I just got off the phone with my mom, and I want to scream. About a year ago, my dad had offered to pay for our wedding photo's---it would be the only contribution my family was making; my parents had recently divorced, and my mom took my dad for all he was worth, walking away with nearly $40k. To save face, my mom offered to pay half for the photo's (which is about $400). My dad paid the first half right away, the final payment is not due until the day of the wedding.
I was talking to my mom about christmas shopping--and had mentioned an earlier conversation with my sister--who suggested she would shop for me off of our wedding registry, and asked what I wanted most. I said the carry-on luggage bag would be nicest, considering we are having a DW, and I don't have luggage of my own. She suggested I tell my mom, and her and my mom could get both carry-ons for my FI and I together.
When I mentioned it to my mom, she got pisssed. She informed me she was not getting me anything for christmas, because the pictures were going to cost her too much. To top it off she started whining about her finances, because she is currently paying for an apartment she isn't living in, as she chose to move in with the guy who she cheated on my dad with. Whatever. But she wouldn't let it go--just kept bashing me for how much the pictures are going to cost her---even when she was never asked to pay for anything---she just didn't want to have it look like my dad was the only one contributing.
I want to scream right now!! Normally she asks what I want for christmas, and the first time I actually make a suggestion of something useful--besides bath and body works crap that piles up in my closet, she shoots it down. I don't expect a thing, but I also don't enjoy getting the guilt trip for the cost of something she insisted on buying!!!
End vent.
CN: My mom gave me the third degree over $$, as she's paying for half of our wedding photos at her own suggestion--and bit my head off when I gave her Christmas gift ideas for FI and I.