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another invitation question

Hi -- I've lurked but never posted here before.  I'm looking for some opinions because I'm not sure which way to go on this one.

I'm in a small group that meets weekly and I have been friends with the other four regular attendees for a few years.  They are all invited to the wedding, and invitations go out this week. Recently a new woman has begun coming to the group.  She is a friend of one of the other ladies.  I've met her maybe 4 times now but don't know her well at all, even to know her last name.  I wasn't planning to invite her because it seems weird and gift-grabby to invite someone who is barely an acquaintance.  But, she appear to be becoming a member of the group and I don't want to exclude one person when everyone else is invited.

What do you think?  Thanks for your help!

Re: another invitation question

  • Well since your wedding is still 2 months away and you meet once a week, odds are you will get to know her a lot better between now and then.  If you have room on your guest list, you could go ahead and invite her and maybe even just explain to her that although you've just met, you wanted to include her since she's becoming a member of your group and you look forward to becoming friends, or something like that. 

    Now if you don't have room on the guest list, I also think you'd be perfectly fine not to include her and I'm sure she woudn't expect to be invited.
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  • So you've only "known" her for a month? I think she'll understand when she's not invited. Just don't talk about the wedding too much in the group when she's around and ask the others to be discreet as well.

  • I wouldn't expect to be invited to the wedding of someone I had only known two or three months.

    I think you're fine not inviting her.
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  • I know if it were me and I had the room I would invite her to be nice so no one feels left out.  Plus, you might get to know her by the time your wedding rolls around.  Even if that doesn't happen and you extend an invite doesn't mean she'll attend either.
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  • You're not obligated to invite her, but I think it could be a nice gesture since all of the other ladies will attend.
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  • Thanks for the input everyone.
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