If you need to force BF to go ring shopping, you prob shouldn't marry him...

erilouboston · January 2010

Shaz - I'll keep you company if you get flamed for that, because I completely, 100% agree with you.

spuccio · January 2010

Shazz, no flames here. I think you're right. Although, I would also add that I think for some people that settle for "Good Enough", its not necessarily about just the ring and the dress and all that. I think as a culture, we have been groomed to believe that happily ever after only happens in movies and books. Think about it. How many times have we been told as girls growing up that "love is about compromise" and "find someone who can love your faults" and "love at first sight is a myth". Its as though to believe otherwise makes us stupid and naive. So people marry "Good enough", thinking thats the way its supposed to be.

richkatm · January 2010

I voted the "he did and that's how it's supposed to be" for a few reasons. He initiated it originally by asking what kinds of rings I like while we were Christmas shopping one year. After that we discussed it off and on like adults the way it should be. Alot of our discussions came when friends got engaged but also at random times while discussing our future. When it came to him actually proposing it was on his terms with out me harrassing him or "getting" him to buy me a ring. I strongly felt that if he wanted to marry me that he would ask and he knew (from our discussions) I would say yes. It ended in a surprise out of the blue proposal on Christmas Eve last year.

snoangel79 · January 2010

I dated a guy for almost 11 years and it didn't happen, I asked and asked, basically becoming a nag about it. I mean come on 11 years!!! After I broke up with him, Jeff and I got together about 5 months later. He proposed after a year. We had a few general talks (we were going in the same direction) but I never ever "pressured" him. He asked what I wanted for a ring, asked my parents permission, and asked me to marry him. I don't think I'd want to keep pestering, I did that before and it got me no where but a cheating ex who I had to break up with anyways because he was "never" ready and of course for his major faux pas that was unforgivable.

If you need to force BF to go ring shopping, you prob shouldn't marry him...

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