I'm New and didn't read all of the stickys before commenting on a post.

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• thejucheidea member

  

  January 2013 edited January 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2013-weddings_im-new-and-didnt-read-all-of-the-stickys-before-commenting-on-a-post?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:1925524f-fa8b-432f-a7b5-be486ce756efDiscussion:f35a9da8-d3dc-486e-83c8-77e25693682ePost:f538ccb7-122f-4d05-b9cf-68690bc49888">I'm New and didn't read all of the stickys before commenting on a post.</a>:
  [QUOTE]State of Relationship: Almost Engaged
  Posted by Zealous01[/QUOTE]
  Yeah... you need to be on the Not Engaged Yet boards, not a month board. I recommend going over to NEY instead of staying here.

  
  

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• Stina51286 member

  

  January 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2013-weddings_im-new-and-didnt-read-all-of-the-stickys-before-commenting-on-a-post?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:1925524f-fa8b-432f-a7b5-be486ce756efDiscussion:f35a9da8-d3dc-486e-83c8-77e25693682ePost:f538ccb7-122f-4d05-b9cf-68690bc49888">I'm New and didn't read all of the stickys before commenting on a post.</a>:
  [QUOTE]Screen Name: Zealous01 Age: 34 Significant Other's Age: 31 What You Do: Legal Administrator What SO Does: Consultant for Small Businesses State of Relationship: <strong>Almost Engaged</strong> How Long You've Been Together: A little over a year How You Met: at a party Wedding Date (if you're engaged/married): Oct. 11 or April 2014 (aiming for October) Real Babies: nada Fur Babies: nada Loves: color red, sunsets, mountains, Hates: color pink, not nice people Pet Peeves: biting your nails Hobbies/Activities: Music, Reading, Favorite Thing About Your SO: I can be silly with him Least Favorite Thing About Your SO: not sure Describe Your Personality: eclectic and outgoing Snark Level (1 [low snark] - 10 [high snark]): 6 I've Been On TK Since: December can't remember How You Came to Be On TK: Looking for ideas How I like my potatoes: baked or mashed with bacon, butter, chedder cheese, salt and pepper with chives. Favorite book/author: Nora Roberts Tell Us Something Interesting About Yourself: I have 9 siblings.
  Posted by Zealous01[/QUOTE]
  
  Explain what this means please.

   

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• 09McSteph03 member

  

  January 2013

  Stina - Dar, it means a wedding is being planned for October and as soon as the SO finds out they will be engaged

  S'mores. Just S'mores please.

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• Stina51286 member

  

  January 2013

  OP, taken from the NEY Board:
  
  Be aware that many of the posters on this board do NOT encourage planning a wedding before you consider yourself engaged.
  
  What constitutes planning? Researching venues, vendors, or flowers. Picking colors, wedding party attire, or your wedding dress. Making down payments.
  
  It's okay to spot something you like while idly browsing the knot ONCE IN A WHILE and bookmark it with the thought of "someday maybe." It’s even ok to have an occasional conversation with your SO about what you might like to have someday in reference to your wedding. It's not okay to spend a large amount of your free time poring over, for example, flower arrangements, with the idea of "saving time later" by picking out exactly what you want NOW. See the difference?
  
  There are a variety of common reasons regs cite as to why "pre-planning" is not a good idea:
  
  -Because it doesn't make sense to plan an event that you don't yet absolutely positively know IS happening.
  
  -Because no one needs a year to plan a wedding. No one. We really, REALLY don't like to hear "I'm a planner, so..."
  
  -Because by skipping ahead, you're living in the future instead of the present. You're denying yourself a wonderful experience -- the excitement and anticipation of looking forward to something that will only happen once -- a proposal. Once it's over, it's over, and you can never look forward to it again. Enjoy it while you can.
  
  -Also, consider that you're not giving your BF or his proposal their due by skipping ahead of them.

  -Your tastes, preferences, budget, desired location can change in a week, a month, a year. They can also change once you take into account what your SO wants, or what the people that might be contributing funds to the event want.
  
  -The personal experience of many of the married posters on this board is that wedding planning WILL GET OLD and that you are better off saving your excitement and energy for when it comes time to pick a date and start booking venues and vendors.

   

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• Ro041 member

  

  January 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2013-weddings_im-new-and-didnt-read-all-of-the-stickys-before-commenting-on-a-post?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:1925524f-fa8b-432f-a7b5-be486ce756efDiscussion:f35a9da8-d3dc-486e-83c8-77e25693682ePost:b88b5dba-cf00-4efb-9dcf-632eb1a4e44c">Re: I'm New and didn't read all of the stickys before commenting on a post.</a>:
  [QUOTE]Stina - Dar, it means a wedding is being planned for October and as soon as the SO finds out they will be engaged ;)
  Posted by 09McSteph03[/QUOTE]
  
  <div>That's not what it means.  She said she is aiming for Oct 11 or April 2014.  There is no engagement or date set.  That is the kind of weird s*!t that keeps the wedding industry afloat ("almost engaged" women buying bridal magazines and planning their weddings before they are engaged).  </div>

  
  

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• Stina51286 member

  

  January 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2013-weddings_im-new-and-didnt-read-all-of-the-stickys-before-commenting-on-a-post?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:1925524f-fa8b-432f-a7b5-be486ce756efDiscussion:f35a9da8-d3dc-486e-83c8-77e25693682ePost:9a71c26d-7518-4052-8ceb-39e1725036e8">Re: I'm New and didn't read all of the stickys before commenting on a post.</a>:
  [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I'm New and didn't read all of the stickys before commenting on a post. : That's not what it means.  She said she is aiming for Oct 11 or April 2014.  There is no engagement or date set.  That is the kind of weird s*!t that keeps the wedding industry afloat ("almost engaged" women buying bridal magazines and planning their weddings before they are engaged).  
  Posted by Rochelle041[/QUOTE]
  
  She's getting an engagement pony OMG!!!

   

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• 09McSteph03 member

  

  January 2013

  Rochelle, I was just making a small joke.  I know what it means, just found the "almost engaged but had a date in mind" thing funny.  As if maybe the planning would help an engagement along.  That was all.

  S'mores. Just S'mores please.

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• Stina51286 member

  

  January 2013

  You know OP, this is just darn rude. You have a snotty title, you tell us you're "almost engaged" and then you don't come back. WTF.

   

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• dewingedpixie member

  

  January 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2013-weddings_im-new-and-didnt-read-all-of-the-stickys-before-commenting-on-a-post?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:1925524f-fa8b-432f-a7b5-be486ce756efDiscussion:f35a9da8-d3dc-486e-83c8-77e25693682ePost:b9572603-4b7e-44b1-a711-0737c6beb139">Re: I'm New and didn't read all of the stickys before commenting on a post.</a>:
  [QUOTE]You know OP, this is just darn rude. You have a snotty title, you tell us you're "almost engaged" and then you don't come back. WTF.
  Posted by Stina51286[/QUOTE]
  
  You = Awesome :D

  

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• Ro041 member

  

  January 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2013-weddings_im-new-and-didnt-read-all-of-the-stickys-before-commenting-on-a-post?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:1925524f-fa8b-432f-a7b5-be486ce756efDiscussion:f35a9da8-d3dc-486e-83c8-77e25693682ePost:392d0ff4-1a8e-4887-81c4-b32208ba4655">Re: I'm New and didn't read all of the stickys before commenting on a post.</a>:
  [QUOTE]Rochelle, I was just making a small joke.  I know what it means, just found the "almost engaged but had a date in mind" thing funny.  As if maybe the planning would help an engagement along.  That was all.
  Posted by 09McSteph03[/QUOTE]
  
  <div>Ha!  I compltely read a different tone in your response.  My bad.  :)</div>

  
  

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• 09McSteph03 member

  

  January 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2013-weddings_im-new-and-didnt-read-all-of-the-stickys-before-commenting-on-a-post?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:1925524f-fa8b-432f-a7b5-be486ce756efDiscussion:f35a9da8-d3dc-486e-83c8-77e25693682ePost:5bf09cdf-de0d-4a84-9732-41a1c915fae8">Re: I'm New and didn't read all of the stickys before commenting on a post.</a>:
  [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I'm New and didn't read all of the stickys before commenting on a post. : Ha!  I compltely read a different tone in your response.  My bad.  :)
  Posted by Rochelle041[/QUOTE]
  
  <div>It's aaall good lady.  I realize things totally come across differently depending on my mood when I type/speak/read/listen.  Glad I didn't offend.  </div><div>
  </div><div>I too am still wanting to see what makes someone consider themselves "almost engaged".  I was with my FI for over 5 years.  When should I have been calling us almost engaged?  I wasn't planning my wedding till he asked so that MAY be the difference but I am just wondering.  I could have friends that are almost engaged and I may almost be a bridesmaid.  </div>

  S'mores. Just S'mores please.

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• Stina51286 member

  

  January 2013

  SQUEE You're Almost going to be a bridesmaid!!!!! Yay Congrats!

   

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• Zealous01 member

  

  January 2013

  Thanks Ladies.  I've been a member of the Knot since 2006, never commented on a post EVER. I commented on another post and realized that I hadn't followed the rules that the facilitator requested. That is the only reason for this post.  I'll keep reading comments and questions like I have been doing for the past few months, since my SO and I celebrated our anniversary.  Do I believe that wedding planning should take a year or longer, no. Do I believe in doing research, yes. It's the nerd in me.  And I'm partly nosey.  I like to see what works for people and what may not work. As far as changing my mind...I found my wedding dress in 2006, no fiance,SO, no nothing. Saw it and fell in love. So much that I vowed that if my grandmother had to remake it because it was discontinued, then so be it. Pretty stubborn person when it comes to what I like.  With that being said, I will go over to the NEY forum and peruse there.  All the best in your  planning for your big day.

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