Hello ladies! I need your advice!
FI and I had pretty much decided that we wanted to have a smallish DW (think like 20-30 of our closest F&F) and then a semi formal at home reception a few weeks later. My mom passed away very suddendly a few years ago leaving my dad with only one income and the same amount of bills/expenses and I know he won't be able to comfortably help tons with having a big wedding here...and I know he'd try and it breaks my heart to even think about it.
Would you rather have a lavish gorgeous DW wedding with less people and then more of a party back at home (FI's aunt is very wealthy and has a few different houses she'd be more than willing to help us host a party at) or have a really nice smaller wedding here in IL and leave it at that. I just have a feeling that if I start planning a "small" wedding, cutting people/things out will really take a toll on me!
FI is down with whatever I want to do and I know everybody around us will support us regardless, but just wanted some other peoples insight on what they'd do if it was their wedding!
TIA!