Is it ok to ask guests to pay??

Re: Is it ok to ask guests to pay??

• trix1223 member

  

  March 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_ok-ask-guests-pay?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:667a05a2-4cba-4da3-a8c9-cce78a947eebPost:f8ab6ae0-6575-4716-9a7d-0ebddc61b390">Is it ok to ask guests to pay??</a>:
  [QUOTE]I'm getting married at the top of a ski mountain, and the mountain charges a $10 gondola fee...Is it ok to ask guests to pay??
  Posted by gperg001[/QUOTE]
  
  No, not at all.  If you can't afford to pay for them to get to the top, have your wedding at the base of the mountain.  What you are proposing is an enormous faux pas and very, very rude.

  "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146

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• Roxyroodle

  

  March 2010

  No. You know its not ok thats why you posted this, you may want us all to say yeah its fine but its not.

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• aerinpegadrak member

  

  March 2010

  I think a guest list would be easiest.  Or each invitation could be mailed with some sort of lift voucher which the guests present to ride, and the resort bills the OP for the total number received.  That way she doesn't end up paying for people who don't attend.

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• LesPaul member

  

  March 2010

  No.  Weddings shouldn't have a cover charge.  You and FI should cover it for all guests.

  

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• bbyckes member

  

  March 2010

  No, I do not think it is appropriate to expect your guests to pay to get to your wedding.

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• preciosa4 member

  

  March 2010

  No.  As a guest I'd hate it. (And resent it, frankly.)  It would be even worse if I was low on cash...

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• CynikettE member

  

  March 2010

  I never have cash on me, so that would be extremely inconvenient! I think a lift ticket would be a cute add on to an invitation (I would say save the date, but guests would probably lose tem). Just make sure the guests know they need to bring them along to the wedding.

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• michelleg913 member

  

  March 2010 edited March 2010

  Nope you have to pay, I am getting married at a Mid Mountain Chapel on a ski hill as well and it is a 15.00 charge for foot passengers. We are paying for everyone. You can usually arrange it earlier with guest services, they would give you a lift pass then for everyone. I am just going to have someone hand then out as guests arrive.
  
  it would be rude not to pay for them

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• spaje

  

  March 2010

  Pay for 'em!  but perhaps " the mountain" can issue you tickets in advance, or even charge by the "gondola load".... sometimes those things can hold like 4 people if they're small, and more if they're the larger types.  talk to the venue, they may be able to help you out on this, but definitely pay for your guests to get there.

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• CaptiolBride

  

  March 2010

  with all that said... I hope you decided to foot the bill.

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• mandych member

  

  March 2010

  Thats so tacky.

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• gperg001 member

  

  March 2010

  Ok, no need to be rude.  It's not like I asked the guests, due to the fact that I asked your opinions before doing anything I obviously don't want to be rude to my guests.  Sorry I don't read a million bridal magazines every day to learn all the possible etiquette rules.  And thanks for worrying about my finances, but I'm pretty sure I wouldn't have even looked at any venue I couldn't afford.  Those of you who had constructive ideas, thank you, putting vouchers in somewhere does sound like a good idea.

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• anne.azano

  

  April 2010

  Would the mountain give you some kind of bulk discount since your event will be bringing in a lot of income to the gondola?  It wouldn't hurt to ask.  

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• nda_roxybabe member

  

  April 2010 edited April 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_ok-ask-guests-pay?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:667a05a2-4cba-4da3-a8c9-cce78a947eebPost:90f34e57-2380-45ae-903d-54fd77e6700a">Re: Is it ok to ask guests to pay??</a>:
  [QUOTE]Ok, no need to be rude.  It's not like I asked the guests, due to the fact that I asked your opinions before doing anything I obviously don't want to be rude to my guests.<strong>  Sorry I don't read a million bridal magazines every day to learn all the possible etiquette rules.</strong>  And thanks for worrying about my finances, but I'm pretty sure I wouldn't have even looked at any venue I couldn't afford.  Those of you who had constructive ideas, thank you, putting vouchers in somewhere does sound like a good idea.
  Posted by gperg001[/QUOTE]
  You don't have to be an etiquette expert to realize this is a bad, tacky idea. I would think it would be common sense that you can't charge people to come to your party.

  
  

  
  

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• RebeccaB88 member

  

  May 2010

  Definitely can't ask them to pay.  I like the idea of negotiating a bulk rate with the resort that you pay in advance.  The lift tickets could be a souvenir of sorts, or go by guest list.

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