Teacher inviting Students

marykartheiser · March 2012

Does anyone have a cute poem for a student friendly invitation? I'm inviting my 4th graders to the ceremony and would like a creative way to word the invite.

I know this can be a touchy topic, but my principal supports the idea as I have been at the school for 8 years, and the students are "my kids". I cannot imagine not having them there as they are such a major part of my life and have gotten to know my fiance as he has been to our classroom many times.

If anyone has any thoughts, I'd be very grateful! Thank you!!

em01092 · March 2012

I don't have any cute ideas. You may be able to find some on Google.

I personally would just send the entire family (your students and their folks) one, regular invitation. Obviously the kids cannot get there on their own.

You do realize how many people that is going to add to your GL right? I mean that could easily add 50-150+ people right there, depending on the parents and how many siblings each kid has. Just wanted to make sure you had thought of that...

Mrs.B6302007 · March 2012

Based on your wording, it sounds like you're only planning on asking them to the ceremony? If so, that's really rude to exclude them (or any ceremony guest) from the reception. Plus, as a parent of one of those kids, I would be ticked off if I had to get my child ready, drive him/her to your ceremony and then we weren't invited to the reception.

Something else you could consider is having a celebration with your kids on the last day of school prior to your wedding. That might be a lot more budget-friendly and easier on the families since they won't have to drive their children anywhere.

HobokensFury · March 2012

FIrst of all you can't invite people to the ceremony only. That's a tiered wedding and it's rude and tacky. Second of all as a teacher I think it's inappropriate. Although your P supports the idea have you checked with the superintendent because it's really him or her that has to be ok with it, especially if the wedding is in a church and it's a public school.

NcsuPsych · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_teacher-inviting-students?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:d6e392ce-661d-4fc2-ae9d-056de6f61309Post:3fe2b381-b0a1-4d4f-8cf2-9f02e73894ee">Re: Teacher inviting Students</a>:
[QUOTE]Based on your wording, it sounds like you're only planning on asking them to the ceremony? If so, that's really rude to exclude them (or any ceremony guest) from the reception. Plus, as a parent of one of those kids, I would be ticked off if I had to get my child ready, drive him/her to your ceremony and then we weren't invited to the reception. Something else you could consider is having a celebration with your kids on the last day of school prior to your wedding. That might be a lot more budget-friendly and easier on the families since they won't have to drive their children anywhere.
Posted by Mrs.B6302007[/QUOTE]

Agree with all of this!

cpm1223 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_teacher-inviting-students?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:d6e392ce-661d-4fc2-ae9d-056de6f61309Post:3fe2b381-b0a1-4d4f-8cf2-9f02e73894ee">Re: Teacher inviting Students</a>:
[QUOTE]Based on your wording, it sounds like you're only planning on asking them to the ceremony? If so, that's really rude to exclude them (or any ceremony guest) from the reception. Plus, as a parent of one of those kids, I would be ticked off if I had to get my child ready, drive him/her to your ceremony and then we weren't invited to the reception. <strong>Something else you could consider is having a celebration with your kids on the last day of school prior to your wedding. That might be a lot more budget-friendly and easier on the families since they won't have to drive their children anywhere.
</strong>Posted by Mrs.B6302007[/QUOTE]

I agree with all of this.

You can't invite them just to the ceremony, and you can't invite just the kids, you'd have to invite parents too. I would be very annoyed if I was one of these parents and I had to take my kid to their teachers wedding, and then not be invited to the reception.

AceTT · March 2012

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[QUOTE]Based on your wording, it sounds like you're only planning on asking them to the ceremony? If so, that's really rude to exclude them (or any ceremony guest) from the reception. Plus, as a parent of one of those kids, I would be ticked off if I had to get my child ready, drive him/her to your ceremony and then we weren't invited to the reception. Something else you could consider is having a celebration with your kids on the last day of school prior to your wedding. That might be a lot more budget-friendly and easier on the families since they won't have to drive their children anywhere.
Posted by Mrs.B6302007[/QUOTE]
I agree with all off this. Especially the last part about the celebration. That seems like the best idea for all people involved (you, children, children's parents, etc.).

ujocdeelovely · March 2012

That's soo cute! My 4th grade teacher invited the class to her wedding as well. It was a fun experience.

audrewuh · March 2012

I was invited to my 3rd grade teacher's wedding and it was a blast. I totally understand wanting to share this day with your kids. Is there a way to send it out in a class newsletter?

I was also invited to three youth director's weddings, and to the ceremony only. My feelings were not hurt and no one was offended. It was pretty common, even if it does go against etiquette.

Mrs.B6302007 · March 2012

I remember NOT being invited to my 4th grade teacher's wedding yet there was one girl in the class who not only was invited, but was asked to be a jr. BM.

/random memory sharing

zitiqueen · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_teacher-inviting-students?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:d6e392ce-661d-4fc2-ae9d-056de6f61309Post:c825a908-d600-4de4-8e1f-bc9da71badbe">Re: Teacher inviting Students</a>:
[QUOTE]I remember NOT being invited to my 4th grade teacher's wedding yet there was one girl in the class who not only was invited, but was asked to be a jr. BM. /random memory sharing
Posted by Mrs.B6302007[/QUOTE]

Was she a friend of the family?

Mrs.B6302007 · March 2012

Nope. Our teacher had just moved here when she graduated and we were her first class. This girl was the teacher's pet in our classroom and everyone knew it. ;-)

sparent2010 · March 2012

Both Hoboken and MrsB have good advice- I ditto them.

It's weird to invite "your kids" to your wedding. If my kid's teacher invited them to a wedding I would side eye that shiit pretty hard, and be kinda weirded out they wanted my kid there.

marykartheiser · March 2012

I knew this would be a hot topic, but I'm not concerned at all about being "rude". They are getting a separate invitation because my real ones were expensive and as a teacher, I'm not made of money ;-)

They will only be invited to the ceremony and a parent or supervisor must be present. My church is pretty big and considering my wedding is on a Friday afternoon at 3pm about 30 minutes away from where they live, I am not concerned about space. I realize that most will not come, but I would like to extend the invitation. This has been done by other teacher friends of mine in other districts and no one has ever mentioned any adverse effects.

I appreciate all your concerns, but I think it'll be okay. I have googled wording and nothing has come up, but a fellow knottie from 2009 had a similar post and I emailed her and she sent me a beautiful poem.

Thanks again, everyone!

RussoWill · March 2012

At the first wedding I went to, she invited her students to the wedding and not the reception. After the B+G and WP walked up the aisle, the pastor said something about dismissing her 2nd grade class and they all stood up and walked out. I was right around that age and thought it was the coolest thing! I think it is a really cool way to include your students, and I don't think the parents would be offended at not being invited to the reception. Or maybe have a room at the church with cupcakes or cookies and punch and do a 15min hang out with your students before you leave.

FutureMrsC23 · August 2013

Hi!! I am also a teacher and love the idea of including my students with an invitation to the ceremony. I saw you posted that you were able to find a poem from another bride on here. Would you be willing to pass that on to me as well? Thanks so much in advance for your help!

MobKaz · August 2013

@FutureMrsC23.....I see that you are new to these boards. If you look under the SN of each poster, there is a date. That date indicates when these posts were written. This thread was started almost a year and a half ago. The last time anyone remarked on this thread was in March, 2012. I doubt that Marykartheiser will be responding to your request. Your best bet would be to try and send her a PM. I wouldn't be hopeful, however. This looks to be about her only post since joining.

HobokensFury · August 2013

FutureMrsC23 said:

Hi!! I am also a teacher and love the idea of including my students with an invitation to the ceremony. I saw you posted that you were able to find a poem from another bride on here. Would you be willing to pass that on to me as well? Thanks so much in advance for your help!

This thread is over a year old. But since I responded and am still hear the same advice applies. It's not appropriate. See my above post for why.

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