In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-90?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:d5565046-ffc2-4c3b-a2e8-8b4d971b6c89Post:9f822c1c-63fa-430d-b429-41167e86c802">Re: FFF</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I believe they were stillborn, not a miscarriage. So naming them makes more sense to me. I still wouldn't put it in my sig though. Posted by dumdumfroggie[/QUOTE]
They were 17 and 20 weeks. From what I gather, she had just had the funeral for one of them that week.
They were passed 20weeks. She burried these children.
The thing about that whole thing is, I get that the posters there don't really talk about kids/don't want to, but there was much better ways of going about telling Figgs that then just saying 'hey take your dead kids out of your sig'. She didn't even bring up anything kid related. She just wanted to chat about anything OTHER than kids.
ETA- she may have cremated. you get the idea though.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-90?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d5565046-ffc2-4c3b-a2e8-8b4d971b6c89Post:ff2cff93-8a40-400c-88f4-d9ffdfe12d4a">Re: FFF</a>: [QUOTE]Hmm. Well without having read the thread, I will say I think it's effing weird to name a miscarriage and put it in a sig. I wouldn't have said anything to the person, but I'd side eye it. It's a lot less weird than actually putting a dead fetus photo up as a sig. I've heard of that happening before. Posted by daffodil_jill[/QUOTE] I think it's different when they're such late losses that are stillborn, IMO. I'd name that baby too. They were 19 and 20 weeks in, I believe. And I can see putting them in your sig - they were in gray type and super small. It was extremely UNoffensive. <div> </div><div>You're notoriously childfree which is cool, and I know you get offended by stuff dealing with kids more than a lot of people, also cool. But I think even YOU wouldn't have gotten offended by what she had up there. </div><div> </div><div>That is not meant to be demeaning of you at all, Daff. I hope it doesn't come out that way. </div>
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-90?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d5565046-ffc2-4c3b-a2e8-8b4d971b6c89Post:9f822c1c-63fa-430d-b429-41167e86c802">Re: FFF</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I believe they were stillborn, not a miscarriage. So naming them makes more sense to me. I still wouldn't put it in my sig though. Posted by dumdumfroggie[/QUOTE] Yeah, I edited my post above. Agreed on both counts - naming not weird. Putting it in sig, weird.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-90?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d5565046-ffc2-4c3b-a2e8-8b4d971b6c89Post:b9f276f8-8d44-4b40-957a-f3527dd7be63">Re: FFF</a>: [QUOTE]oh kwills, you should never have come back. You won't live this down now. Posted by Habs2Hart[/QUOTE]
I don't see the issue in coming back.. she spent enough time away and was barely here to begin with.. a fresh start coulda been possible. But the new SN thing and trying to post a picture to pretend you are "real" while still trying to hide who you really are seems really contradictory.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-90?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d5565046-ffc2-4c3b-a2e8-8b4d971b6c89Post:0415405c-19ad-4f14-aff8-1a7a542075db">Re: FFF</a>: [QUOTE]I'm willing to give her another chance, but I also have a selective memory so I'm not even sure what she did. Posted by ahhhitsshannyn[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-90?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d5565046-ffc2-4c3b-a2e8-8b4d971b6c89Post:a27e8f87-dfe0-4e77-ab96-8a2bb15e71d7">Re: FFF</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Constant.reminder. I don't know why you'd want that? Posted by jcbsjr[/QUOTE]
<div>I have no idea. I take phone calls at work and have to ask people security questions (kind of like mother's maiden name), I've talked to several people that set it up with something like "what is my dead son's name?" It's horrible and awkward to have to ask them that.</div>
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-90?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d5565046-ffc2-4c3b-a2e8-8b4d971b6c89Post:9d7cd088-89da-4e8c-a8ac-080bb2d1869f">Re: FFF</a>: [QUOTE]I think it's funny that you guys rag on the the "meanies" over on the nest but you guys don't believe that you can be "meanies" because you're "being honest with good advice" Posted by srfgirlie5[/QUOTE]
Yeah, because razzing someone for acting like a dumbass and ridiculing a poster for having info in her sig about her stillborn babies are completely comparable and make your point swimmingly.
I think it's a lot more common TB's TTC After a Loss board. I know that a lot of women who put that information in their sigs do it because if they didn't they would get asked why they are on those boards.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-90?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d5565046-ffc2-4c3b-a2e8-8b4d971b6c89Post:97cd327f-b6ae-4878-8dc7-05b00bec0f16">Re: FFF</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I don't see the issue in coming back.. she spent enough time away and was barely here to begin with.. a fresh start coulda been possible. But the new SN thing and trying to post a picture to pretend you are "real" while still trying to hide who you really are seems really contradictory. Posted by chelseamb11[/QUOTE]
<div>Isn't this where you cue your several paragraphs about learning to tough it out like you did, or telling the poster they have a PM.</div>
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-90?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d5565046-ffc2-4c3b-a2e8-8b4d971b6c89Post:20efd12a-3366-42d6-b7d1-56d7191d3f71">Re: FFF</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I wasn't asking for help but thank you for your concern. I'm still looking in my thesaurus for that... word you used. Quite the conundrum Posted by srfgirlie5[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-90?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:d5565046-ffc2-4c3b-a2e8-8b4d971b6c89Post:c347afb1-edc0-4d82-9296-c2ad17193c20">Re: FFF</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Semantics? Shouldn't you be looking in a dictionary? Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-90?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d5565046-ffc2-4c3b-a2e8-8b4d971b6c89Post:7180ff84-2f27-4eab-a2d3-40cb9da63e9d">Re: FFF</a>: [QUOTE]Habs, i AW'd it all over the book of faces! I'm staying with Alix in May and August. May = Frank Turner August = Florence + the Machine. Holler. Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]
<div>When in May? Will there be another NF trip?</div>
On TB, people put that info because they're part of other boards that everyone has experienced the same type of thing and they don't want to explain every 5 minutes what's going on. Why shouldn't she put that information in there. They were/are her kids.
At least she didn't have pictures of them in the sig like some girls do over there.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-90?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:d5565046-ffc2-4c3b-a2e8-8b4d971b6c89Post:b894873a-9ef9-4508-a659-2b59fcee12f6">Re: FFF</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Isn't this where you cue your several paragraphs about learning to tough it out like you did, or telling the poster they have a PM. Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]
aren't you a ray of sunshine. Did someone poke you with a pickle this morning?
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-90?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:d5565046-ffc2-4c3b-a2e8-8b4d971b6c89Post:70b958ce-ec02-4184-834d-ee2489fd08e7">Re: FFF</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : WTF does this even mean? Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-90?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d5565046-ffc2-4c3b-a2e8-8b4d971b6c89Post:f7b09bea-60c8-47b1-9f12-fc0b1e1e02c8">Re: FFF</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : aren't you a ray of sunshine. Did someone poke you with a pickle this morning? Posted by srfgirlie5[/QUOTE]
<div>I wish I would have been poked with a pickle. </div>
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-90?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d5565046-ffc2-4c3b-a2e8-8b4d971b6c89Post:b894873a-9ef9-4508-a659-2b59fcee12f6">Re: FFF</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Isn't this where you cue your several paragraphs about learning to tough it out like you did, or telling the poster they have a PM. Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]
<div>This is exactly what I was thinking.</div><div> </div><div>Chelsea, wasn't kwills previously a recipient of the famous Chelsea peptalk? I guess you need to be more specific about logistics. </div>
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-90?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d5565046-ffc2-4c3b-a2e8-8b4d971b6c89Post:a8fa6999-405f-4424-81c5-b40d40fcfb32">Re: FFF</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I wish I would have been poked with a pickle. Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-90?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:d5565046-ffc2-4c3b-a2e8-8b4d971b6c89Post:220cca07-0d32-43c2-b776-caf8a15f0e94">Re: FFF</a>: [QUOTE]Listen, srf, how about you do me a favor and go off the deep end, call us all cuunts, and get banned. That would be dandy. Posted by EaglesBride2012[/QUOTE]
Thanks for the advice but I believe I already went off the deep end several years ago. I'm not sure how much lower I can get.
Re: FFF
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I believe they were stillborn, not a miscarriage. So naming them makes more sense to me. I still wouldn't put it in my sig though.
Posted by dumdumfroggie[/QUOTE]
They were 17 and 20 weeks. From what I gather, she had just had the funeral for one of them that week.
DX: PCOS/Recurrent losses/MTHFR mutation (compound hetero)
5 hysteroscopies/2 surgical
3 Inject IUIs = 2 m/c's and 1 BFN
IVF #1= BFP. m/c at 7w6d. Needed 2 D&C's and scar tissue removal. Mild OHSS
IVF #2 = BFP. Severe OHSS. 4 Drainings. TWINS!
The thing about that whole thing is, I get that the posters there don't really talk about kids/don't want to, but there was much better ways of going about telling Figgs that then just saying 'hey take your dead kids out of your sig'. She didn't even bring up anything kid related. She just wanted to chat about anything OTHER than kids.
ETA- she may have cremated. you get the idea though.
[QUOTE]Hmm. Well without having read the thread, I will say I think it's effing weird to name a miscarriage and put it in a sig. I wouldn't have said anything to the person, but I'd side eye it. It's a lot less weird than actually putting a dead fetus photo up as a sig. I've heard of that happening before.
Posted by daffodil_jill[/QUOTE]
I think it's different when they're such late losses that are stillborn, IMO. I'd name that baby too. They were 19 and 20 weeks in, I believe. And I can see putting them in your sig - they were in gray type and super small. It was extremely UNoffensive. <div>
</div><div>You're notoriously childfree which is cool, and I know you get offended by stuff dealing with kids more than a lot of people, also cool. But I think even YOU wouldn't have gotten offended by what she had up there. </div><div>
</div><div>That is not meant to be demeaning of you at all, Daff. I hope it doesn't come out that way. </div>
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I believe they were stillborn, not a miscarriage. So naming them makes more sense to me. I still wouldn't put it in my sig though.
Posted by dumdumfroggie[/QUOTE]
Yeah, I edited my post above. Agreed on both counts - naming not weird. Putting it in sig, weird.
[QUOTE]oh kwills, you should never have come back. You won't live this down now.
Posted by Habs2Hart[/QUOTE]
I don't see the issue in coming back.. she spent enough time away and was barely here to begin with.. a fresh start coulda been possible. But the new SN thing and trying to post a picture to pretend you are "real" while still trying to hide who you really are seems really contradictory.
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August = Florence + the Machine. Holler.
Vacation with Alix, Andy, Mandy, and FLORENCE. AND HER MACHINE.
The Margarita Evolution
[QUOTE]I'm willing to give her another chance, but I also have a selective memory so I'm not even sure what she did.
Posted by ahhhitsshannyn[/QUOTE]
<div>Yea that.</div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Constant.reminder. I don't know why you'd want that?
Posted by jcbsjr[/QUOTE]
<div>I have no idea. I take phone calls at work and have to ask people security questions (kind of like mother's maiden name), I've talked to several people that set it up with something like "what is my dead son's name?" It's horrible and awkward to have to ask them that.</div>
[QUOTE]I think it's funny that you guys rag on the the "meanies" over on the nest but you guys don't believe that you can be "meanies" because you're "being honest with good advice"
Posted by srfgirlie5[/QUOTE]
Yeah, because razzing someone for acting like a dumbass and ridiculing a poster for having info in her sig about her stillborn babies are completely comparable and make your point swimmingly.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I don't see the issue in coming back.. she spent enough time away and was barely here to begin with.. a fresh start coulda been possible. But the new SN thing and trying to post a picture to pretend you are "real" while still trying to hide who you really are seems really contradictory.
Posted by chelseamb11[/QUOTE]
<div>Isn't this where you cue your several paragraphs about learning to tough it out like you did, or telling the poster they have a PM.</div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I wasn't asking for help but thank you for your concern. I'm still looking in my thesaurus for that... word you used. Quite the conundrum
Posted by srfgirlie5[/QUOTE]
Oh FFS.
<a href="http://lmgtfy.com/?q=semantics" rel="nofollow">Link.</a>
Books read in 2012: 21/50
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Semantics? Shouldn't you be looking in a dictionary?
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]
AAAAH Crustys! I knew I went wrong somewhere!
[QUOTE]Habs, i AW'd it all over the book of faces! I'm staying with Alix in May and August. May = Frank Turner August = Florence + the Machine. Holler.
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]
<div>When in May? Will there be another NF trip?</div>
At least she didn't have pictures of them in the sig like some girls do over there.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Isn't this where you cue your several paragraphs about learning to tough it out like you did, or telling the poster they have a PM.
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]
aren't you a ray of sunshine. Did someone poke you with a pickle this morning?
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : WTF does this even mean?
Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]
It means you need to get a thesaurus
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : aren't you a ray of sunshine. Did someone poke you with a pickle this morning?
Posted by srfgirlie5[/QUOTE]
<div>I wish I would have been poked with a pickle. </div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Isn't this where you cue your several paragraphs about learning to tough it out like you did, or telling the poster they have a PM.
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]
<div>This is exactly what I was thinking.</div><div>
</div><div>Chelsea, wasn't kwills previously a recipient of the famous Chelsea peptalk? I guess you need to be more specific about logistics. </div>
We will be going to NF at some point during both of those trips, I would guess. We'd be leaving from Guelph.
Vacation with Alix, Andy, Mandy, and FLORENCE. AND HER MACHINE.
The Margarita Evolution
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I wish I would have been poked with a pickle.
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]
<div>I'll sell you my pickle for a nickle.</div>
[QUOTE]Listen, srf, how about you do me a favor and go off the deep end, call us all cuunts, and get banned. That would be dandy.
Posted by EaglesBride2012[/QUOTE]
Thanks for the advice but I believe I already went off the deep end several years ago. I'm not sure how much lower I can get.