we are having a small ceremony in mexico next june and having a bigger reception at home soon afterwards. really, i would prefer not to register for gifts and make it clear that attedance is present enough. but my fiance made the point that there will be family members and friends who will want to purchase a gift no matter what we say and why make it hard for them by turning it into a guessing game.
what would you think of this as a guest if you weren't invited to the ceremony, but you were invited to the reception and there was a gift registry? keep in mind that those attending the ceremony are super close to us and we don't feel uncomfortable telling them not to get us anything. would it be extra sketchy if we had the option for either a gift registry or making a donation to a charitable organization special to us? thanks for any advice.