so FREAKING annoyed {BEWARE IT'S LONG}

A&M_Abyss · April 2011

ARRRRRRRRRRRRRGHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

A&M_Abyss · April 2011

i have 8 bms in my wedding. truly capable women that have known they were in my wedding since LAST MAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Why oh why is my bachelorette party NOT PLANNED yet???? My sister is my MOH, she is 9yrs my elder and doesn't have time for the caddy foolishness that some women my age {29} brings! She has been bending over backwards to try and appease the masses for my shower and my bach party! To the point where no one was feeling her ideas, or b*tched that it was too much, so in a nutshell she threw in the towel on my bach party and relinquished control to another bm for help b/c her and my mom are busting their hump to pull my shower off without a hitch!

Why is it that my MOH doesn't even know when my bach party is and I DO???? Like really????????? C'mon! GET WITH IT MAN! I am so disappointed and now that my sisters has pretty much told me "i know these girls are your friends, but they haven't done a thing for your shower nor the bach party and i'm very dissappointed b/c i had such high expectations from them" i'm at a loss for words! They all hype it up like THEY are the ones doing things but in reality they're NOT! I am so disappointed, I am regretting having such a large bp. I didn't need to deal with ALL OF THIS.

I am so annoyed ladies! LIKE these women KNOW HOW I AM and i've had enought DRAMA kicking out a bm that i've been friends with for 22yrs and now that the bad seed is out there is still confusion! My bach party is in June so why do the bm's not know this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

GTFOHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

#IMREALLYLIVIDRIGHTNOW

sb: my sister and my fsil is planning a private bach party for my family b/c they're DONEwith my other bms not knowing WTF they want to do!

Artemis9999 · April 2011

Girl I am sooo sorry that you are having more added stress and drama. I know this is going to sound cliche but bottom line you are still going to get a Bach party with your family and probably your close friends that aren't in the bridal party. It might not be what you had dreamed about but you will still be surrounded by people who love you AND then you get to marry your fiance! It'a like a bonus! The wedding I'm planning is actually my 2nd marriage so I've been there and done that and bottom line your wedding will trump EVERYTHING else! It definitely sucks when you think that you can't depend on other people but from your BM's perspective they have other things going on and your wedding is definitely from your story at least NOT their 1st priority. Maybe just give them a call and let them all know what you were hoping for...afterall it's about YOU and making you happy. If they think your sister's ideas are whack so what! If you are happy with it that's all that matters and they should as good friends deal with it...it's one night. Maybe try putting it in perspective like that for them.

I hope it all works out but in the end it WILL.

2010Bride2be · April 2011

Please don't take this the wrong way, but why is your sister disclosing any of this information to you?

prettymami2 · April 2011

A&M I had some of the same dramas with my bridal party. I have 9 bridesmaids including the Maid and MOH. Girl same dramas but I believe they got it together now. I had to put my feelings on the table to a couple of them.

Then I had to also understand that people have lives outside of my wedding and unfortunately its not their first priority. Girl it will all work out in the end. I had to let it go myself girl. Do not feel bad. Email me at work if need be girl.

A&M_Abyss · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_freaking-annoyed-beware-its-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:2d9d2e84-d415-4947-a6aa-7ba52149d4cdPost:16ee08ae-0210-4d35-8d7d-8dfac096bcb9">Re: so FREAKING annoyed {BEWARE IT'S LONG}</a>:
[QUOTE]Please don't take this the wrong way, but why is your sister disclosing any of this information to you?
Posted by 2010Bride2be[/QUOTE]
lol i can understand how that comes off as odd lol

There has been SO MUCH drama with my bridal party that i never posted on tk about so i've known about a lot of the plans b/c some one wanted to be evil and spill the beans to me {she is no longer in the wedding}

i think my sister just vented out of pure frustration. we were having a "come to jesus" talk and it just came out i'm not mad @ her though she's my rock

2010Bride2be · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_freaking-annoyed-beware-its-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:2d9d2e84-d415-4947-a6aa-7ba52149d4cdPost:afcdd8d5-469f-46a3-a431-369bb56a5c79">Re: so FREAKING annoyed {BEWARE IT'S LONG}</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: so FREAKING annoyed {BEWARE IT'S LONG} : lol i can understand how that comes off as odd lol There has been SO MUCH drama with my bridal party that i never posted on tk about so i've known about a lot of the plans b/c some one wanted to be evil and spill the beans to me {she is no longer in the wedding} i think my sister just vented out of pure frustration. we were having a "come to jesus" talk and it just came out i'm not mad @ her though she's my rock
Posted by A&M_Abyss[/QUOTE]

That makes sense. It just sucks that you have to be pulled into the drama when this should be the happiest time of your life.

Try not to get annoyed and let it steal your joy. Hell, take my approach....'get on board or get off the wedding train'. Unfortunately, I have told several people that. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-innocent.gif" border="0" alt="Innocent" title="Innocent" />

shesheduke · April 2011

WOOOOOSA Sister I am feeling your pain today SERIOUSLY But I know just like for me it will all work out for you. Take some deep breathes and try not to let them get to you even though I know it is hard.

lil01 · April 2011

I understand why you feel the way you do. As pp said, our weddings really aren't a priority for everyone else. Thats just the way it is & I definitely had to learn that. Although our bridal party is not obligated to throw a bridal shower or bachelorette party, we kinda expect it cause we would do the same if the roles were reversed. I'm just being real.

I would just have fun with those who want to do something special for you & forget about the rest of them. Hopefully everyone can get onboard & it all works out for the best. As it was said before, your wedding is what's most important.

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