Bridesmaid Hair

emilymazon · March 2010

I am paying for all my bridesmaids to get their hair and makeup done. It is not required, just a little gift I wanted to give them if they decided to get their hair done. One of my bridesmaids said she wanted to do a trial with them, and then she would let me know if she would use them on the wedding day. I was insulted that she has to "try" them out before using them. Paying for a trial negates the gift I am giving. I am using them that day and they do wonderful job! Am I being too sensitive about this?

lalap69 · March 2010

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[QUOTE] <span style="font-size:8.5pt;color:#1f1f1f;font-family:Arial;">I am paying for all my bridesmaids to get their hair and makeup done. It is not required, just a little gift I wanted to give them if they decided to get their hair done. One of my bridesmaids said she wanted to do a trial with them, and then she would let me know if she would use them on the wedding day. I was insulted that she has to "try" them out before using them. Paying for a trial negates the gift I am giving. I am using them that day and they do wonderful job! Am I being too sensitive about this?</span>
Posted by emilymazon[/QUOTE]
Yes, you're being too sensitive.

I think you need to accept that just because you are friends does not mean that your taste and styles will be exactly the same, and hair is an incredibly personal matter. So just because you think they do a wonderful job does not mean that she will. She may have concerns about her hair or may have had her hair done in unflattering ways before. Let her have the hair trial if that's what it takes for her to be comfortable. It doesn't negate your gift.

Arther007 · March 2010

I would just push it off as her being very fussy with her hair and makeup.

bablingbrooke · March 2010

Waaaaaaaaaay too sensitive. Not every hair stylist knows how to work with every type of hair; I have thick but fine hair and have had plenty of stylists try to force curls that will only last 5 minutes on me so I won't necessarily just go to a stylist someone else picks for me. Take it as a compliment that she wants to make sure she'll look good for your wedding.

suz62984 · March 2010

Yes-you are being too sensitive on this. Who cares if she wants to do a trial. Some people are control freaks about their hair. I could understand why she would want to do a trial. She can make sure they aren't using products she doesn't like, etc. I also understand your view but I say let this go and don't be upset about it. She isn't trying to offend you by testing the hairstylest...nor should you let this offend you.

trix1223 · March 2010

Yes-too sensitive. How exactly does her having a trial that she'll pay for negate your paying for her hair on your wedding day? Answer: It doesn't. Let it go.

banana468 · March 2010

Yes you're being sensitive.

Think of it the opposite way - she wants to make sure that she looks great for you and doesn't want YOU to waste your money.

FWIW, I really wish I had a trial for my hair for BIL and SIL's wedding. The person who did my hair did an OK job but I wasn't thrilled with it. I went with it because there was no time once it was done.

emilymazon · March 2010

Thanks for the replies. Obviously I took it the wrong way.

banana468 · March 2010

Yeah - don't see it as a distrust. See it as her wanting to be perfect for you. :-)

LarissaAnn · March 2010

Yes, you are. I trust two people with my hair: me, and MY hairdresser. I'd have to do a trial with yours, and I learned that the hard way when I had my hair done for a college formal. I was 4 hours from home so I used a friend's hairdresser. Let me see if I can find a photo of the result...

anne.azano · March 2010

As long as she's not asking you to treat her to the trial and the day of styling, I wouldn't worry about it.

HisCB · March 2010

ditto everyone ^^^^

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