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Can I say "No Gifts" in the invite?

My fiancee and I really don't need or want gifts at our wedding.  We already live together and have an apartment full of stuff.  Most of our guests are from out of town and will have to travel to our wedding and we just feel like the money they'll have to spend on flights and hotels is more than enough.

So my question is - can I say this in a non-tacky way in the invitation?  I know you're not supposed to include anything about where you're registered in the invitation.....but what are the rules in this scenario?  We were thinking of just including an insert that says "All we hope for is the pleasure of your company!  Please, no gifts."  I could pass the word to our families through our mothers but we're inviting a lot of friends who wouldn't get the message. 

Any advice or ideas?  Thank you!

Re: Can I say "No Gifts" in the invite?

  • Nope.  No mention of gifts at all.

    Don't register.  Don't have a shower.  Do the word of mouth thing if you must--include your WP if you have one (to better get word to friends).  People LIKE to give gifts at weddings.  Even if you SAID no gifts, you'd likely still get a ton. 

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  • Nah, just leave it alone. Do J's suggestions and they'll get the hint.
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  • My mother and I have had a million arguments about this.  She is insistent that I put "no gifts" on the invitations.  I refused.  I'm pretty sure every person invited knows we've been married before, live together and are OLD.

    Our invitations went out earlier this month.  I seriously considered taking a big fat black Sharpie and writing "NO GIFTS PLEASE" on my mother's invitation.  But I didn't.
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  • Just say no to mentioning gifts in any way on your invitation.  If I get one more wedding invitation that mentions gifts, I'm going to scream (lol just got one yesterday).

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  • Sounds like a consensus.....I will refrain from putting anything on the invite and just do my best to spread the word by mouth.  Thank you for the advice!
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