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Gift Registry

galvan.ericagalvan.erica
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My fiance and I just got engaged and bought a house.  We received a lot of great gifts for Christmas and have already bought a lot of the things you would traditionally register for.  I was wondering if there would be a polite way to let people know that we don't really need gifts but instead money or gift cards that we can put towards fixing up the house.  I know that it would be completely rude to ask for money... but is there a way to avoid getting a bunch of things that we don't really need???

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  • TurtlesAllTheWayDownTurtlesAllTheWayDown member
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    People are smart enough to know that cash and gift cards are always a welcome gift. But some people don't feel comfortable giving them. So register for a few small upgrades, like nicer towels. That way people who really want to give you a physical gift will have some direction.

    And you can't bring up your registry or gifts at all in conversation or in wedding correspondance. Wait for people to ask you (or your family). The appropriate response is, "We have a small registry at Sears, but we are also saving for some home improvements."
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  • Galaxy8227Galaxy8227
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    I agree setting up a registry at like a home depot or sears would help with home improvement costs.  Otherwise word of mouth is really the only way to go.

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  • ohwhynotohwhynot member
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    We are not registering at all, mostly because this is not my first wedding, we have a home together, and even if those things weren't true I am not a fan of registering (I know that's an unpopular position, though). 

    Even if we have a lot of "unwanted" gifts, I'd rather deal with that than seem gift-grabby in any way.  Your moms will get asked what you want, and if they say that could use really use a cash gift, that should go a long way toward accomplishing your goal. 
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