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Wedding Etiquette Forum
ambermillion
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Music Conflict. Please Help!
My FI hired a DJ for the entirety of our reception [dinner and dancing]. Hes trying to choose all the music AND he wants his buddies and himself to play live music on the side. I know he is really into music but i cant make him see that hes taking over the dj's job!
also, when i say he wants to play live with his buddies, i mean he has a set list of about 10 songs to play. none of them special to "us". i dont know if this is weird, ive been told it will be rude to our guests to have his band showcased throughout the reception and i am also being slightly selfish in the thought of...its OUR wedding, not friday night at the bar with the guys!!
am i wrong in thinking all of this?
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Re: Music Conflict. Please Help!
However, if you want to choose some of the songs for the dj to play and your fi isn't letting you, you have a bigger problem than the music. Talk to your fi and get on the same page. Surely, there must be a compromise you can reach - this isn't an unfixable situation.
Anyway, Amber, as far as your FI picking the music for the DJ, that is normal and totally fine. Most couples will tell the DJ what songs they want played or don't want played, so don't worry about that. Just make sure you get a say too if there are certain songs you want to hear.
As far as him playing with his band, I would try to come to a compromise where maybe they just play 3 or 4 songs while the DJ takes a break and that's it.
If you are worried that he won't get to spend the time with you during the reception, talk to him about it.
Just want to echo: you gotta talk to him about it and settle on a compromise. It's awesome that this is so important to him but he needs to think about your feelings too, and you guys need to meet each other halfway.