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Change the wedding date for guests?

We picked our wedding date three years ago, September 6th- which is the anniversary of our first date. Recently I created an event on Fb to invite guests, let them know I'll be needing their address for the real invite and to imformally rsvp. Key people rsvp'd, except for one. My fiance's sister.

When he came home from his moms, a few days after I made the event, he told me that his parents "got on his case" or whatever about the date. I knew why and for some reason, I expected it. His sister wants the date changed because her husband is in the army and works during the week. I am oblivious, if there is a military fiance, or otherwise related, reading this please let me know, can he not request a Tuesday off if given enough time beforehand to ask?

Re: Change the wedding date for guests?

  • ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    edited December 2011
    Um.  Don't most people work during the week?
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  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    edited December 2011
    You're getting married on a tues? 

    You must not want anyone at your wedding.
  • MrsMyrtleMrsMyrtle member
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    edited December 2011
    You're having a Tuesday wedding and you're surprised that there might be conflicts? Ooookay.
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  • Butter CookieButter Cookie member
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    edited December 2011
    No, he most likely can't. On the other hand she can attend a wedding alone. She won't burst into flames or get kicked and laughed at for coming alone.
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  • MrsMyrtleMrsMyrtle member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_change-wedding-date-guests?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:df903629-6ec9-4079-8e1f-835dc55e18caPost:f83d0dfc-d006-41ee-8223-ed6a0e571b3c">Change the wedding date for guests?</a>:
    [QUOTE]We picked our wedding date three years ago, September 6th- which is the anniversary of our first date. Recently I created an event on Fb to invite guests, let them know I'll be needing their address for the real invite and to imformally rsvp. Key people rsvp'd, except for one. My fiance's sister. When he came home from his moms, a few days after I made the event, he told me that his parents "got on his case" or whatever about the date. I knew why and for some reason, I expected it. His sister wants the date changed because her husband is in the army and works during the week. I am oblivious, if there is a military fiance, or otherwise related, reading this please let me know, can he not request a Tuesday off if given enough time beforehand to ask?
    Posted by obrienk907[/QUOTE]
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  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_change-wedding-date-guests?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:df903629-6ec9-4079-8e1f-835dc55e18caPost:9c6df974-7d0c-4d6e-a6c7-f38dbbbda048">Re: Change the wedding date for guests?</a>:
    [QUOTE]No, he most likely can't. On the other hand she can attend a wedding alone. She won't burst into flames or get kicked and laughed at for coming alone.
    Posted by Butter Cookie[/QUOTE]

    And there won't be other guests there to point and laugh either.
  • MNNEBrideMNNEBride member
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    edited December 2011
    Not only is this a Tues, but it's the TUES after the Labor Day weekend.  I see many "NO" RSVPs in your future.
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  • ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    edited December 2011
    I think 6fsn deserves a bazinga!
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  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    edited December 2011

    ::blushes a little::

  • TheDuckisTheDuckis member
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    edited December 2011
    How old are you? Getting married on your dating anniversary, getting married on a Tuesday, and sending an FB invitation all scream Teenaged Bride to me.
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_change-wedding-date-guests?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:df903629-6ec9-4079-8e1f-835dc55e18caPost:98835897-bd93-4267-acdb-79c41d945cd0">Re: Change the wedding date for guests?</a>:
    [QUOTE]How old are you? <strong>Getting married on your dating anniversary</strong>, getting married on a Tuesday, and sending an FB invitation all scream Teenaged Bride to me.
    Posted by TheDuckis[/QUOTE]

    This is a cute idea, if it coincides with a weekend/holiday.  The Tues after Labor Day....  I agree with pp - expect many "no's".
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  • edited December 2011
    I'm getting married on the second anniversary of our engagement.  But it's on a Saturday.  Also I can see using FB to get addresses for the real invites, but only if you PM people.  If this is a "public" event, bad idea.

    On the Tuesday after Labor Day, not a lot of people are going to be able to or want to attend.  You may hear more complaints about the date.  If you don't want people to show up, then keep the date.
  • edited December 2011
    I'm getting married on the 5th anniversary of our first date, but its also the 2nd anniversary of our engagement.  FI picked it and I think its cute and sentimental...We are getting married on a Friday, and we have gotten some gruff about it.  But I just let it go, I'm sure people will talk about it, but I went to a wedding that was a full 6 days from the 4th of July and people were complaining about how it was too close to a holiday...Honestly you probably will get a lot of "No" RSVP's, but if that does't bother you, then go with it...maybe its just my family, but every wedding that I have ever been to, someone has something to bitch about...Talk it over with your FI and see what he says and go from there.
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  • Melissa603Melissa603 member
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    edited December 2011
    Friday brides get enough grief and you didn't expect any being a Tuesday? 
  • obrienk907obrienk907 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm far from teenaged, and our wedding was originally to take place last year ON labor day but we couldn't afford it. I know people work during the week, obviously, but this date means alot to us. We plan on having a small wedding, maybe 25 people. I'm trying to figure out which weighs more right- what WE want or what works for others.
     Wifezilla- I must disagree with you. I personally don't mind what people may want to volunteer especially if they are just trying to be helpful. Nobody asked your opinion, yet here you are- HYPOCRITE.
     And to most of the other replies- Thank you for being so judicious and mannerly, it says alot about your character :D I loved your advice. Pfft... Whatever happened to ladies behaving like ladies? And I'm the one being accused of being a teenager..
  • edited December 2011
    I love when people on here think that their way is the ONLY right way...or when their SN's totally match their personality!

    Like I said in my post before, you probably will get a lot of "No" RSVP's, but if that does't bother you, go with it.  Talk to your FI and see what he thinks about the situation and go from there...If you think that you won't have the amount of people show up that you want to show up, then maybe you should think about changing the date.  Just be aware that depending on how far you are in planning, it may be difficult to change your date. 
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  • obrienk907obrienk907 member
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    edited December 2011
    It would be sensible to change it, for the benefit of others. Thanks everyone for your time and input, even if it was snippy. I loved our ann. date, but I realize that it isn't the best choice anymore.
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