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September 2012 Weddings

FI is turning me into a nag (small vent)

Every since we've started the process of buying this house, the wedding has become secondary to FI.  We haven't closed on it yet though so we've done all we can do until we move in.  Today is FI's last day off until we close next week.  He told me he was going to do 2 or 3 wedding things today that are on his to-do list (only about 10 things which is nothing compared to mine).  I get he worked hard all week and has to work this weekend but I just talked to him and asked what he was up to and he said he was on his way home from running and he was just going to shower and chill.  I asked what about going to Men's Warehouse and he said he'd wait until I'm home.  Why?  We have plans tonight and I don't want to rush around to do errands when I get home.  I worked all week too!  I just know next week it's going to be all house stuff.  So I asked him about a few other things he can do from his list at home and he just said maybe.  WTF?!  I had to hang up with him because I was annoyed.  I sent him a text basically saying "I don't want to be a nag but these have to get done and next week I know you are going to want to focus on the house."  And I got an "Ok"  that's it so we'll see if anything gets done when I'm home. 

Days off are important but my to do list for this weekend while he works is so long.  I have a ton of wedding things to do plus we have to have our room/bathroom spotless since my parents have a house showing on Tuesday.  Since FI works Sat, Sun, Mon that means all the cleaning is on me over the weekend.  Why can't he just get these things done so I don't have to keep asking him to do them!?  Wives get such a bad rep for being nags but maybe men should just not procrastinate.

Re: FI is turning me into a nag (small vent)

  • I can't help you at all, but I can commiserate.  My FH is the worst procrastinator -- sure, he might get the few things I asked him to do done, but he'll put them off until the day before the wedding, if I don't keep bugging him.  I've found that it's actually better if I set his deadlines for him: I tell him, "x needs to be done by ___," and then the night before that date, I sit him down and make him do it, right then.  (Of course, what he doesn't know is that I'm inventing some of these deadlines and purposely making them a bit earlier than they have to be.)
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  • I am so happy and feel so lucky that my FI is very organized I haven't had to even ask him once to get anything done for the wedding he just does it on his own and will usually do more than one thing on the list in a day.  I think I would be very frustrated and annoyed if I had to keep reminding FI to do things as well.  Hopefully your FIs will step up to the plate and get the things done that you ask them to do.
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  • I completely understand, FI procrastinates procrastinating haha.  I give him a very very small list of things to do...yet I end up doing them because I just cant wait!

    I hope things get better for you :)
  • I totally understand where you are coming from. I feel like they feel no pressure or stress from this whole thing. My FI just kinda trots along. He has no sense of urgency nor does he understand what all needs to be done . GRRR .... they say we nag , but we wouldnt if they just followed through without us needing to follow up with them all the time
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