Had to get this off my mind!

HannahK15 · March 2012

My FI recently recieved a wedding invitation. I have several issues with it. First off she used like 4 different colored papers which look and feel like construction paper. It almost looks like something my 12yr old brother put together. So I have absolutely no idea what to wear because I can't tell how formal of an event it. I feel like just wearing jeans, but I never would do that, I'll probably end up in a sundress.
The other issue is that she put Matt Z________ and Guest. She texted him and asked for his address yet she couldn't ask what my name is? Also she could have put "and Fiance" and I would be ok with it. But "guest" just irks me.

Another one:
My parents recently got invited to wedding and the bride DIYd her invites (which is fine by me!) She used one card for everything. Put the invited on one side and all the information on the back of the card. She even put her registry information on it. Also her RSVP is by phone or email which also irks me. I think they should be mailed.

Sorry I just had to get this off my chest. I know some people may think this petty but it annoyed me. Now i have it out of my mind and I can forget it all

dumdumfroggie · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_had-to-get-this-off-my-mind?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:308fc768-7302-4fe3-8c48-7c7d0bcc3f3bPost:4b5d4ef2-3165-4fb7-b121-34e17878cf91">Had to get this off my mind!</a>:
[QUOTE]My FI recently recieved a wedding invitation. I have several issues with it. First off she used like 4 different colored papers which look and feel like construction paper. It almost looks like something my 12yr old brother put together. So I have absolutely no idea what to wear because I can't tell how formal of an event it. I feel like just wearing jeans, but I never would do that, I'll probably end up in a sundress. The other issue is that she put Matt Z________ and Guest. She texted him and asked for his address yet she couldn't ask what my name is? Also she could have put "and Fiance" and I would be ok with it. But "guest" just irks me. Another one: My parents recently got invited to wedding and the bride DIYd her invites (which is fine by me!) She used one card for everything. Put the invited on one side and all the information on the back of the card. She even put her registry information on it. Also her RSVP is by phone or email which also irks me. I think they should be mailed. Sorry I just had to get this off my chest. I know some people may think this petty but it annoyed me. Now i have it out of my mind and I can forget it all :)
Posted by HannahK15[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Chill out. That's a lot of angst about invitations.</div><div>
</div><div>I don't get why the type of paper the bride used bothers you. From what you described, it sounds like it will be a casual wedding. Wear a sundress, it's not that complicated.</div><div>
</div><div>The registry information shouldn't have been on the invitation, I'll give you that. However, RSVPing by phone/email, though not formal is perfectly acceptable.

</div>

lyndausvi · March 2012

The 'and guest' thing would slightly annoy me, but the rest of the stuff? Meh, not something I would dwell so much it would require a vent.

(I would not even start a thread about the 'and guest', I might refer to it in a related thread though)

misssunshine17 · March 2012

The 'and Guest' is a little annoying, but on the bright side, she knew enough to invite you?? I'm side eye it for a minute, then move on.

HannahK15 · March 2012

I guess the reason the paper bothers me and the design of the other is because I went to school for graphic designs and both are big no-no's in design. I just annoys me because I know better. It's not like I put a huge amount of time into thinking about these things. I just noticed them and at the time they annoyed me.

As for the RSVP...its just MY personal preference that they be mailed.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · March 2012

I was invited to a wedding once without my fiance. No "and guest" or a "fuckyou" or anything. Just me. I think that's a tish more rude than "and guest," IMO. At least you could bring a guest, lol.

Stackeye210 · March 2012

So it's ok for people to DIY invites but you still judge them b/c they aren't up to your standards? You need to pick one, you're on the fence. I think you're confused, but they aren't your invitations to criticize so let it go. Do you get irked when someone doesn't dress how you want them to dress even though it has nothing to do with you?

Not knowing the last name is weird to me, but I don't see where any of the other stuff is relevant to being irked.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_had-to-get-this-off-my-mind?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:308fc768-7302-4fe3-8c48-7c7d0bcc3f3bPost:8bc7d595-83bf-42e6-a89a-7e773faf5c92">Re: Had to get this off my mind!</a>:
[QUOTE]I guess the reason the paper bothers me and the design of the other is because<strong> I went to school for graphic designs and both are big no-no's in design.</strong> I just annoys me because I know better. It's not like I put a huge amount of time into thinking about these things. I just noticed them and at the time they annoyed me. As for the RSVP...its just MY personal preference that they be mailed.
Posted by HannahK15[/QUOTE]

I'm sorry but that line of logic is just stupid. People don't have to study graphic design in order to send out wedding invitations. I really think you need to tone it down just little.

HannahK15 · March 2012

They knew his last name I just chose not to put on here, hence the lines. I think you can DYI anything and still make them look halfway decent. It seriously looks like my 12yr old brother did them.
And no I don't care how people dress. I just noticed these things because I went to school for it and I have an eye for detail. So something like this sticks out like sore thumb to me.
I just thought more people on here would be understanding and get what I was saying.

And its not like i said anything to the brides or will. I just mentioned it to my FMIL because she was there when we got the invite. She also agreed with me.

lbarr088 · March 2012

Thank goodness I'm having someone professionally design mine...

....yeeesh honestly who gives two shites! I guarantee you threw away the part you didn't have to send back, seriously no one saves and critiques that crap. Unless they are awesome and know better like you I guess.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · March 2012

I'm trying to think of an example that's equally as ridiculous.

Like could I get legitimately pissed at a girl for wearing feather earrings because I'm an ornothology expert and that bitch totes doesn't know exactly what kind of feathers they are?

midgetthemighty · March 2012

The only thing I see wrong with that whole invitation is the registry information on it. Sure it would have been nice if she found out your name but at least you were invited. Everything else is just so not worth getting so worked up over.

dumdumfroggie · March 2012

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[QUOTE]They knew his last name I just chose not to put on here, hence the lines. I think you can DYI anything and still make them look halfway decent. It seriously looks like my 12yr old brother did them. And no I don't care how people dress. I just noticed these things because I went to school for it and I have an eye for detail. So something like this sticks out like sore thumb to me. I just thought more people on here would be understanding and get what I was saying.
Posted by HannahK15[/QUOTE]

<div>Ok, but they are their invitations, not yours. Maybe they liked them. Get over yourself.</div>

AllAboutTheBenjamin · March 2012

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[QUOTE]They knew his last name I just chose not to put on here, hence the lines. I think you can DYI anything and still make them look halfway decent.<strong> It seriously looks like my 12yr old brother did them.</strong> And no I don't care how people dress. I just noticed these things because I went to school for it and I have an eye for detail. So something like this sticks out like sore thumb to me. I just thought more people on here would be understanding and get what I was saying.
Posted by HannahK15[/QUOTE]

Well, now you're just being a jackhole.

baystateapple · March 2012

Judgy pants don't really look good on anyone, OP. They're not your invitations. I'd move on.

lbarr088 · March 2012

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[QUOTE]I'm trying to think of an example that's equally as ridiculous. Like could I get legitimately pissed at a girl for wearing feather earrings because I'm an ornothology expert and that bitch totes doesn't know exactly what kind of feathers they are?
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

<div>Or like...</div><div>
</div><div>I do people's nails and I get pissy when they don't remember if it's OPI, Essie, or Sephora when I ask and besides, their nails look like crap because they didn't get them professionally done. Loser.</div><div>
</div><div>Seriously though, no one cares this much.</div><div>
</div><div>ETA: IRL, I do NOT do people's nails... and I suck at doing my own. </div>

AllAboutTheBenjamin · March 2012

Haha judgy pants, bay.

Are judgy pants like mom jeans? Or do they make your ass look fat? Or do they have a horrible print on them or something?

lyndausvi · March 2012

Maybe the bride using one card for everything was being 'green'. You know, not wanting to waste paper on things that are just going to be thrown away?

HeathenSwan · March 2012

The whole thing sounds like a whole lot of stress over nothing to me. I'm in school now for graphic design (with a long background in art) and even the professional invites don't always follow the rules of design. So what? Google anything (logo, poster design, brochure), and at least half of it will be mediocre at best. She likes them, that's what counts.

And as far as the lack of RSVP cards, there are several reasons not to do them. 1. It's better for the environment. 2. It's cheaper (and not everyone has a huge budget). 3. Until about 40 years ago, it was proper to hand write a response letter to an invitation and mail it back with one's own stamp. If it bothers you, do that rather than call or email.

baystateapple · March 2012

Well, AATB, now I'm picturing judgy pants as acid-wash Mom jeans that come just above your sock line. Like high-waters.

Stackeye210 · March 2012

I would imagine judgy pants would be mom jeans, light wash and peg rolled.

dumdumfroggie · March 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Had to get this off my mind! : Wait, can you wear judgy pants TO the wedding? Or is that against the dress code?
Posted by jcbsjr[/QUOTE]

<div>I'd better add that to my invitations.</div><div>
</div><div>No judgy pants, please. Yeah, that'll look good.</div>

baystateapple · March 2012

Stacks, you and I are of the same mind.

And your new sig pic is fantastic.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · March 2012

Oh HELLS yes. I need to find a google image for this and bust it out from time to time.

Maggie0829 · March 2012

They are invitations that end up in the trash after it is all over with. And as long as the bride likes them then who cares. I have gotten many invites that I thought were ugly but I sure as hell didn't come on here and b$tch about it. God, only knows what you would have said about my DIY invites...I am sure they would not have been up to your impeccable standards.

As for the "and Guest", who cares, really? You were still invited so does it really matter? It is like when people get pissed because they weren't referred to as Mrs. but as Ms., honestly there are worst things in life then being called the wrong thing...it isn't something to waste any energy on.

midgetthemighty · March 2012

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[QUOTE]Maybe the bride using one card for everything was being 'green'. You know, not wanting to waste paper on things that are just going to be thrown away?
Posted by lyndausvi[/QUOTE]

Exact reason why I used one big card for most information and a little business card sized paper for reception info.

I also am having people call to RSVP.

Apparently I'm a tacky jerk.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · March 2012

lbarr088 · March 2012

These might not be judgy pants, but I would certainly judge someone wearing these pants...

baystateapple · March 2012

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[QUOTE]Can judgy mcjudger mom pants also have some sort of bedazzles? Preferrably on the back pockets.
Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]
OMG, yes. Self-bedazzling.

And I DIY'd my invitations and RSVP cards. And half of my RSVP cards printed somewhat crooked. At that point, I DGAF, so I just mailed them as is. Tacky to the nth degree, party of me.

Stackeye210 · March 2012

baystateapple · March 2012

Lbarr, quit making fun of my wardrobe or I'll ban you.

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