The following post is something I needed to get out of my system. I apologize if it's in the wrong section, but I havta say...I hate being forceful on people...
There is this mutual aqquaintance of mine that has been for the past few months trying to get involved in my wedding planning, and even at one point insisted that she be a bridesmaid because the dress she wanted me to pick for the BMs looked best on her...and yes, I had done the "Oh, I know what I'm looking for but thank you." kind of thing...or just randomly change the subject on her...but a few days ago, I finally had enough.
The other day she kept mentioning my wedding plans to our mutual friends...while we were at ANOTHER bride's wedding. I thought that was rude...so rather than make a scene, I casually said "Hey I'm gonna go fix my makeup wanna come?" and she followed me in the rest room. There, I told her the following:
"Look, I know how excited you are about my wedding, but two things: 1) Let's focus on the Bride. this is HER special day, not mine...I think people will find it rude if they hear talk of someone ELSE's wedding that isn't happening yet...Second, the wedding isn't for another year, and I have so much on my plate right now with work and family, I'm putting the wedding on the back burner...but I appreciate your opinions..but for now, let's talk about something else."
She said she understood, but she looked rather mad at me...I stood by what I said, and that was final. I didn't want to be the mean person, but she has been annoying me for so long I just coildn't take it anymore.
Was I too harsh? Or should I have been harsher?