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rlhutching21
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Flakey Bridesmaids
All of my bridesmaids have been on board throughout the wedding up until the dress part came up.
I picked out the 'maids dresses back at the beginning of September, telling all seven of the girls they had to send in their measurements and down-payment BEFORE the end of November; plenty of time, right?
All have committed, except for one.
What's funny is she'll answer me when I talk to her, but if it has anything to do with the wedding, she goes MIA.
With the end of November coming up next week, I'm honestly not sure what to do. I do NOT want to have to pull the "it's all or nothing" approach, but she won't respond to my simple requests. I've offered to help everyone (as so I don't single her out) monetarily, if that's the case, but still... Nothing.
Should I go ahead and have the talk with her or wait it out?
I picked out the 'maids dresses back at the beginning of September, telling all seven of the girls they had to send in their measurements and down-payment BEFORE the end of November; plenty of time, right?
All have committed, except for one.
What's funny is she'll answer me when I talk to her, but if it has anything to do with the wedding, she goes MIA.
With the end of November coming up next week, I'm honestly not sure what to do. I do NOT want to have to pull the "it's all or nothing" approach, but she won't respond to my simple requests. I've offered to help everyone (as so I don't single her out) monetarily, if that's the case, but still... Nothing.
Should I go ahead and have the talk with her or wait it out?
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Re: Flakey Bridesmaids
Maybe she's just not into wedding talk?
You can have a talk with her and be, like, "I notice you tend to shut down when I mention the wedding. Please let me now why or am I being paranoid?" Or something like that. Promise to fix what ever the problem is. If she swears nothing is wrong, let it go.
It could very well be a money problem, so make sure you talk to her one on one about this.
If she misses the deadline, then you have your answer.
Your arbitrary deadline is ridiculous anyway. Let her know the date that the salon says she needs to order by to get the dress in with enough time to get alterations done (which shouldn't take more than a few weeks) and trust that she's an adult who doesn't need you to hold her hand for simple tasks. If she doesn't get the dress in time, then she's choosing to take herself out of the wedding party.
I would contact her the week of the deadline just to reminder nicely about the deadline & ask her if everything is ok. If she doesn't get it done & they can't get her dress in time, that makes you decision for you if she's still in the party.
[QUOTE]Whoa, whoa, whoa! What's with the attacking? I am just going by what the bridal shop told me - I don't know how long it takes for dresses to come in. By the way, the dress is only $120 and I made sure they were dresses you could wear again. Also, she's had since the BEGINNING of SEPTEMBER. It's not like I just sprung this on her yesterday. Thanks for the helpful tips, for you all that were friendly. As for the snarky, jump-to-conclusion folks; appreciate it.
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I may be a naggy bride then, too. My BMs are in 3 different states and it took forever to decide on the dress! Based on the bridal shop, they suggested ordering by the end of the month to avoid a delay or rush shipping due to Christmas and Chinese New Year. Plus I'd rather plan ahead and be early, so I told my BMs that the measurements and deposits needed to be in by yesterday. And it was taken care of.
Wait it out tho - only two BMs told me they had called the shop and they actually let me know the 3rd BM had taken care of it as well. I am a planner, so I totally understand wanting to order early, You do have some wiggle room tho, so maybe followup with the store itself at the end of November, and then after a week or so in December, maybe call again...and then if you're still missing the last BM, maybe ask her about it.
Reply requested by March 23.
as for the snarks..dude, what is up with this forum being so snarky anyways..we are brides/bridestobe..we shouldnt be mean..we should be excited for eachother!