We were not planninng on having a rehearsal or rehearsal dinner. Just doing some platters in the hospitality suite in case OOT guests come by. Last night my uncle called and offered to host a nice dinner the night before the wedding, as long as the guest list is reasonable. This is awesome and so something he would do (he used to pay me 20 bucks to play with my cousins).
So today we stated making aguest list. My mom included all of her family, who are OOT, and the bridal party. Then she gave me the list to look over and start adding FI's family. I began by adding his brother. She immediatly told me "no, hes not invited". Now look, his brother is not the best person on the planet, he is an alchoholic and has had a lot of problems. But my mother can not invite people who are barely related to me (though we are close) and not invite FI's brother. She doesn't seem to think this is a problem. UGGGh. We can't not invite his brother, who by the way lives with his mom who is invited.
CN: My mom wants to invite her whole family but not FI's brother who lives with his mom but has some problems (alchohalism).

180 invited

145 are ready to party

35 are missing out

0! can't find the mailbox
rsvp's due back June 20th!
Re: Vent
Also, just a question - did your uncle give you a set number of people or just say "reasonable"? The reason I ask is, my fiance's parents are hosting our RD but when they heard the required attendees, they definitely had a minor heart attack. Including all bridal party/plus ones/readers/close family, it is 50 people right off the bat. You may want to confirm with him what his understanding of "reasonable" is because your mom's list may not be appropriate anyway.
We are ONLY inviting bridal party, their +1s, and our VERY close family members to our rehearsal dinner - and this puts us at just under 60.
Definitely have a talk with your uncle about what he thinks is reasonable before it gets too late. It is awesome of him to offer to host it, though!
Oh, and about your original vent - you have to invite fiance's brother. Sorry to your mom, but you can't include someone that close to your fiance because they have some mental health issues.
FI and I just decided the other night that we're nixing the rehearsal dinner & going to hang out separately with the WP...(him with the guys me with the girls!) Sounds so much better!
[QUOTE]That's frustrating, but I agree that you have to invite fiance's brother. Hopefully he will be able to control himself, but if not, he's an adult and it's not your job to monitor him. Also, just a question - did your uncle give you a set number of people or just say "reasonable"? The reason I ask is, my fiance's parents are hosting our RD but when they heard the required attendees, they definitely had a minor heart attack. Including all bridal party/plus ones/readers/close family, it is<strong> 50 people right off the bat</strong>. You may want to confirm with him what his understanding of "reasonable" is because your mom's list may not be appropriate anyway.
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How big is your bridal party??
I admire those of you who can organize such a large number.
Anyway - I think it's BS that your mom won't invite FI's brother. My mom is an alcoholic and I think I would want to punch someone in the face if they didn't invite her based on that. On the other hand though, my mom controls herself and doesn't drink in public.
Even so..it's his brother for goodness sake.