still dont know why their isn't a specific section for this!
She is from England, and totally against the way showers are done in the US, she thinks they are a huge competition and said in her own words " I hate showers over here in the US" straight to my mom's face after the invites were sent out. My mom simply apologized for inviting her. " I am sorry I invited you" thats all my mom said and the future (itch) said she will be there. Well my shower was this past Sunday, she called my FI saturday and apologized she hadn't gotten a gift yet (this was at the same time, she was asking her son my fi to use my car to go pick up a 50" flat screen tv for their other room, they are spending tons of money on their house, since family is coming in from england for our wedding) , and I told my FI that she doesnt need to get us anything, that I just wanted her there.
So my shower was about to start at 1pm on sunday and I am getting a call from FI (who came later to the shower to say thank you to all the guests) and he is telling me that his mom is not coming because she has a migraine (i know people that get migraines they get them all the time) this woman does not get migraines both my fi and her other son said that she doesn't so there was faking it, and obviously never planning on attending. But to do that right as my shower was starting ofcourse I started crying. Everyone was just telling me be the bigger person and dont say anything, but I can't its driving me crazy and my wedding is 5 weeks away. People where even asking what the heck did I do to her for her not to want to come.
My aunt was there and she is sick wiht Arthritis and another friend of the family that is going through kidney dialysis and another one that just had a stroke.
How am i suppose to be the bigger person here! When I could care less about even seeing her or even talking to her any time soon. She still hasn't even called me to apologize to me directly, which proves that she was lying even more.
My FI said on saturday when he went to pick up the huge tv with MY car, that she wants to help and get more involved now, after i have been asking for over a year and she always says no or shes busy. So i stopped asking and for sure dont want her touching anything or opinion on anything either!