S/O of S/O of whorey whores.

J&K10910 · May 2010

Could you marry someone with whom you typically don't have very good sex? I have a friend who is engaged and has been with the guy for 6 years, and she's constantly complaining about the sex. I personally feel that if you guys haven't figured it out after 6 freakin' years sleeping together, there's waaaay more wrong than just some bad chemistry. Plus, I can't imagine the thought of having bad sex for the rest of my life.

maratea · May 2010

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[QUOTE]If someone's bored with their sex life after years and years, they could just do what my friend did and have a dirty affair and not tell your soon-to-be-FI about it. Yup, now she's alll read to marry him.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]
This makes me sad. I don't understand how you can make the commitment to marry someone, yet you can't tell them you're bored and want to try something different. If I'm bored with what H and I are doing, I'll suggest something else subtly, and he is usually more than willing.

goheels05 · May 2010

I used to be of the mindset that bad sex could be remediated, but these stories scare me.

J&K10910 · May 2010

When I hear about douchebags being two pump chumps, it makes me believe in karma, for real.

beatlesgirl25 · May 2010

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[QUOTE]When I hear about douchebags being two pump chumps, it makes me believe in karma, for real.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

Me too!

Also, YPGM. :)

shellydiane820 · May 2010

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[QUOTE]I wonder about first timers too. I know one couple who saved themselves for marriage and spent their wedding night playing cards.
Posted by FutureMsAlexander[/QUOTE]
Do you know my cousin? That's what they did.

shellydiane820 · May 2010

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[QUOTE]When I hear about douchebags being two pump chumps, it makes me believe in karma, for real.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]
True story.

J&K10910 · May 2010

Beatles, YG(2)PMs right back!

beatlesgirl25 · May 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: S/O of S/O of whorey whores. : This makes me sad. I don't understand how you can make the commitment to marry someone, yet you can't tell them you're bored and want to try something different. If I'm bored with what H and I are doing, I'll suggest something else subtly, and he is usually more than willing.
Posted by maratea[/QUOTE]

I totally agree. Though she did tell him she was getting bored, and he didn't change quickly enough for her and start rocking her world again. I can understand why she did what she did, the part that bugs me is that she's never going to tell him. I feel like sex is the least of their issues.

And I think trying new things is fun! It's great that your H is open to hearing suggestions. I think that's where people get stuck and scared because they feel it's criticizing, when it doesn't have to be. So they never say anything.

ohwhynot · May 2010

After 6 years? No. But I will say that it has gotten a gazillion times better with fi and me. After the first few times, I was kinda horrified, to be honest, and felt really sad that it was so (sorry fi - I love you, but really? sad, sad show) disappointing. Luckily I took the bull by the horns, so to speak, and it is awesome now. Really. Hee hee. lucky me.

Onto the "showing up as buttercup" thing: You all willl think I'm crazy, but I SWEAR TO GOD a couple of nights ago an OP on the chit-chat board showed up as "thistletwat." I went into the thread, about to say something about it, and it showed up as something I don't remember, but something normal. When I went back to the board, i.e., outside the thread, it was "thistletwat" again. Then suddenly it went back to the normal name again. I was not drinking that night.

FutureMsAlexander · May 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: S/O of S/O of whorey whores. : Do you know my cousin? That's what they did.
Posted by shellydiane820[/QUOTE]

I must. Can you imagine the pressure? The first time is often a less than magical experience.

mandapanda78 · May 2010

To me, the health of a couple's sex life is a pretty good indicator of their relationship. And by "health" I just mean- are both partners satisfied. Because what's healthy for some does not at all meet the requirements of others. So yeah, if she's a constant complainer about their sex life after six years, she's ignoring a pretty big red flag.

J&K10910 · May 2010

Thistletwat? Ouch.

goheels05 · May 2010

heheheh thistletwat.

shellydiane820 · May 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: S/O of S/O of whorey whores. : I must. Can you imagine the pressure? The first time is often a less than magical experience.
Posted by FutureMsAlexander[/QUOTE]
I can't imagine.

laurenclaire1386 · May 2010

Not a chance in hell. In my experience, bad sex was a result of a bad relationship. I'm not saying every time FI and I do it, it's mind blowing and earth shattering, but it's enjoyable, always. It should be.

LoveOfMikesLife · May 2010

thank goodness FI and I were drunk our first time.... we never had that akward first time thing!

The only thing that I remember is that he did it threw his boxers(he's says he didnt)! We joke about it all the time now

[Deleted User] · May 2010

I honestly don't think I'm very good in that area (way too many hangups from the past), but DH swears it's awesome so I guess he's happy. Sex isn't as important to me as it is to others (maybe because I think I suck at it) but I still could only be with someone I'm comfortable being intimate with. If the sex did blow, there would be issues.

Night_Sprite · May 2010

Seshat, has anyone tried to help you shrink your sig? It's taking up half of my screen.

Blueyed228 · May 2010

Short answer: No.

If Im stuck banging one guy for the rest of my life it better be mind blowing, up against the wall, breaking furniture, fireworks or Im out.

sparklingdiamond · May 2010

No, I couldn't live with bad sex for the rest of my life either! And I agree that physical chemistry is very important!

[Deleted User] · May 2010

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[QUOTE]Seshat, has anyone tried to help you shrink your sig? It's taking up half of my screen.
Posted by Night_Sprite[/QUOTE]

I've been trying to all day. I changed it last night then our internet went out so I couldn't fix it. And for some reason my computer at work won't let me on my profile page so I couldn't change the sig. But I finally was able to access it so hopefully it will shrink now that it's resized.

Night_Sprite · May 2010

you know how to add the height="300" or 200 or whatever into the html?

goheels05 · May 2010

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[QUOTE]Short answer: No. If Im stuck banging one guy for the rest of my life it better be mind blowing, up against the wall, breaking furniture, fireworks or Im out.
Posted by Blueyed228[/QUOTE]

If I wasn't getting error messages too, this quote would be my new sig.

luckyme502 · May 2010

No, the sex has to be good. Now, it doesn't have to be the best sex of my life either, cause it's not.

I agree with M&M that sex is indicative of the rest of the relationship. Most amazing sex every guy and mine's relationship was all lust and passion, no love and tenderness. So, I moved on.

I also think that sex can be great in all kinds of different ways.

JennaV26 · May 2010

One of my sister's BFFs was telling us at my sister's bachelorette party that her fiance was horrible in bed. This same girl also turned her engagement ring around at the bar and flirted with everyone. She got married a few months after my sister and 6 months later she was divorced.

I'm not sure if it was the bad sex, her flirting problem or a combination of that and more.

graysquirrel · May 2010

This seems silly. Go to a sex therapist, read a book, buy a dildo. There is so much more to marriage than you hitting the big o.

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