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  • I flame a girl on my month board who wanted to have a private ceremony in the morning followed by a vow renewal for everyone to see in the afternoon.  Really, a vow renewal on your wedding day?  Really?
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    [QUOTE]This might be a flame fail since I can't find the thread and it was awhile back, but this stuck in my mind so... I flame AK's husband for wanting to "prove that he's smarter" with IQ tests.  Not only is it condescending, but why is it so important who's "smarter" anyway? Maybe I'm reading too much into it, or maybe I'm just biased from the other douchey statements that she has posted about her H, but I definitely side eyed it.  At least, I'm 99% sure it was AK.  If not, I apologize.  I looked and couldn't find the thread to back it up. 
    Posted by LP11509[/QUOTE]

    Uh, H and I bicker all the time over who's smarter.  I wouldn't put it past us to take IQ tests to prove it. 
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Sorry I ruined your Black Panther party.
    Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]

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    [QUOTE]Ghoti is NOT pronounced FISH.  They even talk about that in the Wikipedia article.
    Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]

    There's only one fish around here! 

    Is it time for Twilight yet?  I feel more sparkly then I do flamey today. 
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : But the problem with that is that all that would prove is who's better at tests.  There are many different kinds of intelligence and IQ tests just touch on a fraction of what intelligence really is.
    Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]

    I don't mean we would take it to the bank over who's smarter than the other.  I just mean we're both competitive people and try to prove that we're better than the other in things, so i wouldnt' put it past us to prove who could do better on an IQ test. 
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Because it seems unnecessarily redundant.  Either have a ceremony with everyone there or don't.  They don't need be subjected to the "replay" on the same day. 
    Posted by doctabroccoli[/QUOTE]


    Pretty sure she was on your page already.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Because it seems unnecessarily redundant.  Either have a ceremony with everyone there or don't.  They don't need be subjected to the "replay" on the same day. 
    Posted by doctabroccoli[/QUOTE]

    Oh no, sorry, I wasn't asking why you were flaming it, I was asking why someone would do that. I can't think of a single logical reason to justify it.
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    [QUOTE]Ghoti's sn is just stupid because those letters only make those sounds in certain parts of words so the whole "ghoti" is pronounced "fish" thing is ridiculous.  Ask a linguist. The woman who was pissed she wasn't invited to her ex-husband's wedding irked me too.
    Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]

    It's used as an academic example of how BSC the English language is. She was a tool in UO, but it's not like she made that up to be pretentious.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Uh, H and I bicker all the time over who's smarter.  I wouldn't put it past us to take IQ tests to prove it. 
    Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

    <div>
    </div><div>Why does it matter though?  I just think it's really petty and if H told me that he wanted to take an IQ test to prove that he's smarter, I'd be really slighted. Like I said, maybe I read too much into it but it came off as "I'm smarter/better and I'm gonna prove it and make you feel bad", which I don't think is a very positive attitude to have in a marriage. </div>
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Oh no, sorry, I wasn't asking why you were flaming it, I was asking why someone would do that. I can't think of a single logical reason to justify it.
    Posted by Anysunrise[/QUOTE]

    Whoops....  Lost in typing to comprehension translation I guess :)  It only took her posting it on two different boards to give up on the idea.
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  • Why does the attitidue that AK's husband has about marriage matter to you? 
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Why does it matter though?  I just think it's really petty and if H told me that he wanted to take an IQ test to prove that he's smarter, I'd be really slighted. Like I said, maybe I read too much into it but it came off as "I'm smarter/better and I'm gonna prove it and make you feel bad", which I don't think is a very positive attitude to have in a marriage. 
    Posted by LP11509[/QUOTE]

    I think you're taking it too litearlly.  H and I are very competitive in our natures.  So we jokingly compete against eachother a lot.  I have never once thought he truly believed he was better than me, I don't feel that I'm better than him.  Clearly everyone has different relationships with their H.  Whenever AK has posted about things her H says or does everyone jumps all over her back about him being such an douche, and I don't think that of him at all. 
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    [QUOTE]This might be a flame fail since I can't find the thread and it was awhile back, but this stuck in my mind so... I flame AK's husband for wanting to "prove that he's smarter" with IQ tests.  Not only is it condescending, but why is it so important who's "smarter" anyway? Maybe I'm reading too much into it, or maybe I'm just biased from the other douchey statements that she has posted about her H, but I definitely side eyed it.  At least, I'm 99% sure it was AK.  If not, I apologize.  I looked and couldn't find the thread to back it up. 
    Posted by LP11509[/QUOTE]
    lalalink?
  • LP, I get the same vibe about AK's husband.  He seems, in a lot of her posts, to build himself up by putting her down in some way.  That's the impression I get, but of course the only thing I have to go on is her posts. 
  • I think AK's husband is a lot like Jessjos husband.  (do people here nowdays even  know who jessjo is?)  He's been firmly established as a douche in peoples minds, so *everything* he does is going to seem douchy, whether it actually is or not. 

    Is that how you spell "douchy?"

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    [QUOTE]Why does the attitidue that AK's husband has about marriage matter to you? 
    Posted by andy71781[/QUOTE]

    <div>It just bothers me in general when people feel the need to constantly one-up their spouse, or anyone else for that matter.  We all have our strengths and weaknesses. Like I said, I just think it's really petty and stupid.  And after all, this is FFF last time I checked. </div>
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Why does it matter though?  I just think it's really petty and if H told me that he wanted to take an IQ test to prove that he's smarter, I'd be really slighted. Like I said, maybe I read too much into it but it came off as "I'm smarter/better and I'm gonna prove it and make you feel bad", which I don't think is a very positive attitude to have in a marriage. 
    Posted by LP11509[/QUOTE]
    good thing you didn't marry him? seriously, everyone's relationship is different.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : It's used as an academic example of how BSC the English language is. She was a tool in UO, but it's not like she made that up to be pretentious.
    Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]

    Oh yeah, I know, I've seen it before.  But people have come back and said, "Well, not really because some of those letters only make those sounds in certain parts of words."  So while I agree the English language is BSC, I don't think that's a good example.

    And she still sounded pretentious trying to teach everyone a lesson.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Why does it matter though?  I just think it's really petty and if H told me that he wanted to take an IQ test to prove that he's smarter, I'd be really slighted. Like I said, maybe I read too much into it but it came off as "I'm smarter/better and I'm gonna prove it and make you feel bad", which I don't think is a very positive attitude to have in a marriage. 
    Posted by LP11509[/QUOTE]

    I feel bad for your husband.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : It just bothers me in general when people feel the need to constantly one-up their spouse, or anyone else for that matter.  We all have our strengths and weaknesses. Like I said, I just think it's really petty and stupid.  And after all, this is FFF last time I checked. 
    Posted by LP11509[/QUOTE]

    It is FFF, and I flamed people who knock AK about her H.

    But if we're going the route of flaming for spousal actions and choices, I flame the ladies who think a good marriage is one where you can only be serious 100% of the time, and your H can never say anything negative about you, joking or not.  Fine if thats your relationship, but that would send me running to the hills after about day 4 probably.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : It just bothers me in general when people feel the need to constantly one-up their spouse, or anyone else for that matter.  We all have our strengths and weaknesses. Like I said, I just think it's really petty and stupid.  And after all, this is FFF last time I checked. 
    Posted by LP11509[/QUOTE]

    yes but its an off-board non-poster flame which is pretty lame.  I mean if you want to flame AK for something she did/said go right ahead but I think that pointing to somebody's husband and flaming a relationship is a pretty diick move.  I don't even know who you are and you flaming a reg's marriage?  Wtf?
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  • I feel like there should be another E.

    Like douchey.

    I'm smarter than you. Wanna IQ test competition to prove it, Miss East?
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  • I'm so behind on the flames and for once I'm hoping this turns into Twilight talk since I'm addicted.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I flame everyone who flames AK's H.  He actually sounds pretty funny and cocky, which I like.  And I think their relationship is a lot like mine and H's.  So I really don't get why everyone thinks her H is so bad for half the stuff he says. 
    Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

    Maybe it's just no longer cool to have a relationship where you can kid and poke fun and be competitive with each other. Yeah, H says and does stuff that other people would find douchey sometimes. But the point is - I don't. I find it funny and I do give him just as much hell back. I don't really get why people get all up his ass about it either. But whatever. We're all entitled to our opinions.
  • Oh yeah, I remember my other flame now.

    LKientz (or whatever her SN is) for going on and on for pages about her "intimate" ceremony for 40 people and 150 person reception and how it wouldn't be rude.

    http://forums.theknot.com/default.aspx?path=http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette

    We get it. You are going to do whatever you want. Writing pages and pages explaining your decision is unnecessary.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : yes but its an off-board non-poster flame which is pretty lame.  I mean if you want to flame AK for something she did/said go right ahead but I think that pointing to somebody's husband and flaming a relationship is a pretty diick move.  I don't even know who you are and you flaming a reg's marriage?  Wtf?
    Posted by andy71781[/QUOTE]

    Why would you knowing who she is matter one way or the other?  Can only established regulars have opinions?  I think if someone talks about their husband a fair deal, then people are allowed to form opinions on said husbands and the stories that are told about them.   It always cracks me up when people try to change around the rules or what is and is not acceptable in an FFF, depending on how well liked/established the person being flamed is. 

    And fischy, I accept your challenge.  Although I think we've been saying your name wrong.  I believe it is pronounced "goat."

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  • AK,
    FWIW - every picture of your husband makes me giggle - he looks like a goofball - just like my H. People who flame him are dummy heads - dummy heads who I am now flaming.

    And you have a new job - so that's awesome.
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    [QUOTE]<a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_seriously-guys_.0" rel="nofollow">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_seriously-guys_.0</a> I think that's the thread, lala.
    Posted by akhensley81[/QUOTE]
    thanks. I don't see the big deal.
    personally, I'd prefer to hang out with a couple who jokes around with each other than a boring "we're so goddamn perfect and sickening" couple. the former is usually funnier. the latter is just...gross.
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    [QUOTE]*goes to quietly hang self in the corner*
    Posted by Snippylynn[/QUOTE]

    *cuts snippy down from her rope*
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