Worried about my parents

allisond92 · September 2010

I know I'm really young to even be on this site, but let's have a little introduction, just so you know where I'm coming from.

My boyfriend and I have been dating for little over a year. We know that we can't imagine our lives with anyone else in the world, and he honestly means the world to me. I'll be 18 and a half when he turns 20 in December. We're both in college, both freshmen. Now don't be alarmed, we know that it would be basic nonsense to get married DURING our time in college, and we are going to wait to actually get married until after we've both graduated. It's hard enough being a student, and planning a wedding and being 100 miles from home at the same time? forget about it.

Now what I really wanted to talk about is my parents. I know that once my bf purchases the ring, he wants to ask for my parent's blessing. Notice that I said blessing, and not permission. My parents know me and they know I can be a real individual. My boy and I will still get engaged, but we would prefer to have my parent's blessing. As for his parents, they are ALL for it. I mean, his mom even lets me call her mom. And, well, his stepdad goes by his name, but still. His parents I'm not worried about, and he has talked to them, so it's not like a big surprise to anyone.

I know I'm going to have to talk to my parents face to face about this, but even with all that reasoning about being out of school when we actually get married and his parents' view and all that I'm still really worried that we won't get my parents blessing. And I don't want to have too much bad blood between my soon-to-be fiance and my parents, you know?

Thoughts? Suggestions? Magical potions and or spells? (haha, had to add SOME humor...)

katanne9 · September 2010

My advice is to continue waiting. I'm not sure why you're worrying about an event that is several years away. You are only in September of your FRESHMAN year. I'm really glad you know how silly and unwise it is to get married in the next 4 years.

I would continue to wait and grow and grow up. You said it yourself, you are entirely too young. Don't worry about this conversation, because you shouldn't even be having it for another 3 years.

noelle24 · September 2010

I'm confused about why you need to get engaged NOW if you're going to wait until you are out of college to get married. That means you have 3.5 years at this point. Honestly, I would wait 2-2.5 more years to get engaged. A year (if you get married right after you graduate) is plenty of time to plan a wedding. And I'm guessing your parents will have a lot fewer reservations about things 2 years from now. Why do you need your parents blessing right.this.second?

heyimbren · September 2010

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[QUOTE]I know I'm really young to even be on this site, but let's have a little introduction, just so you know where I'm coming from. :) My boyfriend and I have been dating for little over a year. We know that we can't imagine our lives with anyone else in the world, and he honestly means the world to me. I'll be 18 and a half when he turns 20 in December. We're both in college, both freshmen. Now don't be alarmed , we know that it would be basic nonsense to get married DURING our time in college, and we are going to wait to actually get married until after we've both graduated . It's hard enough being a student, and planning a wedding and being 100 miles from home at the same time? forget about it. Now what I really wanted to talk about is my parents. I know that once my bf purchases the ring, he wants to ask for my parent's blessing. Notice that I said blessing, and not permission. My parents know me and they know I can be a real individual. My boy and I will still get engaged, but we would prefer to have my parent's blessing. As for his parents, they are ALL for it. I mean, his mom even lets me call her mom. And, well, his stepdad goes by his name, but still. His parents I'm not worried about, and he has talked to them, so it's not like a big surprise to anyone. I know I'm going to have to talk to my parents face to face about this, but even with all that reasoning about being out of school when we actually get married and his parents' view and all that I'm still really worried that we won't get my parents blessing. And I don't want to have too much bad blood between my soon-to-be fiance and my parents, you know? Thoughts? Suggestions? Magical potions and or spells? (haha, had to add SOME humor...)
Posted by allisond92[/QUOTE]

Honestly, I agree with Kat's advice.

I think it's great that you seem to have your head screwed on straight. You sound very adult about going about this, and realistic about the reactions your parents may (probably) have.

Now, I'm just a little older than you, but probably in a fairly similar situation. I'm not getting engaged any time soon. Here's my reasoning, and all I want to do is share with you my perspective: I think BF and I will probably get married. I can't imagine anyone else meaning this much to me. But I also know I don't want to get married until after I finish my undergrad. I don't see the need to have a ring and formal engagement, just to let everyone know that BF and I are serious and heading in that direction. I just don't see the reason for any of that right now. One day, when we decide it's time and we're ready that can come up then. But if the only thing that's really going to change about your relationship is one of you wearing a ring, and changing your facebook status, why bother? You won't be planning anything. You won't have anything to do for years. I guess what it all comes down to is: what's the point? Besides hearing the words, and getting all giddy and excited (which will still be there later), I guess I don't see the harm in waiting, when you're so young still. Because things easily can and will change.

But, I have a feeling you're going to do this all anyways. I just had to say that. So GL with your parents!

Roo726 · September 2010

okay so I actually can understand why you want to talk to your parents- only because I am very close with my parents and I tell them everything. Regardless of when it is. However, I encourage you not to say something now only because if this relationship doesn't work out for whatever reason, you have now involved your family members. Once they have formed an opinion on your relationship it is very difficult to take that back.

For example: You go get their blessing. 1 year from now, something happens (which unfortunately does happen in relationships) you guys break up. Or have a fight...or i don't know something happens. Your family then knows about it....then you decide to work it out....then they hold on to all this baggage about your relationship. They form all this back and forth opinions about you. OR you could just wait, let the relationship grow , and then graduate and then you can come back to this issue.

PaigeMcC · September 2010

Ditto Kat.

Andplusalso:
I'd say your best bet is to wait. Show them that you're serious about the relationship by sticking it out for a few years, since you're waiting to get married anyways this isn't that big of a deal. Once you've been together a little longer and you're a little older they will be more likely to take you seriously.

They'll have seen that you've stuck with school and you're growing into a responsible adult, they'll see that you've been in a serious relationship for a few years and they'll probably be more likely to really listen and engage in an adult conversation.

So, my advice is to wait for a while. Enjoy your relationship for what it is, continue on with your goals and in a few years it will be much easier to talk to your parents about it. You know you're going to get married so what's the rush with the engagement?

eshaufle · September 2010

I agree with Kat too.

Also, I think getting engaged while you're this young and still in college puts a lot of unnecessary pressure on the relationship. You may think nothing will change but college can change a lot including your views on relationships, your future career, etc.

Enjoy the relationship as it is. If it's still what you want it to be your senior year then I agree that your parents will probably be more willing to accept the idea and you'll be more ready to get engaged then. Plenty of time to plan a wedding after graduation too.

allisond92 · September 2010

I really appreciate all of the feedback and will be thinking seriously about it.

PaigeMcC · September 2010

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[QUOTE]I really appreciate all of the feedback and will be thinking seriously about it. :)
Posted by allisond92[/QUOTE]

What a lovely young lady! Please come back and ask us questions any other time.

calindi · September 2010

I also suggest waiting. My rule of thumb is usually if you are engaged for a period of time longer than you were dating before you got engaged, that's just dumb. So if you've been dating 1 year and plan to get married in 4 years... then wait at least 2 more years before you get engaged!

There's no good reason to rush into it and a whole bunch of reasons to wait. You can still be with your guy, but you're an awful lot more likely to get your parents' blessing if they have felt you've given the relationship enough time to go through its natural course to get to that stage. Of course you love each other, which is wonderful, so use this time to build your relationship.

As a cautionary tale, my boyfriend got engaged in college to a girl he'd been dating less than a year, planning to get married in 3-4 years. They grew apart after another year, and both were miserable but had felt they made a commitment by getting engaged so they stayed together another year before they broke up. I'm not saying that's going to happen to you, but if my boyfriend had just continued dating this girl with the intention of getting engaged closer to when they planned on getting married, they both would have felt more free to get out of the relationship when it went south instead of spending 2 miserable years screaming at each other.

On the flip side, my parents started dating in college when my Mom was 19 and my Dad was 20. They were dating 4 years when they got engaged and 5 by the time they were married. Today they've been together a total of 33 years and are ridiculously happy. The time they spent waiting to get married was used to solidify their relationship.

Moral of the story: no reason to hurry, lots of reasons to wait.

katanne9 · September 2010

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[QUOTE] I'd say your best bet is to wait. Show them that you're serious about the relationship by sticking it out for a few years.
Posted by PaigeMcC[/QUOTE]

This!!!

I'm not going to be all "you're so young, omg why are you even thinking about marriage." Because, frankly, I started dating my husband when I was 20 and he was 19. BUT, we didn't get engaged and married until 23/24, (which, BTW, I still consider to think really, really young.)

Your relationship WILL change and grow. If you want your parents BLESSING and happiness, prove to them that you guys are going to grow with time. No one can take any 18 yr. old seriously when they are asking for their blessing. A 22 year old will be a somewhat (albeit still young) story. What Paige said was perfect.

allisond92 · September 2010

Kat, Paige, sunbird, calindi, thanks ^_^ I understand where you all are coming from. By the way Kat, the dress in your pictures is gorgeous from what I can tell!!!!
I'll check back in soon with everyone

Ally

CharityG87 · September 2010

I can TOTALLY relate! Except.. I have been dating my guy for over 6 years... I am just about to be 23 and he is 23 himself.. We have been planning on getting married, and all the discussions we've had, (We are READY) However.. It is an unspoken subject with my parents... We will be getting engaged (I believe fairly soon, atleast before 2011 because thats the year we plan to have it..) You would think that everything would go wonderfully since we have been together for so long! I suppose they think I am still young in their eyes... and i'm the baby of the family.. I have no idea.. I am just scared to even tell them.. So he is going to be "asking" my father for their "blessing". Hopefully everything runs smoothly after that... AH I don't know.. But your right. His parents are SO excited.. I just wish my parents would be... We will see...

Anyway so yeah your parents might take it rough, because yes you are young. And I was very mature at your age, and was dating my guy for years at that point... I just think that in a relationship you have to go through so many steps.. We were ready at year 3, but then again.. I'm glad it has been this long.. things HAPPEN. And you learn A LOT! But then again, everyone is different, and you could very well have your soul mate... But goodluck with your parents, I believe if you are honest and respect each other's opinions, it should work out wonderfully!

whitma87 · September 2010

me and my boyfriend have been dating since i was 16, i'll be 21 in a few months, and i am now in my senior year at college. we both decided a few years ago that we mutually needed to wait for me to graduate (hes been out of college), because he was concerned about my age and wanted to let me "grow up" before we get married. plus, i wouldnt be able to manage a wedding AND being married while still in school.

best thing is to wait, and let your relationship grow.

Blue & White · September 2010

My parents know me well enough to give the blessing if it's asked when it's appropriate. My parents would only NOT give the blessing if they really didn't think I was happy with the bf/fi at the time.

But I knew that when I was about 12, and my bf doesn't have "the blessing" yet, but he'll be asking if/when the time comes.

I guess it's probably more important (to me) to let my parents get to know the guy they may potentially be "blessing" eventually. Go visit occasionally

And don't push him to get the blessing yet. It'll all happen in its own time

Elle1036 · September 2010

Wow, you are young indeed. However, you sound like you're pretty mature for your age, so I commend you on that.

I hear of a lot of young couples chomping at the bit to get married, and the common response is a lot of advice to wait. However, I actually think that getting engaged (and agreeing to a long engagement) is a decent compromise. I remember being 18 through 20 and feeling like everything in my life was a big, scary question mark. Even though I didn't know BF yet, I frequently thought that it would be nice to feel like I had already met that one person who would be there for me now matter what. So, yeah, I get it, and I'm not going to tell you to wait. However, I do think it's important for both you and your BF to enter into the engagement with the understanding that you will both grow and change a lot over the next few years, and that you give each other room to do so. Don't be so afraid of a broken engagement that you smother the relationship, and continue to enjoy your lives as individuals.

Now that I've answered a whole bunch of questions you didn't ask, I'll address the one you did. Your parents. To be honest, I know where you're coming from. I'm 25, BF and I have been together 4 years, and I'm still scared to announce the engagement once it's official. The other day, my mom asked me if marriage was something that we ever talk about, and my first instinct was just to say "not really" and change the subject. Instead, I said "yeah, sometimes" and left it at that. I'm not sure why I couldn't tell her that we've already ordered the ring and will most likely be engaged by Christmas, other that just that I've never been very open with my parents, for a variety of reasons. If it's this challenging now, it would have been infinitely more so when I was 18.

I think the most important thing is to have a mature discussion with your parents, which it doesn't sound like you'll have a problem with. Just be prepared to answer all of their questions, address all their concerns, and truly consider their advice. If you get defensive, shout "you'll never understand me", and run off, that'll just reinforce any opinions that you're not ready for such a hefty commitment. Good luck and keep us posted!

lexa10 · September 2010

Wow,,, so many of these storyies sound identical mine. I am bout to exit my teenage years, and my soon to be fiance is somwhat older than I am. We have been together since I was a junior in high school however, my dad watched him grow up. My dad was his role model, and his mom was my parent's youth leader in church. So our families are extremely familiar with each other. He and I both knew from the very beginning that God had brought us together and that we would never be apart short of a divine revelation lol. Now, I am in my second year of college, and we have been together almost 3 years.
My parent situation is the same as yours. His family LOVES me, and my family LOVES him, but my parents are not so keen on us getting married next year. I have always been mature for my age, and always followed God's leading. And he and I both believe that God has ordained our marriage. That being said, I'm still nervous to break the news to my parents, especially because we do not plan to have a long engagement. I'm praying that they will just accept our decision and hopefully grow to accept it as time passes.
Waiting till I graduate college just isn't an option for us. We will be able to completely support ourselves with no problem, so that won't be a problem.
These ladies do have good advice though about long engagements. I do believe they can work, but most people my/our age do not honor the engagment. They see it almost as a 'promise ring' kind of deal.
But yeah, be open and up front with your parents, because in the long run, they will learn to respect you because of it!
Good Luck!!

Elle1036 · September 2010

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[QUOTE]Wow,,, so many of these storyies sound identical mine. I am bout to exit my teenage years, and my soon to be fiance is somwhat older than I am. We have been together since I was a junior in high school however, my dad watched him grow up. My dad was his role model, and his mom was my parent's youth leader in church. So our families are extremely familiar with each other. He and I both knew from the very beginning that God had brought us together and that we would never be apart short of a divine revelation lol. Now, I am in my second year of college, and we have been together almost 3 years. My parent situation is the same as yours. His family LOVES me, and my family LOVES him, but my parents are not so keen on us getting married next year. I have always been mature for my age, and always followed God's leading. And he and I both believe that God has ordained our marriage. That being said, I'm still nervous to break the news to my parents, especially because we do not plan to have a long engagement. I'm praying that they will just accept our decision and hopefully grow to accept it as time passes. Waiting till I graduate college just isn't an option for us. We will be able to completely support ourselves with no problem, so that won't be a problem. These ladies do have good advice though about long engagements. I do believe they can work, but most people my/our age do not honor the engagment. They see it almost as a 'promise ring' kind of deal. But yeah, be open and up front with your parents, because in the long run, they will learn to respect you because of it! Good Luck!!
Posted by lexa10[/QUOTE]

Hmmmm. Why not?

lexa10 · September 2010

We don't really feel the need to wait. He is already 28, and I won't graduate college for another 4 years. I've always been very mature for my age, and never really dated. He was my first real kiss and that sorta thing. I'm pretty picky, and he meets the standards. And like I said, we knew from the beginning that we would be married at some point in the future. Before we dated, we were friends, and as things progressed, it just became more clear that God had brought us togther and that we never wanted to be apart. We have a place to live and will be able to support ourselves, even while I am in school... So God has realky worked everything out for us..
By no means am I saying that it is all gonna be a bed of roses, but he is my best friend, and I can't imagine my life without him by my side. He is ablsolutely my soul mate!

Elle1036 · September 2010

Lexa -- It sounds like your relationship is solid and you're happy, so congratulations. If you're independent, too, that's all the better. To clarify, though, there's a big difference between saying "a long engagement isn't an option" and "I don't want a long engagement." I won't tell you to wait on the engagement, but I don't see what the rush on the wedding is, unless it's one of those no-sex-before-marriage-and-tired-of-waiting things.

lexa10 · September 2010

LOL, well you are somwhat right.. We have a no sex before marriage rule, and it does somewhat factor into the relationship, but it isn't just about that..The think I look forward too the most right now is not having to say 'goodbye' at night time.. That will probably change, but that is a big deal right now because I don't like to be away from him.. We onlly see each other a few times a week..

bethsmiles · September 2010

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[QUOTE]LOL, well you are somewhat right.. We have a no sex before marriage rule, and it does somewhat factor into the relationship, but it isn't just about that..The think I look forward too the most right now is not having to say 'goodbye' at night time.. That will probably change, but that is a big deal right now because I don't like to be away from him.. We only see each other a few times a week..
Posted by lexa10[/QUOTE]

Do NOT get married to have sex. Don't even let it factor into the timeline. Sex is not a reason to get married. I'm 20 and my boyfriend and I have been together two years (some of which was long distance) and we also have a no sex before marriage rule. I completely understand how hard it is to wait but if you have committed yourself to waiting then getting married just to have sex kind of misses the point.

Doing long distance was horrible. We only got to see each other once every few months. I hated being away from him and originally we were planning to get married this January. Thankfully, we both came to our senses and realized how foolish that would be for us. Sometimes waiting is really hard but some things are worth waiting for. Waiting until your ready in all aspects of your life gives your marriage a solid foot to stand on in a culture where a lot of marriages are on shaky ground.

deburnin · September 2010

What Beth said.... Allowing sex to be a factor in the timeline just says trouble to me. It makes me think that hormones are more in control than logic.

noelle24 · September 2010

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[QUOTE]LOL, well you are somwhat right.. We have a no sex before marriage rule, and it does somewhat factor into the relationship, but it isn't just about that..The think I look forward too the most right now is not having to say 'goodbye' at night time.. That will probably change, but that is a big deal right now because I don't like to be away from him.. We onlly see each other a few times a week..
Posted by lexa10[/QUOTE]

And this is my issue with "no sex before marriage" and even "no sleep-overs before marriage". So many girls rush into things at waaay too young of an age. lexa, please don't let this factor into your timeline for marriage.

FWIW, two of my friends waited for marriage to have sex, but spent the night at each other's apartments. They slept in the same bed and everything! And no sex! Who'da thunk it possible?

Unfortunately, my suspicion is that since lexa's BF is so much older than her, he's a tad more anxious to have sex than she is. I also really wonder how these relationships start. If I was 18 and brought home a 28 year old BF, my mother probably would have chased him out of the house with a butcher knife <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />

allisond92 · September 2010

Lexa and Elle, you hit it right on the head. I completely understand what you're talking about. I mean, we know we're going to be through everything together, through thick and thin, through any arguments and issues, through being able to see each other every other week. We're already there for each other 100% of the time so I guess what we basically feel is that why not make that compromise? I mean, I would marry him tomorrow if I could, but that's extremely unrealistic in any sense. So I feel like it's nice that we can have that compromise.
As far as God goes, we feel like He created each of us with the other one in mind. My boyfriend was born with cancer in his right adrenal gland, which was removed when he was born. Though the doctor had used too much morphine on him, which aided in him developing Cerebal Palsy, though only his physical being was affected and not his brain. From the time he could walk, he was aided with a walker, up until sophomore year of high school. He was skiing and had gotten into a terrible accident, cracking his skull, a rib, a leg, and dislocating his hip. Everything else healed completely minus the hip displasyia. Thus, it confined his mobility to his electrical wheelchair.
And though I know it'll be difficult at times to deal with, I'm prepared to make that commitment to him. I'd have to help him in the bathroom sometimes, but I don't mind. His soul matches mine. and I just know that there isn't anyone better out there who could get me the way he does, or make me feel the way he makes me feel.
As for sex, we haven't. We've fooled around in other ways, but every time is an expression of being one, together, and it's a sacred bond between us.
Those are two more things I've actually talked to my mother about. Even before dating him, she practically warned me not to just because she had worked with people with disabilities, so she knew it would be tough. I think she underestimates me, him, and our commitment to each other.

Elle1036 · September 2010

Goodness! Poor guy. I'm glad he has you to help him through the challenges he'll face.

calindi · September 2010

That's their objection? His disability? Well, clearly they don't give you enough credit.

That said, extra time will certainly add to your argument that you know what you're getting into. It will give you experience together and prepare you both for the adjustments that will need to be made for his handicap. And it will prove to your parents that this is something that is good for you.

breezerb · September 2010

Allison. You sound like an incredible young woman and your man is lucky to have you.

I agree with all of the rest of the posters, just give it a little time and as your love continues to grow so will the acceptance of your parents. Enjoy dating each other for a while because school life is stressful and challenging enough without worrying about an engagement. Just take each day as it comes and when the time is right, everything will fall into place.

lexa10 · September 2010

Geez.. I've just started posting on theses boards, and so far, I haven't been able to explain what I really mean. lol..
So here's another attempt... NO, I am not marrying for sex... If I had to get married under the assumption that it would never be part of our marriege, I would be cool with that.. I love him and sex or lack thereof will not change that. He is my absolute best friend and has been since the very beginning!

Bec20 · September 2010

Ally, I'm glad that you're willing to put more consideration into when you get engaged. I agree with Cate/Calindi in that I think it's odd if you're engaged for longer than you've been together. I'm not saying that it can't work: my BF's parents were engaged after two months (!!!) and were engaged for a year before getting married nearly 25 years ago now. However, they are definitely the exception and not the norm.

A couple confessions of my own now, both things I haven't mentioned on this board yet. First, I only turned 19 last week. So I really am right around your age and can relate to how you're feeling. I don't want to wait another few years to get married, but I know that it is the smartest thing to do so I'm waiting patiently. Rushing won't do any good.

Secondly, Kyle got me a promise ring for my 17th birthday (I know, I know... this just screams BEEBEE doesn't it?). Obviously, we intended to get married to each other some day, even back then. However, we didn't tell anybody the meaning behind it unless they asked. We knew what it meant, as did our parents, which was truly all that mattered.

However, despite all of this, I can understand being nervous when talking to your parents about it. My father and I rarely talk and when we do, it feels awkward no matter what it is about. Growing up my mother always made it clear that getting married young wasn't a good thing. It was only much more recently when we had a heart-to-heart that she told me that while it wasn't right for her, that she knows age only has so much to do with it and that I'm much different than she was. However, she also was relieved to know that I have my head on straight and that if I had to take a guess about when I'd get married I'd say 2014.

Sorry this was so long. I guess the cliff notes would be that I'm young too and that I can understand wanting to let everybody know how serious you are but rushing never did anybody any good, as long as you know where you stand it shouldn't matter if everybody else knows, and that you have to think practically.

I hope you stick around.

lexa10 · September 2010

He and I knew each other since we were old enough to have friends. We have worked church camps before and his mom was my parent's youth leader back in the day, and was recently my Sunday school teacher.. Our families have known each other for years...He isn't pushing me to get married, The reason we have wauted this long is because of me being in school and that sorta thing!

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