I dont want to do the candle, or the sand. I do want to do SOMETHING thouh involving our mothers, and then us. I was thinking, since we are both wine lovers, to have the mothers each carry a small glass of wine up, with a bigger glass in the middle. Then during the music or whatever, we would pour the wine together into the big glass, and each take a drink. does this sound stupid? I just want something a little different!