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Toasts for Rehearsal Dinner/ Reception?

kpe04379kpe04379 member
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I have been to weddings where the groom gave a short speech to thank everyone for coming, but I have never seen this done at a rehearsal dinner. Also, some of the weddings I have been to have not had this included. Is anyone not doing this?

My groom and I are quite shy and are wondering if it would be in horrible taste to thank our parents and family and friends privately instead of in front of all the guests- which we are doing repeatedly, but also with gifts and a nice note to each.
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    DH and I just said a few words at the RD  before we gave presents and that was it.  DH's parents hosted the RD and his father said the toast.

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  • danieliza1127danieliza1127 member
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    No, we didn't at either.  At the RD, his parents gave toasts since they were hosting.  At the reception, the MOH and Best Man were the only ones that gave toasts.  Our MC who was also an Usher and a very close friend, made some general announcements and thanked everyone for coming.
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  • andyandhillaryandyandhillary member
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    Well we fully intended to but we forgot and my parent's side was LIVID.  As in, people talked about us so much that I had to call a few family members and apologize for it.  I'm not kidding.

    If your family is as crazy as mine, I'd do it at the reception. 
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  • Galaxy8227Galaxy8227
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    We'll say a few words at the RD before handing out gifts to everyone.  We also plan on saying a few words at the reception, no toasts, but just a thank you to everyone for attending. 
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  • impslaveimpslave
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    Our RD toasting turned out to be a disaster.  My mom started to tell a joke about us when she was interrupted by MIL who thought her son was being disrespected. Ugh.

    At the reception, the best man was supposed to start the toasts, but was distracted by trying to contain his drunk wife (H's cousin).  My brother took charge and gave an epic speech, followed by my MOH.  Between dinner and cake, H and I went to each of the tables and thanked our guests for coming.
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  • mysticlmysticl member
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    I've usually seen the specific thank yous done at the RD and a more general thank's everyone for coming and sharing our day with us at the reception.
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  • eastunder1eastunder1
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    I have only been to three rehersal dinners, but at each one the bride and groom took a few minutes to thank everyone for coming and tell them how happy they were that everyone there could be involved in their day.  I think it would be odd for a bride and groom to NOT do so.  I mean,all  these people are there for YOU.  Some of them have traveled to be there. Tthey've all contributed in someway to your wedding either through time or money.   I get being shy, but I think its important to take a few seconds to acknowledge them at the dinner. 

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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User]
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    We didn't really have a RD, it was mainly just ordering a few pizzas and everyone sat around exhausted after a day of decorating. Very casual. We thanked people individually at different points throughout the day and gave gifts separately.

    At the reception, H gave maybe a 30 second thank-you speech. Neither of us had prepared anything and we hate ebing the center of attention, so it was slightly painful for him.
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  • NillaWafer10NillaWafer10 member
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    We welcomed everyone to the RD, but our welcome at the wedding got forgotten.  Oh well :)
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  • rbtrumpetrbtrumpet member
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    we plan on saying a few words at the rehearsal, but not the reception
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    We both said a few words, thanking our family & friends for their support, blah, blah. I was a mess, teary eyed, so it was hard for me. We did it right before we handed out all of the gifts.
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  • Alyssa0421Alyssa0421 member
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    My husband said a few words of thanks at our RD, but it was pretty brief and then we handed out gifts. We didn't make any speeches at our reception. I actually always thought the bride & groom are not supposed to give speeches at their own reception. I've only been to 2 weddings where the groom gave a speech/toast. We had my father give a "welcome, thank you for coming" at the beginning of dinner on behalf of both families. Then the BM and MOH gave toasts during dinner.
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