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can't see the forest through all those trees. C+P

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or maybe i am just blinded by all those red flags in the way.


So we are members of the ymca. They offer preschool starting at age 2. I received notice today that signups for Aug were going on so I read about the program and then saw the cost which right now is not feasable 112 bucks monthly. She is 2??? I was telling H about it and he got mad at me. He proceeded to yell at me that he never went to preschool and we were not sending our kids ever. He then told me just bc I went to preschool, excelled in hs, went on to get my masters doesnt mean our kids need to do the same. I just said we would argue about it when LO turns 3 or 4 but now he is yelling at me that I dont respect him and his wishes and Im going to do it whether he likes it our not and Its not like he matters. I just glared at him and said he was trying to pick a dumb fight with me over something that is a year or more away. I just want to punch him sometimes..... ugh... he is still making snippy comments, im just ignoring the immaturity of man!!!

Just curious when others plan to put your kido in preschool?

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  • GBCKGBCK member
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    112 a month?  dude, that's a steal.
    ^not the takeaway message.

    They sound like dipshits.
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  • WzzWzz member
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    i'm stuck on $112 a month, myself.
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  • tawillerstawillers member
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    ::head tilt::  What?
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  • WzzWzz member
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    i keep re-reading to find out why this is just a dumb fight.
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  • TheMrsC23TheMrsC23 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_cant-see-the-forest-through-all-those-trees-cp?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:69329e65-93e0-41cc-8bb2-2fd960364b03Post:76e6a941-d2b9-47b8-808b-bbce8b6f0e0c">Re: can't see the forest through all those trees. C+P</a>:
    [QUOTE]i'm stuck on $112 a month, myself.
    Posted by Wzz[/QUOTE]

    Yes, and that going to preschool or not being a predictor of future success.  And for someone who's so smrt, she a) has terrible spelling and grammar and b) terrible taste in husbands.
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  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    $112/mo is similar to our preschool  2 yo program.  Preschool will not make a kid smart, but it can give great tools to be better educated.  Speaking of tools, they both sound like a tool.
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  • WzzWzz member
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    it's on the toddler board. i had to respond to it.
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  • TheMrsC23TheMrsC23 member
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    What was your response? 
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  • WzzWzz member
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    http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/72638643.aspx

    i think the fact that your husband looks down on education might be a huge problem. why is doing well in school and getting an education something that should make him angry? why wouldn't he want his children to be educated? i'm not talking about preschool, but more long term.


    $112 is a major bargain, and if you can manage that amount of money, the kids might benefit from a good program. the fact that he would deny his children educaiton and sociallization is a MAJOR red flag, not just a dumb argument you wanted to pick with him. i'm actually sorry your kids have to grow up with someone who seems to celebrate ignorance.


    that said, my kid has been in daycare while i work, and he's done nothing but thrive. he needs the structure and has learned so much, so i don't regret sending him. that's just me and my H, but we want him to get a head start on a competitive education. i want him to have choices when he grows up.

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  • hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    i agree with him -- just because she got all that fancy book learnin', it don't mean nuttin and he don't want the kids to be getting all uppity.
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  • NOLABridesmaidNOLABridesmaid member
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    ^^^^^^ Love.
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  • TheMrsC23TheMrsC23 member
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    Sadly, I have a friend who's husband is this stupid that he would start this kind of argument with her.

    I question why she continues to stay married to him.  I can't tell you how many times she's told me she's getting her crap together financially and whatnot to leave him and then doesn't follow through.   :-/
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  • baconsmombaconsmom member
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    I'm not a fan of preschool. I don't think it's necessary, and especially not for over $100 a month. What the what, yo.

    That said, I wouldn't ever have a blow-up at my spouse about it *unless my spouse was also ignoring my opinions on everything else*. Maybe I just like playing devil's advocate, but we're only getting her side, here. What if she's a raging btch who never takes him seriously and this was just a last straw? 

    But then, if he yells at her about everything all at once instead of calmly discussing his feelings, I guess maybe they're MFEO after all. 
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  • WzzWzz member
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    bmom - i get what you are saying, but to blow up over giving the kid an early education? it doesn't seem like something to get mad over. that, to me, is like getting mad for stopping to help someone who may have dropped a bunch of their belongings on the sidewalk- in other words, no one is getting hurt.

    i personally don't see preschool as unnecessary, unless there's a SAH parent willing to read to the kid and make sure s/he has a well-balanced meal. not all kids have parents who have a clue, and not all kids have parents or responsible adults who can stay home with them. (<--not an argument to change your mind, but there are benefits to preschool for working families and the generally stupid.)
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  • GBCKGBCK member
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    I have to say, when my sis (who knows more about early ed and childhood development than I could ever hope to) and I have talkeda but this, her sisterly advice (which she probably wouldn't give to a student's parents) was a shrug and a "I've never had a kid who I thought had gotten to much preschool/early childhood training.  But I've thought some had to little"

    But I say that w/ all the bias of someone who, if I became a SAHM tomorrow, would still find some form of childcare part-time.
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