African American Weddings
FOR REAL?! This chick is crazy.
FI's ex-wife is around every other weekend to pick up their girls. We have them all week, every week. She and FI mostly get along, they talk, and are friendly, and she calls him for relationship advice (about the guy she cheated on him with, no less), but he doesn't respect her much because she's flaky.
I don't respect her at all as a mother because she promises the girls the world and NEVER delivers. This is why they live with us. I have picked up her slack since the day I met FI.
She called FI yesterday and was like, "the wedding is in 2wks, when are you going to send out invites?" When FI told her they already went out she said, "where's mine?" Apparently, FI explained to her that she wasn't invited and that he was surprised that she even asked because if SHE got married he damn sure wouldn't be there. So she burst into tears, went off on him, then hung up.
WHAT?! She really thought she was going to be invited to our wedding?
I don't respect her at all as a mother because she promises the girls the world and NEVER delivers. This is why they live with us. I have picked up her slack since the day I met FI.
She called FI yesterday and was like, "the wedding is in 2wks, when are you going to send out invites?" When FI told her they already went out she said, "where's mine?" Apparently, FI explained to her that she wasn't invited and that he was surprised that she even asked because if SHE got married he damn sure wouldn't be there. So she burst into tears, went off on him, then hung up.
WHAT?! She really thought she was going to be invited to our wedding?
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Re: FOR REAL?! This chick is crazy.
Planning Blog Updated 6/2/11
I am guessing this only because my girls father is coming to our wedding but not to the reception. I invited him for that same reason. Just so he can see the girls walk and other then that if he wanted to dip, that's cool too.
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Posted by mahoganieyes
Exactly!!
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[QUOTE]Okay I am assuming that she thinks she would get the invite because their girls are in the wedding am I right? Is that the reason why she expected the invite? I am guessing this only because my girls father is coming to our wedding but not to the reception. I invited him for that same reason. Just so he can see the girls walk and other then that if he wanted to dip, that's cool too.
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We're getting married privately on the beach. It will be us, our kids, our pastor, and our very best friends as witnesses. The "crowd" will come later, we've invited nearly 50 of our very closest friends and family to a reception/late lunch afterwards. The girls are 17 and 15. My son is 5 and his dad is not coming, nor was he invited.
FI's mom thinks she flipped because she's realized that there is no chance of them getting back together - even though she's in and out of her relationship, even though it's been nearly 10yrs since they were together, even though FI and I have been together for 4yrs - she says that the ex could hold on to the thought of them being together again as long as neither of them was married.
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As for her expectations - she has gone too far and because everything seems so friendly, she doesn't realize that there are boundries.
My DH is close to my ex. One time they spent hours on the phone (they are both obsessed with fixing cars) and I was like "Damn, why don't you just go ahead and invite my ex to the wedding while you're at it?" But my DH knows that would be crosssing the line. Likewise, I would never expect to be invited to his wedding.
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I can assure you my EX will not be coming to our wedding. We don't have the best relationship and I try to keep it mainly about the kids, so when he found out recently that I had moved on, he was not happy. Me being engaged is on a need to know basis and he does not need to know. We had some major issues during our marriage so I keep my private live, private.