What should my dad/Fi's dad wear?

Re: What should my dad/Fi's dad wear?

• retaviato member

  

  February 2012

  The answer to the question is with the question: "How do you want them to look in pictures?"
  
  And -- How do you want the pictures to look? If you have a picture of everyone, the groomsmen, bridesmaids, dads, - everyone - Do you want the viewer's eyes to go to the item in the picture(you and the groom)  which is different? Or do you want the viewer's eyes to look at all of the different things in the picture?
  
  I disagree with those who say, "it doesn't matter". I think that it all matters and that there should be a philosophy behind the decisions. In other words, if you decide to let your dad wear overalls, it wouldn't be because it didn't matter what he wore, it would be that you wanted him to wear overalls because -- that's who your dad is (for instance).
  
  

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• Maggie0829 member

  

  February 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_what-should-my-dadfis-dad-wear?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:15Discussion:323f9cbc-f175-4822-8152-b3b138356b0dPost:7f5152ff-9581-4791-be87-dcae488906c6">Re: What should my dad/Fi's dad wear?</a>:
  [QUOTE]The answer to the question is with the question: "How do you want them to look in pictures?" And -- How do you want the pictures to look? If you have a picture of everyone, the groomsmen, bridesmaids, dads, - everyone - Do you want the viewer's eyes to go to the item in the picture(you and the groom)  which is different? Or do you want the viewer's eyes to look at all of the different things in the picture? I disagree with those who say, "it doesn't matter". I think that it all matters and that there should be a philosophy behind the decisions. In other words, if you decide to let your dad wear overalls, it wouldn't be because it didn't matter what he wore, it would be that you wanted him to wear overalls because -- that's who your dad is (for instance).
  Posted by ttatum35[/QUOTE]
  
  This is bad advice.  Don't listen to it.
  
  The fathers can wear whatever they wish.  The fathers will most likely not be in any pictures with the wedding party...in fact I have zero pictures that include the wedding party and the parents.  Even if you do, the fact that they aren't dressed the same doesn't matter because the fathers are not in the wedding party.
  
  I think if everyone is dressed exactly the same then it starts to look too posed and too manufactured.  You want to be able to see everyone's personality in the pictures because after 10 years or more you won't care what they wore you will only care that they were there.

  
  

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• jlmonpe member

  

  February 2012

  im having pictures with parents in the pictures.  but my dad is also walking me down the aisle so they will be renting the same style tux that my FI is .. of course it really wasnt a big deal to me what they wore but thats just how it worked out

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• AurorasEnvy

  

  February 2012

  My dad (who is walking me down the aisle) is wearing the same tux as the GM, as is FI's father (if we can convince him that he really needs to go get measured, and that the bridal shop can't fit him for a tux with the measurements he sent them - height, weight, and shoe size.  Seriously.)  In all honesty though, if my dad wanted to wear something else or if FI's father  can't get his act together, I really wouldn't mind if they weren't wearing the same thing.

  
  

  I don't think they necessarily have to match, as long as they aren't wearing something that totally clashes.  I'd ask them what they prefer to wear.  If they want to wear a different suit, you could always have them wear the same ties as the GMs to add a little cohesiveness.

  
  

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