Cupcakes are actually cheaper at my venue so we're going with those! I'm going to see if they will have plates and forks though because I hate eating cupcakes with my hands!
Things I don't get: -Weird photo ideas. I'm a bigger fan of natural looking pictures, and I really don't like the pictures that seem like they're trying too hard to do something new and different. One example is the one going around with the bride holding up a mirror that reflects the bridesmaids. Ugh.
-The "cute" ways of asking for money. Usually jars/jugs with "honeymoon fund" or "who wears the cake" written on them or something like that.
-Groom's cakes. I know this isn't a new thing, and it's actually pretty traditional in some places, but I don't get it. I've never seen one at a wedding and I don't really get the point. IMO, if you want to do something fun with the cake, do it!
-"Proposing" to bridesmaids. I thought of asking them in a cute way, but in the end, I just asked them. No need to get them a fake ring or some fancy note.
-Agree with reception dresses. I spent enough money on one dress! I love it, why would I switch it out for something less amazing?
-The signs and notes for the grooms as someone else mentioned. The "it's your last chance to run!" was kinda funny at first, but why would someone actually do that? And there's that one going around with the bridesmaids that have post-its on their hands... why??
-The pictures with the groom blindfolded so he can be with the bride but not actually see her before the ceremony. I don't really see the point. Just text or call each other if you want to say something beforehand. If you don't want to see each other before the ceremony, then don't.
-Cheesy favors. Like "We met our match!" on a matchbook, things like that. I'm just not a fan of cheesy but I guess I can see why people think it's cute. I just don't like it.
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In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_ridiculous-wedding-ideas-youve-seen?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:439df178-8a36-4fc9-a597-135ac4edbfe1Post:acb12f03-9ad2-4cb6-879e-c64b93bc62f6">Re: Ridiculous wedding ideas you've seen</a>: [QUOTE]I agree with all of this! I actually joined Pinterest, but I have only gone on twice. I guess I don't get it, because I didn't see anything that really interested me. If I want design ideas, I google information, or look in craft books. I am doing my invitations completely by hand and did my save the dates too, but I designed them before going on Pinterest. <strong>Oh and the themes confuse me too. I have been asked what our "theme" is and I give a blank stare back. I assume the theme is wedding.</strong> Lol And the cupcakes, Ugh! I don't know why that became a thing. It reminds me of the dessert in a mason jar fad. Why would you do that? I prefer my dessert the normal way. I will admit I looked into a photo booth, but I wanted a traditional one. Not the backdrop with props, where 8 people can be in a "booth" shot. An actual booth that only 2-3 people can squeeze into and no props. It doesn't work with our budget, so we won't have one, but I was happy to see that they DO still exist. Posted by GardenMaven[/QUOTE]<div> </div><div>ITA with the bolded. Since when do you need a theme? My standard response is that our wedding theme is "Sh!t we like" and the reception theme is "Hey b!tches, we got married, yo."
We had a groom's cake, mostly so guests would have a variety of cake flavors to choose from. The wedding cake was red velvet, his groom's cake was a dirt cake with a giant gummy worm on top, and chocolate and vanilla dirt cupcakes. That way, those who wanted cake, had a choice, and those who prefer cupcakes, could have cupcakes.
I've seen a horrifying trend in engagement photographs where the bride "hunts" the groom. who is sometimes wearing a horsehead. I wish I were making this up. I hate it with the heat of a thousand burning suns.
Quirky shoes. Bleh.
Asking for money. Grotesque.
Mason jars are not Swiss Army Knife of weddings. They can't be everything. Please stop trying to make them so.
Gotta agree that theme weddings are just asinine. Why turn an expensive, beautiful, special day into a costume party?
Signature drinks. It's usually not a signature drink, it's a drink special. But whatevs. Not everything has to have your personal trademark on it.
Images of the groom trying to take the bride and the bridesmaids pulling her back, or the groomsmen holding back the groom while the bridesmaids hold back the bride. I've seen a couple of Knotties with these images and I get it - they're cute at first glance, but I don't like the idea that there is some resistance about the wedding.
Trends I love:
Cupcakes!
Feathers seem to be everywhere right now. I'm okay with that, but don't like them on cakes.
Ever-prettier cakes. They're getting yummier and more beautiful every year.
Ever-prettier gowns, and the normalization of blush and champagne as valid wedding gown colours.
I don't understand bride and or groom performing at their own wedding. even with amazing talent, it's your wedding not a concert. i also can't stand when grooms go allllll up under bride's dress to retrieve the garter. I feel like a voyeur when that happens. I agree with pp about photo booths and mason jars.
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Just thought of another thing that I don't get - The Shoe game. Maybe it's because where I'm from games at weddings games are a no no but I find it terribly boring for guests and uncomfortable to watch.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_ridiculous-wedding-ideas-youve-seen?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:439df178-8a36-4fc9-a597-135ac4edbfe1Post:490b526c-308e-4e37-a9c9-f3bc0e5beab8">Re: Ridiculous wedding ideas you've seen</a>: [QUOTE]Feathers seem to be everywhere right now. I'm okay with that, but don't like them on cakes. Posted by JaneAustensGhost[/QUOTE]
<div>I don't have a problem with feathers, especially since they technically could be re-used. But every time I see them, I think, "My cat would LOVE that." Lol Zephyr only plays with toys that include feathers.</div><div> </div><div>rachelm- My mom is the same way. And I'll admit I have felt awkward at a few weddings when the groom removes the garter with his teeth. AND there have always been young children there. I'm not a prude, but really, that is not necessary.</div><div> </div><div>Hoboken- What is the Shoe Game? Should I even ask?</div><div> </div><div> </div>
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_ridiculous-wedding-ideas-youve-seen?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:439df178-8a36-4fc9-a597-135ac4edbfe1Post:edf58ce0-d536-4172-9b0a-85c724d3a252">Re: Ridiculous wedding ideas you've seen</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ridiculous wedding ideas you've seen : Hah! That's exactly my reaction! I mean do most people have a different theme? Some people are almost disappointed-sounding when I tell them that there is no theme. Maybe I should start telling them that the theme is pirates or clowns or something that you'd see at a kids' party! Posted by a6a14173[/QUOTE]
<div>Not really "theme" related, but I do like to tell people that the BM dresses will be seafoam green. (They will actually be eggplant or other dark purple.) I'm thinking for theme I should say 'Hello Kitty'. Also kid party appropriate and even more odd since I am not a fan of pink! :-)</div>
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_ridiculous-wedding-ideas-youve-seen?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:439df178-8a36-4fc9-a597-135ac4edbfe1Post:f2314d89-e87e-40f0-939b-84035b5d1bb2">Re: Ridiculous wedding ideas you've seen</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ridiculous wedding ideas you've seen : I don't have a problem with feathers, especially since they technically could be re-used. But every time I see them, I think, "My cat would LOVE that." Lol Zephyr only plays with toys that include feathers. rachelm- My mom is the same way. And I'll admit I have felt awkward at a few weddings when the groom removes the garter with his teeth. AND there have always been young children there. I'm not a prude, but really, that is not necessary.<strong> Hoboken- What is the Shoe Game? Should I even ask?</strong> Posted by GardenMaven[/QUOTE]
It's where the bride and groom sit back to back. Each has one shoe is theirs and one shoe of their partners. SOmeone asks them questions about their relationship and they hold up the shoe of the person the question most relates to. FOr example if the question is who likes to shoe more, they may each hold up the bride's shoe. I just don't get it.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_ridiculous-wedding-ideas-youve-seen?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:439df178-8a36-4fc9-a597-135ac4edbfe1Post:419383bf-6f08-4785-8ffe-cb4713310427">Re: Ridiculous wedding ideas you've seen</a>: [QUOTE]Photo booths. I just don't see the point. I mean, maybe the first time I saw one I though it was cool. After that, it was just copying someone else's not-so-great-to-begin-with idea. Posted by Avion22[/QUOTE]
My Photographers set up a photobooth- with a backdrop and a ton of props. I just got to look at all the pictures and it was a HUGE hit, I'm actually sending them in my thank you cards to everyone. I thought it was a cool idea and it turned out great.
Its weird, I dont typically think many things are ridiculous. I'm more of a "To Each Their Own" kinda gal.
II personally love cupcakes.
I considered a second reception dress that was also short *gasp*. I only considered this because when I was dress shopping I found a 2 in 1 dress that I loved the Reception dress, but not the whole dress. It was a gorgeous, fitted lace & bead short dress. When I came out in it everyone agreed that it was a ME dress! I didn't end up buying it because I didn't love the dress as a whole. But I did consider buying the dress just for the Reception Dress.
We are having a photobooth but only because a friend of our offered to do it and we thought why not, it would be fun. We've seen his photos from other weddings and it was a cute idea. There would be no way we'd pay to do it though.
Lastly, things I think are ridiculous... Traditional Head Tables. God I hate them. Why would anyone want to sit at a table with everyone facing the room. You can't even have a proper conversation with the people you've asked to stand up with you becuase the guy on the end is 10 feet away. Its so dumb.
H and I had cupcakes at our wedding because we prefer them over regular cake. No guest had to eat them with their hands because we did provide forks and plates and plenty of napkins. They were also significantly less expensive then a traditional wedding cake in our area.
Basically everything that you see at weddings has been done umpteen times before so there really isn't an "original" idea out there anymore. I do think the wedding industry has pumped brides heads full of unnecessary ideas just to make more money.
Things I think are ridiculous... 1) Wedding websites. Every wedding I have been to lately has had one. The only one I have ever looked at is my best friends just because she was talking it up so much. If I am good enough friends/family members to be invited to the wedding I most likely already know how the couple met. As for the bridal party, I really could care less who they have in it or how they know them. I figure that the people standing up there are the nearest and dearest to the couple and that is all I really need to know.
2) Engagement pictures. Yes I understand that many couples just don't have a lot of nice pictures of just the two of them but why have an all day photo shoot with 3 outfit changes to then have 200+ pictures to sort through. What are you going to do with all of them? Make wallpaper? I really think it is a waste of money. I know some say it is to get comfortable with your photographer, but that really is a load of bull in my opinion. I met my photographer the day of my wedding and she was professional and nice and the pictures were great, which I knew they were going to be from looking at her other work online.
3) Personalized napkins. Because it is smart to shell out money on something that no one will notice and that people will wipe their mouths, hands or noses on.
4) STDs. I may get a lot of heat for this but I again do not see the point. Yes, I realize that you may have a lot of OOT guests coming and that you want them to know your date so they can make travel arrangements but why can't you pick up the phone or write a nice little note to those VIPs instead of spending money on a magnet or postcard? If STDs are "necessary" then they really only have to be sent to your VIP list. The 2 or so months before the wedding when I receive the invite is usually enough time for 90% of your guest list to make arrangements or take the day off if needed.
5) Reception dresses. Why in the world would you want to change out of your wedding dress? You only get to wear it once so why would you not want to wear it for the entire day? If you have a big princess dress that you love then deal with the slight discomfort. it is the only day that you can wear a huge white dress without being side-eyed.
6) Cake table words. What is the point? People came to your wedding and watched you exchange vows. They know that you said "I DO" or that you are the "Bride" and "Groom". They haven't forgotten and do not need to be reminded by pointless wooden letters on a table.
I am sure there are more things that I think are ridiculous because the only things that have ever mattered to me when I go to weddings is if they have good food, good drinks, and good music.
And sorry if this sounded on the harsh side. It is Monday and I am at work where I really don't want to be.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_ridiculous-wedding-ideas-youve-seen?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:439df178-8a36-4fc9-a597-135ac4edbfe1Post:ad14c7cc-743e-4392-bba9-a98bd4c2d7cb">Re: Ridiculous wedding ideas you've seen</a>: [QUOTE]If it's not your wedding ... why do you care? You all would probably HATE my wedding. I'm not going to be wearing shoes, period, and neither will any of my bridesmaids. FI and his groomsmen will be in sandals with their suits. Our tables are picnic tables, topped with dyed burlap runners, Mason jars and wildflowers. I grew up canning vegetables with my grandmother. I drink wine from a Mason jar on a regular basis. It's not part of a fad. It's who I am. Oh yeah, and we're not serving a full meal. We'll have wine and hors d'ouevres. I'm getting married in the grass, next to a barn. My wedding will have a 'rustic' feel, because, you know, that's what I want. You each are allowed to plan your own weddings as you see fit, I'd say the rest of us deserve the same courtesy. Without catty web judgment. Posted by TheMissusLia[/QUOTE]
I think you are taking this post way too seriously.
Every one judges. It is human nature. I am sure you have been somewhere or to some party where you have judged something about the decor, food, drink, etc. If you haven't then you are either lying to yourself or a saint.
We aren't saying that just because the bride and groom have certain things at their weddings that their wedding is crap. If that is what they want then great, but people have a right to an opinion and are allowed to like or dislike things. Isn't it better to b$tch about those things here then to the bride and grooms face?
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_ridiculous-wedding-ideas-youve-seen?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:439df178-8a36-4fc9-a597-135ac4edbfe1Post:ad14c7cc-743e-4392-bba9-a98bd4c2d7cb">Re: Ridiculous wedding ideas you've seen</a>: [QUOTE]If it's not your wedding ... why do you care? You all would probably HATE my wedding. I'm not going to be wearing shoes, period, and neither will any of my bridesmaids. FI and his groomsmen will be in sandals with their suits. Our tables are picnic tables, topped with dyed burlap runners, Mason jars and wildflowers. I grew up canning vegetables with my grandmother. I drink wine from a Mason jar on a regular basis. It's not part of a fad. It's who I am. Oh yeah, and we're not serving a full meal. We'll have wine and hors d'ouevres. I'm getting married in the grass, next to a barn. My wedding will have a 'rustic' feel, because, you know, that's what I want. You each are allowed to plan your own weddings as you see fit, I'd say the rest of us deserve the same courtesy. Without catty web judgment. Posted by TheMissusLia[/QUOTE]
This is a board to just chat on. It's a public forum where people can exchange ideas and share in things. You didn't have to come on to this post if you didn't like it, it wasn't meant for you. I agree with a lot of the things said, but I'm also having some of the things that are disliked when I get married. But I don't take these things as attacks. just chill out for a minute and find a different post to read. :P
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_ridiculous-wedding-ideas-youve-seen?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:439df178-8a36-4fc9-a597-135ac4edbfe1Post:94c77bad-c66e-45dd-a610-5cd53d955740">Re: Ridiculous wedding ideas you've seen</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ridiculous wedding ideas you've seen : No, I don't think I did. Seems to me the post is about two pages of bored, judgmental women talking about what THEY don't like to see at other people's weddings. Groom's cakes, personalized napkins, photobooths, cupcakes, Mason jars. Nothing on that list is particularly offensive, yet it seems incredibly important to each of you. Don't like those things? Dont use them at your wedding. It's that simple. Posted by TheMissusLia[/QUOTE]
Again, you are taking this post way too seriously.
You and your girlfriends honestly don't have pointless conversations about random stuff just for the heck of it? Well this is what we are doing. We are on a wedding forums board talking about wedding stuff that we could live without or just dislike. We aren't putting down anyones wedding and could care less if you or any other bride use any or all of the items listed in your own wedding. The items I listed in my post are things that I didn't include in my wedding because I think they are dumb and pointless. No where in my post did I say that brides who do include these things will have sh$tty weddings and are dumba$$es.
Again, people are allowed to opinions and are allowed to voice those opinions.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_ridiculous-wedding-ideas-youve-seen?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:439df178-8a36-4fc9-a597-135ac4edbfe1Post:7486396a-60e5-42d8-94b1-22c779022f0a">Re: Ridiculous wedding ideas you've seen</a>: [QUOTE]Ya'll would hate my wedding then. I'm going to wear red cowboy boots under my dress, my girls are in cowboy boots, mason jars and fingerprint trees and burlap will run rampant. I planned all this out before pinterest exploded with the rustic-disease. To each their own. and yes I have a themed wedding : firefighter/country Posted by blueikaos[/QUOTE]
I wouldn't hate your wedding. I actually like rustic weddings. They seem simple (not in a bad way) and relaxed, which is a nice change of pace from the "traditional" ballroom type weddings.
I think the only reason I don't like fingerprint trees is because I hate the messiness factor and the chance of accidentedly getting ink not only all over my hands but on my face and dress.
Again, we aren't saying that if a photobooth is at your wedding we would automatically hate your entire wedding. We are saying that there are certain aspects that we just aren't crazy about. Like everyone hating on cupcakes. I had cupcakes but could care less that others think they are too birthday-ish. That is there opinion and I respect it but that certainly wasn't going to stop me from having them. You need to have the aspects you love because it is you and your FI wedding and it should reflect you as a couple.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_ridiculous-wedding-ideas-youve-seen?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:439df178-8a36-4fc9-a597-135ac4edbfe1Post:f48f33b6-dc0f-44f8-a5ce-09cbb90cfe50">Re:Ridiculous wedding ideas you've seen</a>: [QUOTE]For the love of fluffy bunnies, it's a freaking conversation on an Internet website. None of us have said we'd end a friendship or refuse to attend a wedding with these things. In fact, I'm betting almost everyone posting had or will have SOMETHING at their wedding that someone else complained about on here. Chill out and grow up. Mag, I was right there with you on E pics until my brother's wedding.<strong> His photog was AWFUL to work with</strong>. The pics turned out beautiful, but he didn't get a lot of photos they wanted because he refused to listen to them at all and my family STILL talks about how rude and insulting and unorganized he was over a year later. They got gorgeous pics, but their day was nearly ruined by the photog. After that, I can see the whole "getting to work with the photog beforehand" argument. Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]
This is a good point, but I think this could have been found out without e-pics by asking previous customers or having a few sit down meetings with him to get a feel of what he is like.
Sorry your brother had such a bad experience with the photog. I guess the only silver lining is that his pictures still turned out amazing. It would have been like another blow to an already broken nose if the pictures sucked.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_ridiculous-wedding-ideas-youve-seen?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:439df178-8a36-4fc9-a597-135ac4edbfe1Post:fd3cfee0-48a8-46e6-9d14-02e675398351">Re:Ridiculous wedding ideas you've seen</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re:Ridiculous wedding ideas you've seen: Oh, I'm not saying it's NECESSARY, but I understand why someone would want to whereas I didn't before. They had several conversations with him and he was perfectly pleasant and nice. It wasnt until he started taking photos that he became a pompous ass. Of course, I also don't know <strong>anyone who has paid for their ep</strong>ics, they're usually included for free around here. Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]
Around here they are usually extra, so I guess that is why I am more on the "what is the point?" side of things.
My friend had a photographer like that. Apparently he was very pleasant until the wedding day in which he kept shouting at us to point our toes directly at him. He also got upset because one of the BMs was on crutches due to her recovering from a very serious car accident. He kept asking her if she was sure she couldn't stand without them. Really dude? She broke her hip and her one leg and twisted the hell out of the other ankle. You should be happy that she is even able to stand up with crutches let alone without them.
I would say that roughly half of the ideas people have listed were at my wedding. Nothing about it is etiquette faux pas, it's just taste differences, maybe a regional difference.
I think the only thing I would outright slam is someone's wedding being called 'unique'. No, it's not unique. No one's wedding is unique. It can be lovely and memorable without being unique. The reason so many weddings have so many similar aspects is because they work WELL for a wedding. If you haven't seen it before, there's a good chance the reason you haven't seen it before is that it doesn't work well for a wedding.
There is a jem right now on the R & G about setting up a paypal account so people can deposit money into the B & G's account from their smart phones instead of writing a check or giving cash. I'd add that to ridiculous.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_ridiculous-wedding-ideas-youve-seen?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:439df178-8a36-4fc9-a597-135ac4edbfe1Post:4fa7d6e5-d488-4ce1-97b0-2d3c011fd7a9">Re: Ridiculous wedding ideas you've seen</a>: [QUOTE]There is a jem right now on the R & G about setting up a paypal account so people can deposit money into the B & G's account from their smart phones instead of writing a check or giving cash. I'd add that to ridiculous. Posted by HobokenBride2012[/QUOTE]
I saw that! And her reasoning is that "nobody carries cash nowadays anyway" ... um, I was completely unaware that if people wanted to give cash at a wedding they couldn't just, I don't know, withdraw cash at an ATM just that ONE time to put in a card. Or, you know, write a check.
Clearly, I must crazy and need an education on how people in "the real world" do things <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-undecided.gif" border="0" alt="Undecided" title="Undecided" />
*I felt sorry for my husband before I met him. Take a number.*
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_ridiculous-wedding-ideas-youve-seen?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:439df178-8a36-4fc9-a597-135ac4edbfe1Post:d0d961aa-c4c7-4509-93b9-916bcac63e78">Re: Ridiculous wedding ideas you've seen</a>: [QUOTE]I would say that roughly half of the ideas people have listed were at my wedding. Nothing about it is etiquette faux pas, it's just taste differences, maybe a regional difference. I think the only thing I would outright slam is someone's wedding being called 'unique'. No, it's not unique. No one's wedding is unique.<strong> It can be lovely and memorable without being unique. The reason so many weddings have so many similar aspects is because they work WELL for a wedding.</strong> If you haven't seen it before, there's a good chance the reason you haven't seen it before is that it doesn't work well for a wedding. Posted by cwaggoner07[/QUOTE]
Exactly! That's kind of what I was trying to say above. I mean, your wedding looked absolutely beautiful, I remember from the pics you shared. And as a guest at your wedding, I wouldn't be all "pffft, this is the tenth wedding I've been to that had ______." I mean, there's a reason why people have bubbles, or cupcakes, or photobooths. Many people enjoy them. I don't care how many times I've seen something before, especially if I like it.
And you're right too about there being a reason why certain things aren't seen at weddings.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_ridiculous-wedding-ideas-youve-seen?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:439df178-8a36-4fc9-a597-135ac4edbfe1Post:d0d961aa-c4c7-4509-93b9-916bcac63e78">Re: Ridiculous wedding ideas you've seen</a>: [QUOTE]. The reason so many weddings have so many similar aspects is because they work WELL for a wedding. <strong>If you haven't seen it before, there's a good chance the reason you haven't seen it before is that it doesn't work well for a wedding.</strong> Posted by cwaggoner07[/QUOTE]
This a million times over. I've been on TK for at least a thousand "internet years", and I've seen so many ideas that the bride defended because "we're quirky/not stuck up/insert justification of being unique here" when in reality, it was just a bad idea and THAT'S why nobody else has done it before.
Examples include the groom that didn't want to pick GMs, so he just wanted to have a couch and a cooler full of beers next to him during the ceremony for any guy attending the wedding that "felt like they should be a GM" to partake of, the bride who wanted to place sealed envelopes of her sonogram pic at every seat and have all of the guests open them at the same time to announce her pregnancy, and the couple that wanted all of their guests to attend an outdoor sunrise ceremony in the middle of winter in a northern state and not allow anyone to wear coats because "it would ruin the pictures" in order to get married on their dating anniversary.
*I felt sorry for my husband before I met him. Take a number.*
I'd like to add an overall ridiculous idea- that any part of a wedding is more important that how guests are treated. I was invited to a wedding this Fall but had to wait until after the rsvp deadline to find out if my fiance could go. They were on a limited budget, and decided that they could only afford 75 people. Instead of cutting back on extreas , they opted to B-list my fiance and who knows who else (their RSVP deadline was 7 weeks before the wedding, so I'm pretty sure he wasn't alone on the B-list). We ended up not going because there was no way I could find out my work schedule that far in advance and so had to respond as a "no".
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_ridiculous-wedding-ideas-youve-seen?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:439df178-8a36-4fc9-a597-135ac4edbfe1Post:9f569026-1673-4776-9883-f80c779412ea">Re: Ridiculous wedding ideas you've seen</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ridiculous wedding ideas you've seen : This a million times over. I've been on TK for at least a thousand "internet years", and I've seen so many ideas that the bride defended because "we're quirky/not stuck up/insert justification of being unique here" when in reality, it was just a bad idea and THAT'S why nobody else has done it before. Examples include the groom that didn't want to pick GMs, so he just wanted to have a couch and a cooler full of beers next to him during the ceremony for any guy attending the wedding that "felt like they should be a GM" to partake of, the bride who wanted to place sealed envelopes of her sonogram pic at every seat and have all of the guests open them at the same time to announce her pregnancy, and the couple that wanted all of their guests to attend an outdoor sunrise ceremony in the middle of winter in a northern state and not allow anyone to wear coats because "it would ruin the pictures" in order to get married on their dating anniversary. Posted by RamonaFlowers[/QUOTE]
Let's not forget the groom that wanted people to shoot paint balls at him and the bride for money because it's less tacky than a money dance. And all of the pot lucks and having guests pay for their own food.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_ridiculous-wedding-ideas-youve-seen?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:439df178-8a36-4fc9-a597-135ac4edbfe1Post:c0cbaa5b-7a62-4b6a-a95d-46ac51f2c7be">Re: Ridiculous wedding ideas you've seen</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ridiculous wedding ideas you've seen : <strong>Let's not forget the groom that wanted people to shoot paint balls at him and the bride for money because it's less tacky than a money dance</strong>. And all of the pot lucks and having guests pay for their own food. Posted by HobokenBride2012[/QUOTE]
Omg, is there actually a crazy TK wedding plan that I managed to miss somehow?!?!?!?! I seriously don't remember this ... which is so weird, because I have the creepiest of creepy TK memories, lol.
*I felt sorry for my husband before I met him. Take a number.*
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_ridiculous-wedding-ideas-youve-seen?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:439df178-8a36-4fc9-a597-135ac4edbfe1Post:6658e077-33c7-416f-b896-8f27e703c8fc">Re: Ridiculous wedding ideas you've seen</a>: [QUOTE]Sadly Ramona you missed this jem. <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_a-different-approach-to-dollar-dance?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:5Discussion:a448a371-6422-412e-ba79-85c2f4259da1Post:9e9e0c72-8ebf-4386-a181-bfd1c4ef27f6">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_a-different-approach-to-dollar-dance?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:5Discussion:a448a371-6422-412e-ba79-85c2f4259da1Post:9e9e0c72-8ebf-4386-a181-bfd1c4ef27f6</a> Posted by HobokenBride2012[/QUOTE]
<div>Holy crap. I've only gotten through one page so far. That guy is an a$$ to the extreme. It's horrible, but I can't stop reading.</div>
Re: Ridiculous wedding ideas you've seen
Things I don't get:
-Weird photo ideas. I'm a bigger fan of natural looking pictures, and I really don't like the pictures that seem like they're trying too hard to do something new and different. One example is the one going around with the bride holding up a mirror that reflects the bridesmaids. Ugh.
-The "cute" ways of asking for money. Usually jars/jugs with "honeymoon fund" or "who wears the cake" written on them or something like that.
-Groom's cakes. I know this isn't a new thing, and it's actually pretty traditional in some places, but I don't get it. I've never seen one at a wedding and I don't really get the point. IMO, if you want to do something fun with the cake, do it!
-"Proposing" to bridesmaids. I thought of asking them in a cute way, but in the end, I just asked them. No need to get them a fake ring or some fancy note.
-Agree with reception dresses. I spent enough money on one dress! I love it, why would I switch it out for something less amazing?
-The signs and notes for the grooms as someone else mentioned. The "it's your last chance to run!" was kinda funny at first, but why would someone actually do that? And there's that one going around with the bridesmaids that have post-its on their hands... why??
-The pictures with the groom blindfolded so he can be with the bride but not actually see her before the ceremony. I don't really see the point. Just text or call each other if you want to say something beforehand. If you don't want to see each other before the ceremony, then don't.
-Cheesy favors. Like "We met our match!" on a matchbook, things like that. I'm just not a fan of cheesy but I guess I can see why people think it's cute. I just don't like it.
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[QUOTE]I agree with all of this! I actually joined Pinterest, but I have only gone on twice. I guess I don't get it, because I didn't see anything that really interested me. If I want design ideas, I google information, or look in craft books. I am doing my invitations completely by hand and did my save the dates too, but I designed them before going on Pinterest. <strong>Oh and the themes confuse me too. I have been asked what our "theme" is and I give a blank stare back. I assume the theme is wedding.</strong> Lol And the cupcakes, Ugh! I don't know why that became a thing. It reminds me of the dessert in a mason jar fad. Why would you do that? I prefer my dessert the normal way. I will admit I looked into a photo booth, but I wanted a traditional one. Not the backdrop with props, where 8 people can be in a "booth" shot. An actual booth that only 2-3 people can squeeze into and no props. It doesn't work with our budget, so we won't have one, but I was happy to see that they DO still exist.
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</div><div>ITA with the bolded. Since when do you need a theme? My standard response is that our wedding theme is "Sh!t we like" and the reception theme is "Hey b!tches, we got married, yo."
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[QUOTE]Feathers seem to be everywhere right now. I'm okay with that, but don't like them on cakes.
Posted by JaneAustensGhost[/QUOTE]
<div>I don't have a problem with feathers, especially since they technically could be re-used. But every time I see them, I think, "My cat would LOVE that." Lol Zephyr only plays with toys that include feathers.</div><div>
</div><div>rachelm- My mom is the same way. And I'll admit I have felt awkward at a few weddings when the groom removes the garter with his teeth. AND there have always been young children there. I'm not a prude, but really, that is not necessary.</div><div>
</div><div>Hoboken- What is the Shoe Game? Should I even ask?</div><div>
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ridiculous wedding ideas you've seen : Hah! That's exactly my reaction! I mean do most people have a different theme? Some people are almost disappointed-sounding when I tell them that there is no theme. Maybe I should start telling them that the theme is pirates or clowns or something that you'd see at a kids' party!
Posted by a6a14173[/QUOTE]
<div>Not really "theme" related, but I do like to tell people that the BM dresses will be seafoam green. (They will actually be eggplant or other dark purple.) I'm thinking for theme I should say 'Hello Kitty'. Also kid party appropriate and even more odd since I am not a fan of pink! :-)</div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ridiculous wedding ideas you've seen : I don't have a problem with feathers, especially since they technically could be re-used. But every time I see them, I think, "My cat would LOVE that." Lol Zephyr only plays with toys that include feathers. rachelm- My mom is the same way. And I'll admit I have felt awkward at a few weddings when the groom removes the garter with his teeth. AND there have always been young children there. I'm not a prude, but really, that is not necessary.<strong> Hoboken- What is the Shoe Game? Should I even ask?</strong>
Posted by GardenMaven[/QUOTE]
It's where the bride and groom sit back to back. Each has one shoe is theirs and one shoe of their partners. SOmeone asks them questions about their relationship and they hold up the shoe of the person the question most relates to. FOr example if the question is who likes to shoe more, they may each hold up the bride's shoe. I just don't get it.
[QUOTE]Photo booths. I just don't see the point. I mean, maybe the first time I saw one I though it was cool. After that, it was just copying someone else's not-so-great-to-begin-with idea.
Posted by Avion22[/QUOTE]
My Photographers set up a photobooth- with a backdrop and a ton of props. I just got to look at all the pictures and it was a HUGE hit, I'm actually sending them in my thank you cards to everyone. I thought it was a cool idea and it turned out great.
Basically everything that you see at weddings has been done umpteen times before so there really isn't an "original" idea out there anymore. I do think the wedding industry has pumped brides heads full of unnecessary ideas just to make more money.
Things I think are ridiculous...
1) Wedding websites. Every wedding I have been to lately has had one. The only one I have ever looked at is my best friends just because she was talking it up so much. If I am good enough friends/family members to be invited to the wedding I most likely already know how the couple met. As for the bridal party, I really could care less who they have in it or how they know them. I figure that the people standing up there are the nearest and dearest to the couple and that is all I really need to know.
2) Engagement pictures. Yes I understand that many couples just don't have a lot of nice pictures of just the two of them but why have an all day photo shoot with 3 outfit changes to then have 200+ pictures to sort through. What are you going to do with all of them? Make wallpaper? I really think it is a waste of money. I know some say it is to get comfortable with your photographer, but that really is a load of bull in my opinion. I met my photographer the day of my wedding and she was professional and nice and the pictures were great, which I knew they were going to be from looking at her other work online.
3) Personalized napkins. Because it is smart to shell out money on something that no one will notice and that people will wipe their mouths, hands or noses on.
4) STDs. I may get a lot of heat for this but I again do not see the point. Yes, I realize that you may have a lot of OOT guests coming and that you want them to know your date so they can make travel arrangements but why can't you pick up the phone or write a nice little note to those VIPs instead of spending money on a magnet or postcard? If STDs are "necessary" then they really only have to be sent to your VIP list. The 2 or so months before the wedding when I receive the invite is usually enough time for 90% of your guest list to make arrangements or take the day off if needed.
5) Reception dresses. Why in the world would you want to change out of your wedding dress? You only get to wear it once so why would you not want to wear it for the entire day? If you have a big princess dress that you love then deal with the slight discomfort. it is the only day that you can wear a huge white dress without being side-eyed.
6) Cake table words. What is the point? People came to your wedding and watched you exchange vows. They know that you said "I DO" or that you are the "Bride" and "Groom". They haven't forgotten and do not need to be reminded by pointless wooden letters on a table.
I am sure there are more things that I think are ridiculous because the only things that have ever mattered to me when I go to weddings is if they have good food, good drinks, and good music.
And sorry if this sounded on the harsh side. It is Monday and I am at work where I really don't want to be.
[QUOTE]If it's not your wedding ... why do you care? You all would probably HATE my wedding. I'm not going to be wearing shoes, period, and neither will any of my bridesmaids. FI and his groomsmen will be in sandals with their suits. Our tables are picnic tables, topped with dyed burlap runners, Mason jars and wildflowers. I grew up canning vegetables with my grandmother. I drink wine from a Mason jar on a regular basis. It's not part of a fad. It's who I am. Oh yeah, and we're not serving a full meal. We'll have wine and hors d'ouevres. I'm getting married in the grass, next to a barn. My wedding will have a 'rustic' feel, because, you know, that's what I want. You each are allowed to plan your own weddings as you see fit, I'd say the rest of us deserve the same courtesy. Without catty web judgment.
Posted by TheMissusLia[/QUOTE]
I think you are taking this post way too seriously.
Every one judges. It is human nature. I am sure you have been somewhere or to some party where you have judged something about the decor, food, drink, etc. If you haven't then you are either lying to yourself or a saint.
We aren't saying that just because the bride and groom have certain things at their weddings that their wedding is crap. If that is what they want then great, but people have a right to an opinion and are allowed to like or dislike things. Isn't it better to b$tch about those things here then to the bride and grooms face?
[QUOTE]If it's not your wedding ... why do you care? You all would probably HATE my wedding. I'm not going to be wearing shoes, period, and neither will any of my bridesmaids. FI and his groomsmen will be in sandals with their suits. Our tables are picnic tables, topped with dyed burlap runners, Mason jars and wildflowers. I grew up canning vegetables with my grandmother. I drink wine from a Mason jar on a regular basis. It's not part of a fad. It's who I am. Oh yeah, and we're not serving a full meal. We'll have wine and hors d'ouevres. I'm getting married in the grass, next to a barn. My wedding will have a 'rustic' feel, because, you know, that's what I want. You each are allowed to plan your own weddings as you see fit, I'd say the rest of us deserve the same courtesy. Without catty web judgment.
Posted by TheMissusLia[/QUOTE]
You totally missed the point of this post.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ridiculous wedding ideas you've seen : No, I don't think I did. Seems to me the post is about two pages of bored, judgmental women talking about what THEY don't like to see at other people's weddings. Groom's cakes, personalized napkins, photobooths, cupcakes, Mason jars. Nothing on that list is particularly offensive, yet it seems incredibly important to each of you. Don't like those things? Dont use them at your wedding. It's that simple.
Posted by TheMissusLia[/QUOTE]
Again, you are taking this post way too seriously.
You and your girlfriends honestly don't have pointless conversations about random stuff just for the heck of it? Well this is what we are doing. We are on a wedding forums board talking about wedding stuff that we could live without or just dislike. We aren't putting down anyones wedding and could care less if you or any other bride use any or all of the items listed in your own wedding. The items I listed in my post are things that I didn't include in my wedding because I think they are dumb and pointless. No where in my post did I say that brides who do include these things will have sh$tty weddings and are dumba$$es.
Again, people are allowed to opinions and are allowed to voice those opinions.
I'm going to wear red cowboy boots under my dress, my girls are in cowboy boots, mason jars and fingerprint trees and burlap will run rampant.
I planned all this out before pinterest exploded with the rustic-disease.
To each their own.
and yes I have a themed wedding : firefighter/country
[QUOTE]Ya'll would hate my wedding then. I'm going to wear red cowboy boots under my dress, my girls are in cowboy boots, mason jars and fingerprint trees and burlap will run rampant. I planned all this out before pinterest exploded with the rustic-disease. To each their own. and yes I have a themed wedding : firefighter/country
Posted by blueikaos[/QUOTE]
I wouldn't hate your wedding. I actually like rustic weddings. They seem simple (not in a bad way) and relaxed, which is a nice change of pace from the "traditional" ballroom type weddings.
I think the only reason I don't like fingerprint trees is because I hate the messiness factor and the chance of accidentedly getting ink not only all over my hands but on my face and dress.
Again, we aren't saying that if a photobooth is at your wedding we would automatically hate your entire wedding. We are saying that there are certain aspects that we just aren't crazy about. Like everyone hating on cupcakes. I had cupcakes but could care less that others think they are too birthday-ish. That is there opinion and I respect it but that certainly wasn't going to stop me from having them. You need to have the aspects you love because it is you and your FI wedding and it should reflect you as a couple.
[QUOTE]For the love of fluffy bunnies, it's a freaking conversation on an Internet website. None of us have said we'd end a friendship or refuse to attend a wedding with these things. In fact, I'm betting almost everyone posting had or will have SOMETHING at their wedding that someone else complained about on here. Chill out and grow up. Mag, I was right there with you on E pics until my brother's wedding.<strong> His photog was AWFUL to work with</strong>. The pics turned out beautiful, but he didn't get a lot of photos they wanted because he refused to listen to them at all and my family STILL talks about how rude and insulting and unorganized he was over a year later. They got gorgeous pics, but their day was nearly ruined by the photog. After that, I can see the whole "getting to work with the photog beforehand" argument.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]
This is a good point, but I think this could have been found out without e-pics by asking previous customers or having a few sit down meetings with him to get a feel of what he is like.
Sorry your brother had such a bad experience with the photog. I guess the only silver lining is that his pictures still turned out amazing. It would have been like another blow to an already broken nose if the pictures sucked.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Ridiculous wedding ideas you've seen: Oh, I'm not saying it's NECESSARY, but I understand why someone would want to whereas I didn't before. They had several conversations with him and he was perfectly pleasant and nice. It wasnt until he started taking photos that he became a pompous ass. Of course, I also don't know <strong>anyone who has paid for their ep</strong>ics, they're usually included for free around here.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]
Around here they are usually extra, so I guess that is why I am more on the "what is the point?" side of things.
My friend had a photographer like that. Apparently he was very pleasant until the wedding day in which he kept shouting at us to point our toes directly at him. He also got upset because one of the BMs was on crutches due to her recovering from a very serious car accident. He kept asking her if she was sure she couldn't stand without them. Really dude? She broke her hip and her one leg and twisted the hell out of the other ankle. You should be happy that she is even able to stand up with crutches let alone without them.
[QUOTE]There is a jem right now on the R & G about setting up a paypal account so people can deposit money into the B & G's account from their smart phones instead of writing a check or giving cash. I'd add that to ridiculous.
Posted by HobokenBride2012[/QUOTE]
I saw that! And her reasoning is that "nobody carries cash nowadays anyway" ... um, I was completely unaware that if people wanted to give cash at a wedding they couldn't just, I don't know, withdraw cash at an ATM just that ONE time to put in a card. Or, you know, write a check.
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[QUOTE]I would say that roughly half of the ideas people have listed were at my wedding. Nothing about it is etiquette faux pas, it's just taste differences, maybe a regional difference. I think the only thing I would outright slam is someone's wedding being called 'unique'. No, it's not unique. No one's wedding is unique.<strong> It can be lovely and memorable without being unique. The reason so many weddings have so many similar aspects is because they work WELL for a wedding.</strong> If you haven't seen it before, there's a good chance the reason you haven't seen it before is that it doesn't work well for a wedding.
Posted by cwaggoner07[/QUOTE]
Exactly! That's kind of what I was trying to say above. I mean, your wedding looked absolutely beautiful, I remember from the pics you shared. And as a guest at your wedding, I wouldn't be all "pffft, this is the tenth wedding I've been to that had ______." I mean, there's a reason why people have bubbles, or cupcakes, or photobooths. Many people enjoy them. I don't care how many times I've seen something before, especially if I like it.
And you're right too about there being a reason why certain things aren't seen at weddings.
[QUOTE]. The reason so many weddings have so many similar aspects is because they work WELL for a wedding. <strong>If you haven't seen it before, there's a good chance the reason you haven't seen it before is that it doesn't work well for a wedding.</strong>
Posted by cwaggoner07[/QUOTE]
This a million times over. I've been on TK for at least a thousand "internet years", and I've seen so many ideas that the bride defended because "we're quirky/not stuck up/insert justification of being unique here" when in reality, it was just a bad idea and THAT'S why nobody else has done it before.
Examples include the groom that didn't want to pick GMs, so he just wanted to have a couch and a cooler full of beers next to him during the ceremony for any guy attending the wedding that "felt like they should be a GM" to partake of, the bride who wanted to place sealed envelopes of her sonogram pic at every seat and have all of the guests open them at the same time to announce her pregnancy, and the couple that wanted all of their guests to attend an outdoor sunrise ceremony in the middle of winter in a northern state and not allow anyone to wear coats because "it would ruin the pictures" in order to get married on their dating anniversary.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ridiculous wedding ideas you've seen : This a million times over. I've been on TK for at least a thousand "internet years", and I've seen so many ideas that the bride defended because "we're quirky/not stuck up/insert justification of being unique here" when in reality, it was just a bad idea and THAT'S why nobody else has done it before. Examples include the groom that didn't want to pick GMs, so he just wanted to have a couch and a cooler full of beers next to him during the ceremony for any guy attending the wedding that "felt like they should be a GM" to partake of, the bride who wanted to place sealed envelopes of her sonogram pic at every seat and have all of the guests open them at the same time to announce her pregnancy, and the couple that wanted all of their guests to attend an outdoor sunrise ceremony in the middle of winter in a northern state and not allow anyone to wear coats because "it would ruin the pictures" in order to get married on their dating anniversary.
Posted by RamonaFlowers[/QUOTE]
Let's not forget the groom that wanted people to shoot paint balls at him and the bride for money because it's less tacky than a money dance. And all of the pot lucks and having guests pay for their own food.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ridiculous wedding ideas you've seen : <strong>Let's not forget the groom that wanted people to shoot paint balls at him and the bride for money because it's less tacky than a money dance</strong>. And all of the pot lucks and having guests pay for their own food.
Posted by HobokenBride2012[/QUOTE]
Omg, is there actually a crazy TK wedding plan that I managed to miss somehow?!?!?!?! I seriously don't remember this ... which is so weird, because I have the creepiest of creepy TK memories, lol.
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[QUOTE]Sadly Ramona you missed this jem. <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_a-different-approach-to-dollar-dance?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:5Discussion:a448a371-6422-412e-ba79-85c2f4259da1Post:9e9e0c72-8ebf-4386-a181-bfd1c4ef27f6">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_a-different-approach-to-dollar-dance?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:5Discussion:a448a371-6422-412e-ba79-85c2f4259da1Post:9e9e0c72-8ebf-4386-a181-bfd1c4ef27f6</a>
Posted by HobokenBride2012[/QUOTE]
<div>Holy crap. I've only gotten through one page so far. That guy is an a$$ to the extreme. It's horrible, but I can't stop reading.</div>