My FI is a BM in an upcoming wedding (June). I seriously, want to call the Groom up and be like, "Y'all should read the wedding party section on TK...cause, you're a Groomzilla." Let me start off by saying the wedding is in Central PA and we live in Brooklyn, all other GM live in PA.
Last week, he called FI to complain that the other guys haven't gotten their tuxes fitted yet, and it was FI's responsibility to make sure they all did it. FI did email all of the guys telling them where the location of the rental place was and what the deadline was for getting measured. He even gave them explicit instructions for submitting their own measurements online if they wanted. The deadline? Is 3 weeks away, but clearly, it's time to call your BM and yell at him for the other groomsmens' behavior.
...fine...fine...he is questioning the reliability of his other GMs and doesn't trust them, let's give him that.
THIS WEEK, he called to ask the status of HIS BACHELOR PARTY! "Have you planned it? What are we doing? Where are we going? Do you have reservations yet? You need to make sure everyone can come! I'm going to be so pissed if it sucks. I want to go to this (five star) restaurant and I don't want to pay for it, it's my bachelor party. I want a hotel room in AC or I want to go to one of the nice Philly strip clubs. You should just tell B that you're coming down for a long weekend." .... I could care less if FI goes to PA for a long weekend and I could care less about what strip clubs he is going to. So, thanks for bringing me into that one, Groom. But...really? He stressed my FI soooo much. FI was trying to get opening game day tickets to the Philly's for him and all of his GMs and then go out to dinner and stay in Philadelphia and go to a strip club or whatever. A plan that, IMHO, is very thoughtful. FI was crushed because this d-bag basically destroyed all of his plans with 'that's not good enough, i want the world, and this is how it better be done'
....jerk. Fine, whatever. He's getting what he wants. FI just doesn't care anymore. but THEN! THIS MORNING!
FI forwards me this email (and please tell me if you ever heard of this "tradition")
Hey Sl*t (yes, that's how he addresses his BM, really flippin' mature right?)
I wanted to give you a heads up about the $200 you have to pay for the officiant. It's tradition that the best man pays. We need to pay it now, so I'll just spot you and you can pay me back.
I'm out.
(explative deleted)
WHAT?! WHAT? WHAT!?!
Ok, I'm done. No...I'm not, this guy assumeshe is going to be FI's BM. Ugh. He has another thing coming.
OK. I'm done. Now, the question I pose to you Knotties is: is this a real "tradition" is my FI supposed to pay for the pastor?I googled it and I saw that the BM is traditionally supposed to go to the church after the ceremony and drop it off for the couple so that they can get to their guests, but...since they apparently have to pay 2 months in advance, I guess that tradition isn't applicable.