Registry Help! I am conflicted as to what to do

jenluxsd · March 2010

So my FI and I have been together a long time, and we already have a house and very nice things in there.

So do we even register? Everyone I know tells us we should because it is easier for people. However, seeing the reactions on here people are really against high priced items for a registry.

The thing is we already have pretty nice stuff, we if we actually do register for stuff, it would need to be at least up to par with our current stuff, which isnt inexpensive. I know the right thing to do is to register at all price points, but I dont want to register for stuff I dont want just because its at a price point where more people can afford.

So my next thing was to register for donations to a charity, but then people give me grief because that is asking for cash.

We have all sorts of people coming to the wedding, from the very wealthy to the average. I would feel weird not registering at all and people think we want cash, which would be even weirder.

Im lost at what to do...I cant believe of all things to stress about, I stress about the whole gift situation.

wadingmoose · March 2010

I registered for a few things, but really, most people just gave us cash.

I was in the same situation and I tried to pick things in varying ranges from table cloths to appliances.

wadingmoose · March 2010

Then again, you probably shouldn't take my advice. I registered and it was my second wedding (gasp)

Brie2010 · March 2010

If you go to the Registering and Gifts board, there is a sticky thread called "Don't know what to register for?" that has lots of advice about things to register for you might not have thought of.

Do not register with a charity. It's better to not register at all--people will give you cash and you can do with it what you want.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · March 2010

We have some nice stuff (stainless steel pots and pans, kitchenaid food processor, etc) and I still found lots of things under $20 to register for at Crate and Barrel. A rolling pin, new measuring cups, napkin rings, placemats. Go check it out. You might be surprised.

Also, towels on their own aren't that expensive if you want new ones. Even if you get a $20 towel... well, someone can chose to buy you one towel.

If you register for some more expensive items, people might also go in on one together or give you gift cards to put towards the item. Or you can buy them with your completion discount after the wedding.

Edit: I have NO problem with someone not registering, but if people are asking you about it, it means they want to give you a physical gift and don't have a clue what you need. Since you seem to be picky about your housewares, I'd probably register.

shellydiane820 · March 2010

I think registering for a charity is fine. However, I would just do a word of mouth type thing.

akhensley81 · March 2010

We're in a similar situation... have already lived together for 3 years and really have everything we need already.

Basically I took the approach of "upgrading" everything we already have. I'm a cheapskate so we pretty much have the cheapest version of everything anyway... crock pot, vaccuum, etc. So we registered for better versions of the stuff we have already. And then I guess I'll have a yard sale next year. LOL!

polichik · March 2010

I'm also fine with registering for a charity... Then again, I also like charity favors. *runs and hides*

shellydiane820 · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_registry-am-conflicted?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:4bc344d5-6dd7-4834-8681-c65209d4930ePost:7098d257-2b17-4ad0-a4d3-851ba6fc4327">Re: Registry Help! I am conflicted as to what to do</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm also fine with registering for a charity... Then again, I also like charity favors. *runs and hides*
Posted by polichik[/QUOTE]

I did them :-X

wcvsb3b5 · March 2010

We have a lot of stuff we need for a house as well. And we are NOT fancy people at all so a lot of the stuff that is on "generic" registry lists we would never use. So we plan to register only a little bit for the people that really want to go that route. We'll probably register for one decent (not over the top) china set, a spare bed set, and some luggage. We might register for some nice towels so we have something less expensive on there (and you can NEVER have too many towels!). But that will probably be about it.. Most people we know will give cash anyway. Only register for things you want or need, even if it is a small registry. Don't register for new things if you like what you already have. GL!

shellydiane820 · March 2010

Have you looked into registering for tools? We did a sears registry for tools, we got lots of odds and ends that you don't think about until you need them.

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