Bridesmaid chaosetiquette

Peledreamsofrain · September 2012

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Peacebone · September 2012

I'd give her the gift... I mean, you've already gotten it and wrapped it. What else are you going to do with it?!

LDubHawksFan · September 2012

I would let her wear whatever dress she could find that somewhat matches. She is your sister. If for some reason you and she decide that she shouldn't stand up with you, then you should still give her the gift.

kmmssg · September 2012

Let her wear a dress that compliments the BM dresses. She is obviously important to you and is your sister for life. Don't let a dress keep her out of the party.

GoodLuckBear14 · September 2012

Wait. You would seriously kick your sister out of the wedding for not matching the others? You yourself said that she had a good reason for waiting and since she is a new mother, I'd tell her to just find an off the rack dress that is close to the others. I know that normally we say she has removed herself but you seem to have been in agreement with her waiting.

Before you do anything, I would contact the store and see if they can do something to get the designer to get it finished already.

Next, I would find a local seamstress and see how quick of a turnaround you can get for the alterations. Because of my travel schedule, a wonderful seamstress across the street from my SIL's parents was able to get my wedding dress alterations finished in one day. A BM dress would be simpler than working with the four layers of chiffon on my dress. Post a question on your local board asking for recommendations.

Maggie0829 · September 2012

Everything that GLB said.

Viczaesar · September 2012

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[QUOTE]Wait. You would seriously kick your sister out of the wedding for not matching the others? You yourself said that she had a good reason for waiting and since she is a new mother, I'd tell her to just find an off the rack dress that is close to the others. I know that normally we say she has removed herself but you seem to have been in agreement with her waiting. Before you do anything, I would contact the store and see if they can do something to get the designer to get it finished already. Next, I would find a local seamstress and see how quick of a turnaround you can get for the alterations. Because of my travel schedule, a wonderful seamstress across the street from my SIL's parents was able to get my wedding dress alterations finished in one day. A BM dress would be simpler than working with the four layers of chiffon on my dress. Post a question on your local board asking for recommendations.
Posted by GoodLuckBear14[/QUOTE]
Excellent post.

Peledreamsofrain · September 2012

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LDubHawksFan · September 2012

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[QUOTE]Lol no I wouldn't kick her out. i'd actually like to meet the person that could boss that woman around. I've offered what you suggested, but she's convinced that it would ruin the pictures.
Posted by Peledreamsofrain[/QUOTE]

Good! If it were my sister, I would tell her to cram it and that if would ruin my day more not to have her up there with me. ;)

Peledreamsofrain · September 2012

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LDubHawksFan · September 2012

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[QUOTE]I love my sis to the ends of the earth, but she's one bossy lady :p. I'm thinking of compromising and even if she won't stand for pics, she can hold my flowers and do a reading. Nobody takes pics of the party while the bride and groom is up there anyway. Hopefully this is all needless worry and we can find a fast seamstress. If not, I'll definitely give her her gift.
Posted by Peledreamsofrain[/QUOTE]

There are seamstresses that can work in a days amount of time. Honestly, I would prepare like it's going to get there the week of the wedding and scout out a good seamstress. Let them know your situation and ask whether there would be availability/flexibility for a rushed alteration. Then if it comes in sooner, you've already got them on speed dial. Good luck!

corieography · September 2012

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I say go ahead & give it to her. My cousin went throught the same thing & still gave the bridesmaids the gifts, (even if they werent in it.)

Fancypantsamy · September 2012

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[QUOTE]"Sister, not having you in my wedding pictures would ruin them. I don't care what you wear, so long as you are next to me on my wedding day." I've never said this on a board before, but <strong>you are the bride, it is your day to be the boss.</strong> Your sister can get back to being the boss the day after.
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Peledreamsofrain · September 2012

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