins of mine (ages 6, 13, and 16), so they're our only "and family" situation. Is there any reason you're against listing the children's names on the STDs other than last minute trimming? </div>
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