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Mom vs. Location?

DeCicco2012DeCicco2012
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I recently got engaged and we've just started our planning.

Ever since I was a little girl I pictured myself getting married at the beach. But my mother has always pictured me getting married in the same church she grew up in.

On the one hand I want to make my mother happy, but on the other I know that I will regret not having the wedding I always dreamed of.

Do I tell my mother that I don't want to get married in a church and make her upset? Or just put my desires aside and make the change?

Any thoughts? Anyone else face this issue?
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Re: Mom vs. Location?

  • DG1DG1 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_mom-vs-location?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:5cf008bc-3184-4d33-81ae-0b7f7d70e66bPost:1fa24bae-b0dd-479c-a5bc-bacbbddef82b">Mom vs. Location?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I recently got engaged and we've just started our planning. Ever since I was a little girl I pictured myself getting married at the beach. But my mother has always pictured me getting married in the same church she grew up in. On the one hand I want to make my mother happy, but on the other I know that I will regret not having the wedding I always dreamed of. Do I tell my mother that I don't want to get married in a church and make her upset? Or just put my desires aside and make the change? Any thoughts? Anyone else face this issue?
    Posted by DeCicco2012[/QUOTE]

    Who's paying? If she is, you'll probably have to accept her wishes. If you pay for it yourself, you get to get married wherever you want to.

    Are you even religious? I was raised Catholic and couldn't have found a Catholic church that would marry me if I wanted to, since I don't believe, don't go to confession, don't have a "home" church, and, oh yeah, was already living with my fiance.  Just saying - there may be a few other factors at play besides "I want/she wants."

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  • ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    Get married where you want.  Picturing other people's life events and trying to strong-arm them to conform to your imaginings is creepy and douchey anyway.
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