This is exactly why you should wait until you grow up to get married. You are far too immature to deal with a wedding party. How on earth do you think you are going to handle a marriage?
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_cheap-bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:ad428d38-d442-4c39-a144-5c5a9361a1e7Post:983f22fa-514d-430f-bd35-0ffd81e70c1a">Re: cheap bridesmaid</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: cheap bridesmaid : Also like I have said, I wanted the girls to come talk to me but they all said it was fine including this girl so I kept the appt I made 2 months ago but now she is being rude about it for some reason. IF SHE WAS NICE I WOULD HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO PROBLEM HELPING MY FRIEND OUT but she was not and I don't have time to go into exactly what she said but it wasn't very nice. Also, If you want me to go into detail about the dresses, the bridesmaids and I made a group board on pinterest. Everyone would post shoes and dresses they liked. My sister and I found a cute dress so we showed the girls and asked their thoughts. They all loved it and knew the price as well. The dress was beginning to go out of stock so I had to call around several stores around the country tracking them down. When I found one I had to order it right away. I finally found all of them and had them pay me when I gave them their dress. They all knew what was going on the whole time and the price. Some were even calling around the stores as well to help me (including the one now complaining about hair and makeup costs). So yes, I believe I handled it appropriately. Thanks. Posted by almostfernow[/QUOTE]<div> </div><div>I *LOVE* a lot of dresses...but they're out of my budget! Also, a group pinterest board put her on the spot...what was she supposed to do, let everyone know about her financial woes?</div><div> </div><div>You were wrong, my dear. Face that fact. Everyone here has pointed that out. You need to rise above this situation and be a good friend.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_cheap-bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:ad428d38-d442-4c39-a144-5c5a9361a1e7Post:983f22fa-514d-430f-bd35-0ffd81e70c1a">Re: cheap bridesmaid</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: cheap bridesmaid : [QUOTE]I think what gets under my skin most about your post is that you said "if they have any problems they can talk to me"...she DID talk to you and you're complaining about it! Is that what a good friend does? Also, based upon your wording, it doesn't sound like you handled bridesmaid dress shopping appropriately. Did you ask them all privately what their budgets were and buy a dress UNDER the lowest budget? It doesn't sound like you took any budgets into account. As retread said...she can't afford it now and I'd have to agree with her. My bff's friend is doing the makeup for all five of us for $100 total and someone is doing our hair for $40 for me and $30 for them... You clearly need to shop around and not demand the whole "in salon" experience. I'd rather be comfortable at my hotel. Posted by mlg78[/QUOTE Also like I have said, I wanted the girls to come talk to me but they all said it was fine including this girl so I kept the appt I made 2 months ago but now she is being rude about it for some reason.<strong> IF SHE WAS NICE I WOULD HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO PROBLEM HELPING MY FRIEND OUT</strong> but she was not and I don't have time to go into exactly what she said but it wasn't very nice. Also, If you want me to go into detail about the dresses, the bridesmaids and I made a group board on pinterest. Everyone would post shoes and dresses they liked. My sister and I found a cute dress so we showed the girls and asked their thoughts. They all loved it and knew the price as well. The dress was beginning to go out of stock so I had to call around several stores around the country tracking them down. When I found one I had to order it right away. I finally found all of them and had them pay me when I gave them their dress. They all knew what was going on the whole time and the price. Some were even calling around the stores as well to help me (including the one now complaining about hair and makeup costs). So yes, I believe I handled it appropriately. Thanks. Posted by almostfernow[/QUOTE]
Wow, really?
Did you ask your bridesmaids for their budget privately before making this Pinterest group? They may have felt pressured to buy the dress to make you happy.
You need to let it go honestly. Or be prepared to not have a friend after your wedding or possibly before if you don't just let her do her hair and makeup how she sees fit.
I'm sorry if my post came across as harsh. That wasn't my goal. What I was trying to say is that your BMs are most likely not capable of dropping money on much of anything. Seriously, 17-20 year olds have, max, AAs. And probably not even--most probably have high school diplomas and nothing else (maybe some college). That translates to little to no employment and that's BEFORE basic expenses. This girl came to you because she realizes that she has a problem. Instead of being accommodating, you're actually being kind of difficult.
I really think it's time to give this girl a call and, without being angry or upset or anything, hear her out. Maybe she lost her job. Maybe she had a curveball medical expense. Maybe she's just a sucky planner--but she's still your friend, and you should get a feel for her circumstances before judging anything.
And this happened over text?! Yes, definitely call her. Not with an angry tone, though. Her "not nice" text may have been meant with good intentions. Texts suck in that way.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_cheap-bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:ad428d38-d442-4c39-a144-5c5a9361a1e7Post:4759cf4c-f7af-4318-949c-b66fa95d40c2">Re: cheap bridesmaid</a>: [QUOTE]This is exactly why you should wait until you grow up to get married. You are far too immature to deal with a wedding party. How on earth do you think you are going to handle a marriage? Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]
<div> </div><div>You have absolutely no right to tell me if I should or should not be getting married. You do not know me or my situation at all. I came on here to get advice and I certainly have gotten alot and have accepted alot. I probably should have explained myself a little more in the first post. I left out too many details which were open for too much interpretation. But hey, I have learned. I am not on here to get bullied by a bunch of women who think they are better than me because they are older than me. This is supposed to be a learning experience and you have not given me any advice pertaining to my situation. </div>
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_cheap-bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:ad428d38-d442-4c39-a144-5c5a9361a1e7Post:c5bae0fe-1f51-477e-ae4a-d6d16126f504">Re: cheap bridesmaid</a>: [QUOTE]I'm sorry if my post came across as harsh. That wasn't my goal. What I was trying to say is that your BMs are most likely not capable of dropping money on much of anything. Seriously, 17-20 year olds have, max, AAs. And probably not even--most probably have high school diplomas and nothing else (maybe some college). That translates to little to no employment and that's BEFORE basic expenses. This girl came to you because she realizes that she has a problem. Instead of being accommodating, you're actually being kind of difficult. I really think it's time to give this girl a call and, without being angry or upset or anything, hear her out. Maybe she lost her job. Maybe she had a curveball medical expense. Maybe she's just a sucky planner--but she's still your friend, and you should get a feel for her circumstances before judging anything. And this happened over text?! Yes, definitely call her. Not with an angry tone, though. Her "not nice" text may have been meant with good intentions. Texts suck in that way. Posted by fionahalliwell[/QUOTE]
<div>No yours did not but others yes. I appreciate your advice. I'm just a little upset because I come on here for help with my wedding and next thing I know I have all these random people telling me how immature I am and that I should not even be getting married. I honestly am just gonna ask my friends that know me personally from now on instead of dealing with all this haha. But ya you make a good point about the texts. I am seeing the girl tonight so I am gonna talk with her about it! </div><div> </div><div>YOU are a perfect example of how these boards should be: HELPFUL! so thanks<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" /></div>
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_cheap-bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:ad428d38-d442-4c39-a144-5c5a9361a1e7Post:4b8c988c-c6de-4dd7-9033-4bb4b5f8c496">Re: cheap bridesmaid</a>: [QUOTE] In Response to Re: cheap bridesmaid : Wow, really? Did you ask your bridesmaids for their budget privately before making this Pinterest group? They may have felt pressured to buy the dress to make you happy. You need to let it go honestly. Or be prepared to not have a friend after your wedding or possibly before if you don't just let her do her hair and makeup how she sees fit. Posted by steign[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_cheap-bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:ad428d38-d442-4c39-a144-5c5a9361a1e7Post:68c6084b-7905-4c2c-b53e-a18074170f4e">Re: cheap bridesmaid</a>: [QUOTE]You are being a little ridiculous. As PP's have said, you should not be requiring your BM's pay to get their hair and makeup done. You should take a step back from the IT'S MY DAY mentality and think about the confort of your friends. Please spend some time lurking on these boards, the advice you will read is extremely helpful. Posted by Salsera29[/QUOTE]
THIS PLEEEEEASE......Time to get grown boo!! You entering adult territory!
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_cheap-bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:ad428d38-d442-4c39-a144-5c5a9361a1e7Post:4a9b4829-1acf-43b6-9f56-47954fc06b53">Re: cheap bridesmaid</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: cheap bridesmaid : I *LOVE* a lot of dresses...but they're out of my budget! Also, a group pinterest board put her on the spot...what was she supposed to do, let everyone know about her financial woes? You were wrong, my dear. Face that fact. Everyone here has pointed that out. You need to rise above this situation and be a good friend. Posted by mlg78[/QUOTE]
<div>It doesnt exactly put them on the spot. Its a really easy way for everyones ideas to come together. I see them all regularly because they are my best friends and I specifically talked to each one about it as individuals either in person or on the phone.</div>
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_cheap-bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:ad428d38-d442-4c39-a144-5c5a9361a1e7Post:74627291-8bfe-4582-a64c-bd8a52af0121">Re: cheap bridesmaid</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: cheap bridesmaid : I 100% agree. You need to let go of who said what and why and if it was rude or not. The only fact that matters here is that this girl, who is apparently close enough to you to be a BM, is telling you she can't afford it. Posted by missax[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_cheap-bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:ad428d38-d442-4c39-a144-5c5a9361a1e7Post:dd8b2e67-0df5-4e43-8a1c-0b79d5dd4820">Re: cheap bridesmaid</a>: [QUOTE]You are not getting it. I might indeed have $120 to spend on a cell phone or new dress for myself. Why? Because those are things *I* need. That does not = having $120 for one day to spend on someone else's wedding. It also doesn't mean I'm being a bad friend for being unwilling to do it, either. YOU are being a bad friend if you don't accept that she does not "have" to spend HER money on professional hair and makeup because "you say so." She can do her own hair and makeup or pay her own stylist. Period. Be an adult and accept it, or end your friendship with her over this one day out of your lives. She was NOT being "rude" by telling you she was not going to do it. YOU were being rude by continuing to insist after she said no. After someone says no, I am not willing to spend my money on this, and you continue to press - you deserve what you get. Accept it. You'll understand this once you're married and have the stress of paying for things, especially if you have children. Believe me - you'll look back on this and cringe at yourself years down the road if you don't drop this now. Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]<div> </div><div>Thanks RetreadBride! Ya I am sure I will look back when the day is done and realize alot of the things I stressed over didn't really matter! Definitely like wisdom from someone thats older than me and appreciate you didn't totally bash me for being young. Thanks for understanding<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" />
Why all this melodrama over hair on someone nobody will pay attention to on your wedding day? I'm really confused right now. It's like having hysterics over not getting the parking spot you want. It's that unimportant.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_cheap-bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:ad428d38-d442-4c39-a144-5c5a9361a1e7Post:c5bae0fe-1f51-477e-ae4a-d6d16126f504">Re: cheap bridesmaid</a>: [QUOTE]I'm sorry if my post came across as harsh. That wasn't my goal. What I was trying to say is that your BMs are most likely not capable of dropping money on much of anything. Seriously, 17-20 year olds have, max,<strong> AAs. And probably not even--most probably have high school diplomas and nothing else (maybe some college). That translates to little to no employment </strong>and that's BEFORE basic expenses. This girl came to you because she realizes that she has a problem. Instead of being accommodating, you're actually being kind of difficult. I really think it's time to give this girl a call and, without being angry or upset or anything, hear her out. Maybe she lost her job. Maybe she had a curveball medical expense. Maybe she's just a sucky planner--but she's still your friend, and you should get a feel for her circumstances before judging anything. And this happened over text?! Yes, definitely call her. Not with an angry tone, though. Her "not nice" text may have been meant with good intentions. Texts suck in that way. Posted by fionahalliwell[/QUOTE]
<div> </div><div>Okay, I'm not one to get all upset over little things, but the bolded..? Seriously? I have never set foot in college and I have a great job - I'm an office manager and I make good money. Sure 17-20 year-olds probably don't have great jobs, but not having a bachelor's degree or better does not mean people can't have good jobs. </div>
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_cheap-bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:ad428d38-d442-4c39-a144-5c5a9361a1e7Post:799cc2ae-ba79-4cf3-91ca-06489c5aa45d">Re: cheap bridesmaid</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: cheap bridesmaid : Okay, I'm not one to get all upset over little things, but the bolded..? Seriously? I have never set foot in college and I have a great job - I'm an office manager and I make good money. Sure 17-20 year-olds probably don't have great jobs, but not having a bachelor's degree or better does not mean people can't have good jobs. Posted by beardownbchs[/QUOTE]
<div>I should have been clearer. I didn't mean in life. I meant right now for someone under the age of, say, 30. I can't even get a job as a cashier. </div>
OP, I think you owe your friends an apology for making unreasonable demands of them.
As other posters have mentioned, outward appearences do not always reflect a person's financial status. And even if they do, you have absolutely NO right to dictate what they spend their money on. It's none of your business, and just because you are getting married, doesn't mean you can tell them they should spend their hard-earned money on you.
I'm glad that you seem to be receptive to the advice you are receiving, trust me, your friends will thank you for following it. So apologize, tell them they can do whatever they wish with their hair & makeup (because seriously, the focus is on YOU, not them anyways, so it won't be noticable that they didn't spend $120 on hair & makeup) and let the little things go. Remember the important part of a wedding is getting married to your FI, and sharing that happy occassion with the people you love. Don't let petty details ruin your friendships. Good luck!
Re: cheap bridesmaid
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: cheap bridesmaid : Also like I have said, I wanted the girls to come talk to me but they all said it was fine including this girl so I kept the appt I made 2 months ago but now she is being rude about it for some reason. IF SHE WAS NICE I WOULD HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO PROBLEM HELPING MY FRIEND OUT but she was not and I don't have time to go into exactly what she said but it wasn't very nice. Also, If you want me to go into detail about the dresses, the bridesmaids and I made a group board on pinterest. Everyone would post shoes and dresses they liked. My sister and I found a cute dress so we showed the girls and asked their thoughts. They all loved it and knew the price as well. The dress was beginning to go out of stock so I had to call around several stores around the country tracking them down. When I found one I had to order it right away. I finally found all of them and had them pay me when I gave them their dress. They all knew what was going on the whole time and the price. Some were even calling around the stores as well to help me (including the one now complaining about hair and makeup costs). So yes, I believe I handled it appropriately. Thanks.
Posted by almostfernow[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I *LOVE* a lot of dresses...but they're out of my budget! Also, a group pinterest board put her on the spot...what was she supposed to do, let everyone know about her financial woes?</div><div>
</div><div>You were wrong, my dear. Face that fact. Everyone here has pointed that out. You need to rise above this situation and be a good friend.
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: cheap bridesmaid : [QUOTE]I think what gets under my skin most about your post is that you said "if they have any problems they can talk to me"...she DID talk to you and you're complaining about it! Is that what a good friend does? Also, based upon your wording, it doesn't sound like you handled bridesmaid dress shopping appropriately. Did you ask them all privately what their budgets were and buy a dress UNDER the lowest budget? It doesn't sound like you took any budgets into account. As retread said...she can't afford it now and I'd have to agree with her. My bff's friend is doing the makeup for all five of us for $100 total and someone is doing our hair for $40 for me and $30 for them... You clearly need to shop around and not demand the whole "in salon" experience. I'd rather be comfortable at my hotel. Posted by mlg78[/QUOTE Also like I have said, I wanted the girls to come talk to me but they all said it was fine including this girl so I kept the appt I made 2 months ago but now she is being rude about it for some reason.<strong> IF SHE WAS NICE I WOULD HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO PROBLEM HELPING MY FRIEND OUT</strong> but she was not and I don't have time to go into exactly what she said but it wasn't very nice. Also, If you want me to go into detail about the dresses, the bridesmaids and I made a group board on pinterest. Everyone would post shoes and dresses they liked. My sister and I found a cute dress so we showed the girls and asked their thoughts. They all loved it and knew the price as well. The dress was beginning to go out of stock so I had to call around several stores around the country tracking them down. When I found one I had to order it right away. I finally found all of them and had them pay me when I gave them their dress. They all knew what was going on the whole time and the price. Some were even calling around the stores as well to help me (including the one now complaining about hair and makeup costs). So yes, I believe I handled it appropriately. Thanks.
Posted by almostfernow[/QUOTE]
Wow, really?
Did you ask your bridesmaids for their budget privately before making this Pinterest group? They may have felt pressured to buy the dress to make you happy.
You need to let it go honestly. Or be prepared to not have a friend after your wedding or possibly before if you don't just let her do her hair and makeup how she sees fit.
[QUOTE]This is exactly why you should wait until you grow up to get married. You are far too immature to deal with a wedding party. How on earth do you think you are going to handle a marriage?
Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]
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</div><div>You have absolutely no right to tell me if I should or should not be getting married. You do not know me or my situation at all. I came on here to get advice and I certainly have gotten alot and have accepted alot. I probably should have explained myself a little more in the first post. I left out too many details which were open for too much interpretation. But hey, I have learned. I am not on here to get bullied by a bunch of women who think they are better than me because they are older than me. This is supposed to be a learning experience and you have not given me any advice pertaining to my situation. </div>
[QUOTE]I'm sorry if my post came across as harsh. That wasn't my goal. What I was trying to say is that your BMs are most likely not capable of dropping money on much of anything. Seriously, 17-20 year olds have, max, AAs. And probably not even--most probably have high school diplomas and nothing else (maybe some college). That translates to little to no employment and that's BEFORE basic expenses. This girl came to you because she realizes that she has a problem. Instead of being accommodating, you're actually being kind of difficult. I really think it's time to give this girl a call and, without being angry or upset or anything, hear her out. Maybe she lost her job. Maybe she had a curveball medical expense. Maybe she's just a sucky planner--but she's still your friend, and you should get a feel for her circumstances before judging anything. And this happened over text?! Yes, definitely call her. Not with an angry tone, though. Her "not nice" text may have been meant with good intentions. Texts suck in that way.
Posted by fionahalliwell[/QUOTE]
<div>No yours did not but others yes. I appreciate your advice. I'm just a little upset because I come on here for help with my wedding and next thing I know I have all these random people telling me how immature I am and that I should not even be getting married. I honestly am just gonna ask my friends that know me personally from now on instead of dealing with all this haha. But ya you make a good point about the texts. I am seeing the girl tonight so I am gonna talk with her about it! </div><div>
</div><div>YOU are a perfect example of how these boards should be: HELPFUL! so thanks<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" /></div>
[QUOTE] In Response to Re: cheap bridesmaid : Wow, really? Did you ask your bridesmaids for their budget privately before making this Pinterest group? They may have felt pressured to buy the dress to make you happy. You need to let it go honestly. Or be prepared to not have a friend after your wedding or possibly before if you don't just let her do her hair and makeup how she sees fit.
Posted by steign[/QUOTE]
<div>yes i did ask each one about it.</div>
[QUOTE]You are being a little ridiculous. As PP's have said, you should not be requiring your BM's pay to get their hair and makeup done. You should take a step back from the IT'S MY DAY mentality and think about the confort of your friends. Please spend some time lurking on these boards, the advice you will read is extremely helpful.
Posted by Salsera29[/QUOTE]
THIS PLEEEEEASE......Time to get grown boo!! You entering adult territory!
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: cheap bridesmaid : I *LOVE* a lot of dresses...but they're out of my budget! Also, a group pinterest board put her on the spot...what was she supposed to do, let everyone know about her financial woes? You were wrong, my dear. Face that fact. Everyone here has pointed that out. You need to rise above this situation and be a good friend.
Posted by mlg78[/QUOTE]
<div>It doesnt exactly put them on the spot. Its a really easy way for everyones ideas to come together. I see them all regularly because they are my best friends and I specifically talked to each one about it as individuals either in person or on the phone.</div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: cheap bridesmaid : I 100% agree. You need to let go of who said what and why and if it was rude or not. The only fact that matters here is that this girl, who is apparently close enough to you to be a BM, is telling you she can't afford it.
Posted by missax[/QUOTE]
<div>ok thanks for the advice missax!</div>
[QUOTE]You are not getting it. I might indeed have $120 to spend on a cell phone or new dress for myself. Why? Because those are things *I* need. That does not = having $120 for one day to spend on someone else's wedding. It also doesn't mean I'm being a bad friend for being unwilling to do it, either. YOU are being a bad friend if you don't accept that she does not "have" to spend HER money on professional hair and makeup because "you say so." She can do her own hair and makeup or pay her own stylist. Period. Be an adult and accept it, or end your friendship with her over this one day out of your lives. She was NOT being "rude" by telling you she was not going to do it. YOU were being rude by continuing to insist after she said no. After someone says no, I am not willing to spend my money on this, and you continue to press - you deserve what you get. Accept it. You'll understand this once you're married and have the stress of paying for things, especially if you have children. Believe me - you'll look back on this and cringe at yourself years down the road if you don't drop this now.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Thanks RetreadBride! Ya I am sure I will look back when the day is done and realize alot of the things I stressed over didn't really matter! Definitely like wisdom from someone thats older than me and appreciate you didn't totally bash me for being young. Thanks for understanding<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" />
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[QUOTE]I'm sorry if my post came across as harsh. That wasn't my goal. What I was trying to say is that your BMs are most likely not capable of dropping money on much of anything. Seriously, 17-20 year olds have, max,<strong> AAs. And probably not even--most probably have high school diplomas and nothing else (maybe some college). That translates to little to no employment </strong>and that's BEFORE basic expenses. This girl came to you because she realizes that she has a problem. Instead of being accommodating, you're actually being kind of difficult. I really think it's time to give this girl a call and, without being angry or upset or anything, hear her out. Maybe she lost her job. Maybe she had a curveball medical expense. Maybe she's just a sucky planner--but she's still your friend, and you should get a feel for her circumstances before judging anything. And this happened over text?! Yes, definitely call her. Not with an angry tone, though. Her "not nice" text may have been meant with good intentions. Texts suck in that way.
Posted by fionahalliwell[/QUOTE]
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</div><div>Okay, I'm not one to get all upset over little things, but the bolded..? Seriously? I have never set foot in college and I have a great job - I'm an office manager and I make good money. Sure 17-20 year-olds probably don't have great jobs, but not having a bachelor's degree or better does not mean people can't have good jobs. </div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: cheap bridesmaid : Okay, I'm not one to get all upset over little things, but the bolded..? Seriously? I have never set foot in college and I have a great job - I'm an office manager and I make good money. Sure 17-20 year-olds probably don't have great jobs, but not having a bachelor's degree or better does not mean people can't have good jobs.
Posted by beardownbchs[/QUOTE]
<div>I should have been clearer. I didn't mean in life. I meant right now for someone under the age of, say, 30. I can't even get a job as a cashier. </div>