E invites......NOT a first choice

M&Mf4me · December 2012

Hi all,

It seems after 4 YEARS of waiting we will be able to marry Sacramentally in the Catholic Church but due to many crazy reasons (he right now lives in another country when he ISN'T deployed ARGH!) we will probably not have the time to send out traditional invites ~ which totally hurts my traditional tendencies! So what experience has anyone had with these? is there a good place to go? Have you used the wedding website as your starting point???

Thanks for any input....
Michelle.

AddieCake · December 2012

I don't understand why you won't have time. Your bio says your wedding is in June. Or is that not for sure the real date b/c of his living/deployment circumstances?

M&Mf4me · December 2012

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[QUOTE]I don't understand why you won't have time. Your bio says your wedding is in June. Or is that not for sure the real date b/c of his living/deployment circumstances?
Posted by AddieL73[/QUOTE]

Addie,

That is not a for real date, it's a "best guess" because of the deployment and living situation. Add to that the possibility of the date moving because he is an Army Civilian, the Catholic Church's wedding prep with a really helpful and compassionate priest working with an odd circumstance, his living situation is dependent on the wedding and a change submitted to the Army due to the marriage, and it's REALLY complicated.

HELP! We aren't even having a reception. I am hoping I can throw together some punch, light fare, and a cake for hospitality reasons. That and being able to have a first dance to a song that means so much to us is all I wish for as "extras". At this point, I just want our friends who have been praying for us for 4 years to come and celebrate the wedding itself if possible. For instance, I was stopped by a co-worker who was moving to another job insisting she STILL got an invite because she had been with me all these years of waiting.

Thanks for any help you could provide,
Michelle.

AddieCake · December 2012

Ahh, I see. Well, I don't really know what the etiquette is for something like this, but it seems like under your circumstances it would be ok. One of my bridesmaids had to throw her wedding together in 2 weeks because of unusual circumstances, and she just called people to invite them.

libby2483 · December 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: E invites......NOT a first choice : Addie, That is not a for real date, it's a "best guess" because of the deployment and living situation. Add to that the possibility of the date moving because he is an Army Civilian, the Catholic Church's wedding prep with a really helpful and compassionate priest working with an odd circumstance, his living situation is dependent on the wedding and a change submitted to the Army due to the marriage, and it's REALLY complicated. HELP! <strong>We aren't even having a reception. I am hoping I can throw together some punch, light fare, and a cake for hospitality reasons.</strong> That and being able to have a first dance to a song that means so much to us is all I wish for as "extras". At this point, I just want our friends who have been praying for us for 4 years to come and celebrate the wedding itself if possible. For instance, I was stopped by a co-worker who was moving to another job insisting she STILL got an invite because she had been with me all these years of waiting. Thanks for any help you could provide, Michelle.
Posted by M&Mf4me[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm sorry to hear that your wedding planning has been so difficult. It sounds like you have some unusual circumstances. That being said, it is absolutely essential that you have a reception of some type to host your guests. Something as simple as cake and punch in a room in the church is just fine, provided your reception is not at a meal time. If it is over a meal time, a meal should be served. </div><div>
</div><div>I am personally not a fan of E-vites because I think they lack the formality appropriate to a wedding. However, in some instances, I understand how they are more practical. One of my friends and her FI are currently living in Turkey. His family is from England, hers is from the U.S., and they are inviting people from literally all over the world. They used E-vites because it was the most practical method, and the postal system where they live is not very reliable. They used a website called Paperless Post to send out E-vites. When I received it, I could click to "open" the envelope, and the invitation looked nice. RSVPing was also easy. I'm not sure how much it cost or how easy it was to set up, but from my perspective as a guest, it was a good option. Best of luck with all of your planning!</div>

livnsamsmama · December 2012

I would prefer a phone call over an internet invite. An email is easy to overlook, also.

OliveOilsMom · December 2012

What I would do, is buy one of those DIY invite kits. Have it already formatted and ready to be printed when you get all of the information of your ceremony. I would also pre-address the envelopes. Then once you get your official information. Send an email out to the people invited, so they get the info ASAP. Then pull out your DIY invites and print them out. It shouldn't take long as you have pre-formatted everything. That way you are able to send out formal paper invites.

lidjamay · December 2012

I think you would be fine. You have a very unusual sitiuation. My dad made a facebook event for his wedding. Nothing could be that bad. Good luck darling!!

Jessie42613 · December 2012

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[QUOTE]I would prefer a phone call over an internet invite. An email is easy to overlook, also.
Posted by livnsamsmama[/QUOTE]

<div>This.</div>

M&Mf4me · December 2012

Libby ~~ Thank you for the Paperless Post suggestion, they are at least elegant in comparison to the E-vites I was considering.

Jessie and livandsamsmama, ~~ I do plan on calling the "Must Have's" as well as the invite.

OliveOil ~ I will not know until a few DAYS or possibly a week before that just isn't enough time to send a paper invitation, BUT I do have all of those for the first time we thought we could get married.

CMGr ~ I am sure you believe you are dealing with a ignorant Catholic, but in truth we have waited for sex, AND a Sacramental Marriage for 4 years (read below). We have rarely even kissed to honor the Church's teaching on Marriage.

All~He will be home for a month, and that is our "window" of opportunity basically. We haven't lived on the same continent in 3 years.

Just a glimpse into the absolute pain we have endured for 4 years to live by the Church's teachings ~

Met 2007
Decided to marry Late 2008
Annulment process started 2009
Deployment to AFGHANISTAN Jan 2010
Return from AFG March 2011
Moved to a foreign country June 2011
Afghanistan again 2012
ALL THIS TIME We waited for an annulment for him. I have been free to marry the entire time. And to answer all we were free to civilly marry for all this time. He and I decided we would stay within the confines of the Faith that is so very dear to us both.

This is not a convalidation, we are marrying in the civil and sacred realms.

Blessings to all,
Michelle.

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