Getting married because of pregnancy

jeanacorina · August 2010

desert, awesome explanation. Thanks for that! It makes way more sense than the religious part.

It's odd, so many people who pressure couples to marry because of a pregnancy usually cite religious reasons. I guess they don't know their social stigma history.

notquiteblushing · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_getting-married-because-of-pregnancy?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:9a4ce2fe-9344-478b-9704-7993c10df719Post:ce6a1f5f-b911-47bc-aaf7-843976c391e9">Re: Getting married because of pregnancy</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't think that people should get married just because they got pregnant, but if I were in that situation and I was already planning on getting married, it might speed things up a little bit.
Posted by Narwhal[/QUOTE]

Exactly. I mean whateve they decide to do I hope is best for them, but I know if I was in a loving stable relationship and I got pregnant I would have a nice low key wedding. But they don't have to. People should mind their own business.

desertsun · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_getting-married-because-of-pregnancy?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:9a4ce2fe-9344-478b-9704-7993c10df719Post:7d142040-a79e-4f03-a1aa-3e5a536b79e3">Re: Getting married because of pregnancy</a>:
[QUOTE]desert, awesome explanation. Thanks for that! It makes way more sense than the religious part. It's odd, so many people who pressure couples to marry because of a pregnancy usually cite religious reasons. I guess they don't know their social stigma history.
Posted by jeanacorina[/QUOTE]

Hmmm...I guess maybe it depends a lot on how religious the people around the couple are, maybe? Or where you live? Because I don't hear the religion thing. I hear things about being "respectable" and not having the stigma, and wanting 2 parents for the child...all kinds of other stuff. Interesting how this varies!

Good post, Goldlie!

sapphirebaby926 · August 2010

I'll admit when I find out about a woman getting pregnant without being married I wonder if she's going to marry her baby-daddy. Do I think that's the best or right thing to do? Absolutley not but I'd be lying if the thought didn't cross my mind.

KD+BC · August 2010

I can honestly say that "will they get married now" never crosses my mind. Maybe this is because there was a bit of a pregnancy epidemic in high school. I guess it kind of made me used to the whole unwed mother thing.

I also have a cousin who got pregnant at 19 and her other grandparents were really pressuring her and the guy to get married. I was really proud of her that she didn't. Her mom let her live at home and she ended up finishing her degree. She and her bf dated for about another year. They really weren't right for each other. He's still in his son's life and it seems to be working out just fine. If she had gotten married I highly doubt she would have been able to finish her degree because she would have had to work to pay for rent and food and such that her mom took care of for her.

PaigeMcC · August 2010

Wow I'm late to the game on this butttt...

Just b/c you're pregnant doesn't necessarily = marriage. The first thought that usually pops into my head when I hear someone is preggers is "OMFG! BABY!! FUN!!!". Especially if they're particularly young, not in a stable relationship, etc. Babies do not = marriage. Especially if the relationship isn't ready for it.

But I can see how religiously, culturally, or otherwise, people might have different ideas.

fontassidy · August 2010

I would never assume that a couple was going to get married just because the woman found herself with child. In fact, I think it's kind of INSANE to base the decision to marry someone off of a circumstance like that, unless you were already engaged/ planning on being married, and just decided to move up the date.

[Deleted User] · August 2010

Most likely the ones who get married because of pregnancy depending on how long they have been together, well it doesn't work. Pregnancy is so common now and days it is crazy especially with younger generations and well if the relationship isn't there, how will the relationship last? Having a child does not make any situation easy and for a new couple who doesn't know the best and worst for each other, it is very hard. I am not saying it can not be done but it will be a challenge on top of a challenge. Best of luck.

bethsmiles · August 2010

If I got pregnant (which is not going to happen since we don't have sex) we would get married because of the pregnancy. I don't expect other people to do that though. I think it depends on a lot of factors, like how long the couple has been dating or if they have discussed marriage, and age.

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