Creative Alternative for clanging on glasses

lwogsland · February 2010

Hi all,
Looking for some creative alternatives you've seen at weddings to prevent the clanging on glasses during the reception to get the bride and groom to kiss..
I've seen the dj announcing that people would have to stand up sing a song with the word love in, i've seen a fishing reel casting contest (if u got it on one try, they kissed), i've also seen where a donation to charity got you a kiss (no interest in doing).
Anyone seen anything fun/unique? We really have a fun spirited crowd, so open to pretty much anything.

charlsie26 · February 2010

That seems childish to me. It would seem to me that I'm at a birthday party instead of a wedding. Keep it classy and just kiss...IMHO.

I <3 Seabass · February 2010

I've never seen anything other than clinking glasses. Those other ideas seem a little convoluted to me and like they would be a disruption in the flow of the reception.

trix1223 · February 2010

I think that all of the suggested ideas would interrupt the flow of your reception. The idea of intoxicated people standing up and bellowing a song with the word love in it isn't appealing at all~and can conceivably get raunchy.

Sport contests just seem carnival-ish to me.

If you want to kiss your new DH, just kiss him. You know you don't have to wait for a cue, right?

And honestly, at every recent wedding I've been to, including my childrens', people have clinked glasses once or twice and then it was over. Be a good sport and kiss the first time. If it happens again, tell people that this is the last one. And then don't respond anymore. It will end.

But don't put in anything else that's even more annoying.

lwogsland · February 2010

Ok, no offense guys..but I'm asking for ideas here..not criticism nor encouragement to not do it. Thanks but please, I'm only looking for ideas..so that's all I'd like to recieve. The glass clanging does get out of hand, every wedding I've been to where there isn't some other fun setup..it does get out of hand. So any ideas, I'm interested in..

country_girl0118 · February 2010

how about you buy little bells... when the guests want you to kiss they can ring their little bells. plus you could tie a cute tag around them with your names the wedding date etc and then they can be a favor for your guests. plus it's kind of charming, you know 'wedding bells ringing' etc. here's a couple cute ones i just found. good luck!

http://www.weddingaccessories.net/-strse-1672/silver-wedding-bell-favors/Detail.bok

http://www.goodthingsweddingfavors.com/product.php?productid=16703

(Sorry i would have made a hyperlink but the stupid tool isn't working)

lwogsland · February 2010

thanks! i like that idea! and then no glassware would get broke by crazy glass clangers

country_girl0118 · February 2010

no problem, i'm glad i could help. i agree about the glass clanging thing too, its a little bit of a strange tradition, and i have no clue how it originated... it's so frustrating when you need ideas and posters on here only want to criticise your vision. a similar thing happened to me recently. i posted a message on the reception ideas board about needing entertainment ideas for my cocktail hour other than food and drinking and nobody has given me any ideas, only critiques about my vision.

GardnerInTraining · February 2010

If you look on Brides.com under "winter weddings" and then "favors," they show really great ideas for bell favors that might be perfect (like country_girl011 suggested). Ironically, I saw them right before I came to this message board. They'd be perfect for ANY theme wedding. Good luck!

cheadle_c · February 2010

Be careful with the bells, Where I live that is what most brides do and I have found it to get very overwhelming, children running around with the bells constantly. I was personally debating the two and felt that the glasses would be better. Just a thought if you are having children attend the reception. most parents dont let their child run around with a glass ya know.

trix1223 · February 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_creative-alternative-clanging-glasses?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:5Discussion:b25213ee-cd08-4784-8ef2-7e8f9b89dd69Post:b9af49ec-1397-4754-8335-7005387faba0">Re: Creative Alternative for clanging on glasses</a>:
[QUOTE]Ok, no offense guys..but I'm asking for ideas here..not criticism nor encouragement to not do it. Thanks but please, I'm only looking for ideas..so that's all I'd like to recieve. The glass clanging does get out of hand, every wedding I've been to where there isn't some other fun setup..it does get out of hand. So any ideas, I'm interested in..
Posted by lwogsland[/QUOTE]

You asked for alternatives. And you were given alternatives. And that alternative was to do nothing.

You put a question out on a public board, and you'll get opinions and suggestions. And often, those opinions were something that didn't even cross your mind and it gives you a new perspective.

The people answering here are brides planning their weddings, but also women who have had their weddings, and can give you the perspective on things that seem to matter SO much before a wedding. But after the wedding they realize that it didn't matter at all, and didn't add or detract from their experience.

mbcdefg · February 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_creative-alternative-clanging-glasses?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:5Discussion:b25213ee-cd08-4784-8ef2-7e8f9b89dd69Post:a3c06ffc-71b7-4a9c-9c0e-1780900a0a4d">Re: Creative Alternative for clanging on glasses</a>:
[QUOTE]no problem, i'm glad i could help. i agree about the glass clanging thing too, its a little bit of a strange tradition, and i have no clue how it originated... it's so frustrating when you need ideas and posters on here only want to criticise your vision. a similar thing happened to me recently. i posted a message on the reception ideas board about needing entertainment ideas for my cocktail hour other than food and drinking and nobody has given me any ideas, only critiques about my vision.
Posted by country_girl0118[/QUOTE]

That's because having a cocktail hour without food is a really horrible idea.

brinkman17 · February 2010

I've seen a twist on the clanking and kisssing. At a couple weddings I've been to, when people clanked the glasses the first time the couple kisses, and then gives directions for the next clanking. The directions are that every time glasses are clanked they will draw a name of guests who will have to kiss.

MyNameIsNot · February 2010

Singing, fishing, bells, etc are just annoying and get on people's nerves. They ruin the flow of the party. You don't need a cue to kiss your husband. Kiss him if you want to. Everyone will be looking at you all night anyway. You don't need a cheesy gimick to get them to look at you more.

You got some excellent advice. That's the thing about this board. You may not get exactly what you are asking for, but you will get honest responses. We're going to say the same things your guests are thinking. If you don't want honest info and only want people to say what you tell them to, the internet is not the place for you.

country_girl0118 · February 2010

are you stalking me or something? you have a negative comment to everything i say on several things I have posted on multiple boards. please stop harassing me, my opinions are just as valid as yours.

country_girl0118 · February 2010

that comment was meant for mbcdefg, sorry i don't know how yet to send it to just one particular message.

felicia220 · February 2010

My FI and I were just recently at a wedding and they did the whole glass thing...it wasn't too bad actually. I have been some weddings where they do it every two mins which can be crazy, so i understand where you are coming from. But what about Bubbles. You could put those little wedding bottle bubbles on the tables and when you start to see the room fill up you know its time to smooch! It is nothing I have ever seen before but I think it would be really cute and make some really good pictures of the reception. (Without being disruptive) You could put a little note on it to to explain what they are for. Just a thought.

Wow, I might even do this, after thinking about it....haha

lwogsland · February 2010

That sounds really good..yeah, i've seen it where it got crazy out of hand...and some drunks broke glasses, etc.. i dont see my crowd breaking stuff..but it's a huge crowd..and could get out of hand. bubbles would be fun..and the kids would probably get a kick out of that too..as long as they didnt get in the food.!

emilyinchile · February 2010

More than being silly/interupting the flow of the wedding (which I also see happening), I just don't think people would necessarily NOT clink glasses just because you set up some other idea. It's tradition, they're going to clink. You'd only be adding something, not preventing clinking. I personally wouldn't remember that the DJ had told me I was supposed to do something else, or if I did I'd think it was silly and do the more typical, traditional thing.

mbcdefg · February 2010

I don't think you know what the word "harassing" means. Commenting to posts on a public message board is not "harassment." It's not "harassment" just because you don't like people shooting down your precious "vision." If you don't want to accept opinions, then don't post the question in the first place, and especially don't whine that you didn't get your desired answers and complain that people are stalking you because of it. Take it like an adult.

Anyway, OP, if people want to clink glasses then they'll probably do it no matter what else you provide them with. My vote is to not do anything alternative, because I personally find those things annoying (plus buying bells, or whatever you'd be buying, just eats up more of your budget). And like PPs said, activities and stopping to explain said activities can really interrupt the flow of the party.

If you really want to do something particular, go ahead and do it, but I personally wouldn't not try and think something up just for the heck of it.

felicia220 · February 2010

Glad you liked it! And it would be great for kids. Oh and so what if you get a few bubbles in the food....haha....what adult hasn't tasted bubbles as a child...j/k

I think it will be a lot of fun. If you do decide to do it and you get some pictures of it, would you mind PM them to me. I would really love to see how it looks.

Good Luck!

felicia220 · February 2010

Oh and of course if I do it, I will send pics your way as well!

Sorry- just realized I didn't say that in the post...haha

loverika · February 2010

I would say just let people clink. They are going to do it anyway.

gailpete · February 2010

Although bubbles sound fun, another thing to consider is that as the bubbles hit the ground they will leave a slippery sheen on the dance floor. This could lead to an accident you wouldn't want to have happen.

esten013 · February 2010

my friends had a cash/donation jar and each donation got the bride and groom to kiss. They also gave us the option of demonstrating a kiss (the type of kiss they want the bride and groom to do) in front of everyone. It was fun, watching the cute couples besides the bride and groom kiss, her brother and wife, mom and dad and an aunt and uncle did it. If you have a fun group, it could be silly and entertaining! good luck

esten013 · February 2010

my friends had a cash/donation jar and each donation got the bride and groom to kiss. They also gave us the option of demonstrating a kiss (the type of kiss they want the bride and groom to do) in front of everyone. It was fun, watching the cute couples besides the bride and groom kiss, her brother and wife, mom and dad and an aunt and uncle did it. If you have a fun group, it could be silly and entertaining! good luck

cwilt · February 2010

I've been at several weddings recently where someone had to tell a story about either the bride or groom to get them to kiss. If the people know you well and you trust them, I think that's kind of cute.
By the way... I LOVE the hersey kiss idea! Sooo cute! (I think I may steal that one)

trix1223 · February 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_creative-alternative-clanging-glasses?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:5Discussion:b25213ee-cd08-4784-8ef2-7e8f9b89dd69Post:03fbc35b-4112-4229-9c72-11e9f54131d8">Re: Creative Alternative for clanging on glasses</a>:
[QUOTE]I have two suggestions for you! 2) We were at a wedding where there were two big fuzzy dice on the dance floor, and the DJ would call up a girl and a guy and have them roll the dice. If the result was a 7 or 11, the bride & groom kissed. Any other number, the two people called up had to kiss. My fiance and I met that way! We were both called up by a DJ at a wedding (it was a set up by the bride & groom of that wedding).
Posted by eatdrinkandmarrymary[/QUOTE]

I don't think so......I would certainly NOT kiss some random person in front of a full room of wedding guests.

MyNameIsNot · February 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_creative-alternative-clanging-glasses?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:5Discussion:b25213ee-cd08-4784-8ef2-7e8f9b89dd69Post:03fbc35b-4112-4229-9c72-11e9f54131d8">Re: Creative Alternative for clanging on glasses</a>:
[QUOTE]I have two suggestions for you! 1) Have a big vase/urn of Hershey's Kisses up at the head table - some silver, some gold. Anyone who wants you to kiss can come up and draw a Hershey's Kiss out of the urn, and if it's gold, the bride & groom kiss. If it's silver, the person has to go kiss someone themself! 2) We were at a wedding where there were two big fuzzy dice on the dance floor, and the DJ would call up a girl and a guy and have them roll the dice. If the result was a 7 or 11, the bride & groom kissed. Any other number, the two people called up had to kiss. My fiance and I met that way! We were both called up by a DJ at a wedding (it was a set up by the bride & groom of that wedding).
Posted by eatdrinkandmarrymary[/QUOTE]

These are just variations of Spin the Bottle.

Klassy.

Zoey81 · February 2010

I've been to a lot of weddings lately and here's what I've seen....

swirling/waving napkins in the air

donating $ to charity -- the grooms mother died while they were planning their wedding so they set up a donation box and all $ went to cancer

trivia Q's -- guests drew a Q about the couple and if they got it right the bride and groom kissed

singing songs

....and that's all I can think of now -- the napkin thing is quite popular.

emilyinchile · February 2010

Don't make your wedding into a weird version of spin the bottle, and don't ask for money from your guests. I still say just let them clink, but any of the other corny ideas are better than those two which are just plain rude!

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