My parents gave my fiance and I a specific amount of money for the wedding. We decided to get married in Hawaii in a small intimate ceremony. We invited about 130 people and maybe 20 will come, which I think is perfect. I fought with my mother about inviting my sibling's in-laws whom I don't see often. She felt they should've been invited and I didn't. Now she is being miserable about the whole wedding and frankly negating any excitement I have about it. I told her that we could invite them and now she doesn't want to. How do I fix this?
Re: Guest list etiquette for in-laws of siblings
If she's being miserable about all of the planning, stop sharing plans with her. Though, that might be pretty impossible if you have to go through her to get the money. Did she just give you a lump sum, or are you going to her when you need deposit checks and whatnot?
That's the problem with taking other people's money - you have to do what they want.
Mom's money = mom's guest list and mom's rules.
I don't think you have to invite them, especially for a destination wedding but it's not wrong to invite them -it's what you want to do and also how many people it is. I only have 2 kids so we were only talking about a few people.
[QUOTE]I can't get by that you invited 130 people to a wedding in Hawaii...
Posted by Muffin'sMom[/QUOTE]
Not only 130 people, but she's after a small intimate wedding. That made me laugh a little.
[QUOTE]M<strong>y parents gave my fiance and I a specific amount of money for the wedding. We decided to get married in Hawaii in a small intimate ceremony. We invited about 130 people and maybe 20 will come, which I think is perfect. </strong> I fought with my mother about inviting my sibling's in-laws whom I don't see often. She felt they should've been invited and I didn't. Now she is being miserable about the whole wedding and frankly negating any excitement I have about it. I told her that we could invite them and now she doesn't want to. How do I fix this?
Posted by kighhigh[/QUOTE]
I'm also curious about why you'd invite 130 people hoping that only 20 would come. I find that odd. But GL.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Guest list etiquette for in-laws of siblings : Not only 130 people, but she's after a small intimate wedding. That made me laugh a little.
Posted by vicki0508[/QUOTE]
Makes me think she's after gifts in lieu of attendance unless she's planning an At Home Reception for those who couldn't attend.
However, if I was having a destination wedding, I would probably not have invited them. I would've kept it to people I was extremely close to.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Guest list etiquette for in-laws of siblings : Makes me think she's after gifts in lieu of attendance unless she's planning an At Home Reception for those who couldn't attend.
Posted by GoodLuckBear14[/QUOTE]
Or perhaps she cast a wide net, hoping that she would get a decent amount of people to come. It sounds like that plan is working out, since 20 are able to come to her wedding.