I think it's silly to be expectd to send a TY note for a gift that you received in person and thanked the giver for verbally. (I still send the notes, but I disagree with the concept.)
So - I'm not suggesting that anyone NOT send TYs, but I'd ilke to hear your opinions.
What's more sincere to you as the GIVER of a gift - a written note, or a verbal in person thank you?
What's more sincere to you as the RECEIVER of the gift?
What other thoughts on Thank You notes in general do you have?
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Re: SO - Thank You Cards
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Unfortunately at weddings, you aren't going to sit and open your gifts so thanking the giver in person is pretty much out the window.
I love getting and sending handwritten TY's. I think they're sincere, and show that, even if you already thanked them in person, you still took the time to write something nice to them.
[QUOTE]As I mentioned in the other thread, I don't send or receive thank yous for typical birthday and holiday gifts, but they're expected for one-time-only events like engagement, shower, wedding, sweet 16, bar/bar mitzvah.
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Yeah, me too.
oh and to actually answer the questions:
What's more sincere to you as the GIVER of a gift - a written note, or a verbal in person thank you? A thank you at all is nice.
What's more sincere to you as the RECEIVER of the gift? For me personally, I enjoy sending thank you notes.
As a giver, I don't hold it against people that don't send thank you cards, but I do notice and appreciate when they are sent.
Then again, Dan makes fun of me because I send cards to my friends and family all the time, even just a "thinking of you" card. I'm a stationary whore.
Dresses may be easier to take in than let out, but guest lists are not. -- kate51485
-I got made fun of for writing thank-you notes to all of T's relatives who came to my bridal shower, but I'm so shy in person (and so very less shy in writing), I sent them to make sure that they knew I really did appreciate their presence and generosity.
My problem with thank-you notes, and letters in general (which I love to send) is that I always end up sounding like I'm in a Jane Austen novel. I'm not sure what his relatives will think of me.