Saturday night confessions/random thoughts?

SarahPLiz · February 2010

Hey ricks, I made that emeril recipe king cake today for a friend of mine. It was seriously the best damned king cake I ever ate. When I got to her house it was still warm inside and we each had a piece. That recipe is the best!!! Thanks for the link!

mwhitson14 · February 2010

Haha. I'm boooored! I actually don't completely hate it, though I am glad Paris Hilton gets killed off pretty early.

RachNRich · February 2010

Nebb · February 2010

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[QUOTE]
Posted by RachNRich[/QUOTE]
Whats with the face?

ricksang · February 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Saturday night confessions/random thoughts? : Well, you know, you could all meet me halfway in Hawaii in September... ;P
Posted by thesuninherhead[/QUOTE]

Uhhh that'd be awesome! I can't wait to get out of school so we can go on vacations.

nda_roxybabe · February 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Saturday night confessions/random thoughts? : Well, you know, you could all meet me halfway in Hawaii in September... ;P
Posted by thesuninherhead[/QUOTE]
You should change it November so I can be in Hawaii for T's sisters wedding.
..Thats bad huh? T and I keep saying we want to go back to Hawaii soon

ricksang · February 2010

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[QUOTE]Hey ricks, I made that emeril recipe king cake today for a friend of mine. It was seriously the best damned king cake I ever ate. When I got to her house it was still warm inside and we each had a piece. That recipe is the best!!! Thanks for the link!
Posted by SarahPLiz[/QUOTE]

That's awesome! I might try it now!

nda_roxybabe · February 2010

Aww Rach, did dinner not go well? Whats up pretty?

ricksang · February 2010

What's wrong Rach?

thesuninherhead · February 2010

I just asked you on FB, but what's upsetting you dear Rach?

mocha beans · February 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Saturday night confessions/random thoughts? : You should change it November so I can be in Hawaii for T's sisters wedding. ..Thats bad huh? T and I keep saying we want to go back to Hawaii soon
Posted by nda_roxybabe[/QUOTE]

Nope, she's sticking with Sept so we can GTG!

Neener neener neener!

RachNRich · February 2010

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[QUOTE]Aww Rach, did dinner not go well? Whats up pretty?
Posted by nda_roxybabe[/QUOTE]

No Not at all. I was so uncomfortable the entire time--and towards the end of dinner, I was literally trembling. I just wanted to get home---and as we walked out of the restaurant--she said she was coming with me, and I just froze. I couldn't say no. And I don'y remember how the hell I got home--the drive is a blur, and what I said was a blur---She wants to "help" with the wedding, and there is nothing for her to do, and I told her I wasn't going to make up a job for her just to make her feel like she was doing something, and I'm stressed, and overwhelmed, and I got home and just collapsed on my bedroom floor and cried.

nda_roxybabe · February 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Saturday night confessions/random thoughts? : Nope, she's sticking with Sept so we can GTG! Neener neener neener!
Posted by mocha beans[/QUOTE]
neener neener neener is my saying today! T and I have been making up songs using that all day.
Fiiine, I guess I can do September.

Nebb · February 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Saturday night confessions/random thoughts? : No Not at all. I was so uncomfortable the entire time--and towards the end of dinner, I was literally trembling. I just wanted to get home---and as we walked out of the restaurant--she said she was coming with me, and I just froze. I couldn't say no. And I don'y remember how the hell I got home--the drive is a blur, and what I said was a blur---She wants to "help" with the wedding, and there is nothing for her to do, and I told her I wasn't going to make up a job for her just to make her feel like she was doing something, and I'm stressed, and overwhelmed, and I got home and just collapsed on my bedroom floor and cried.
Posted by RachNRich[/QUOTE]
It sounds to me like your stupid FSIL puts WAY too much pressure on you. To connect or whatever the hell she wants.

thesuninherhead · February 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Saturday night confessions/random thoughts? : Nope, she's sticking with Sept so we can GTG! Neener neener neener!
Posted by mocha beans[/QUOTE]
 haha so true Mocha! (not that I'm playing favourites, because I love you both! But the conference I want to go to over there is also in Sep, so I'm afraid unless it moves I'm stuck to that month... that, and it's our 1 year wedding anniversary in Sep so fits in perfectly!).

ricksang · February 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Saturday night confessions/random thoughts? : No Not at all. I was so uncomfortable the entire time--and towards the end of dinner, I was literally trembling. I just wanted to get home---and as we walked out of the restaurant--she said she was coming with me, and I just froze. I couldn't say no. And I don'y remember how the hell I got home--the drive is a blur, and what I said was a blur---She wants to "help" with the wedding, and there is nothing for her to do, and I told her I wasn't going to make up a job for her just to make her feel like she was doing something, and I'm stressed, and overwhelmed, and I got home and just collapsed on my bedroom floor and cried.
Posted by RachNRich[/QUOTE]

OMG that's awful.

mocha beans · February 2010

Oh Rach, I'm sorry. Your FSIL sounds suffocating.

nda_roxybabe · February 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Saturday night confessions/random thoughts? : No Not at all. I was so uncomfortable the entire time--and towards the end of dinner, I was literally trembling. I just wanted to get home---and as we walked out of the restaurant--she said she was coming with me, and I just froze. I couldn't say no. And I don'y remember how the hell I got home--the drive is a blur, and what I said was a blur---She wants to "help" with the wedding, and there is nothing for her to do, and I told her I wasn't going to make up a job for her just to make her feel like she was doing something, and I'm stressed, and overwhelmed, and I got home and just collapsed on my bedroom floor and cried.
Posted by RachNRich[/QUOTE]
Awww I'm so sorry :( What does Rich have to say about it all (they're uber close huh?)?
Since they seem very similar: T's sister (evil one) needed something to do at the other sisters (sweet one) wedding so she took poloroids of all the guest and had them write a little note for a guest book. Could she do something like that?

ricksang · February 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Saturday night confessions/random thoughts? : It sounds to me like your stupid FSIL puts WAY too much pressure on you. To connect or whatever the hell she wants.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

Seriously. And does she not take into consideration that you are not well right now?

julezlee · February 2010

I'm here. Just got back from the most amazing sushi dinner ever. One of DH's work friends took us to Morimoto. Unbelievable. I was feeling guilty the whole time that she was treating us to such an extravagant meal.

Brie - I love the new table number! I had to call DH over to look at it. He's so excited to get a beagle of our own soon.

thesuninherhead · February 2010

On the upside Rach, at least there wasn't an all-out conflict (or at least, it doesn't sound like there was...). It's bound to be uncomfortable given the history and that really does suck, but it sounds like it didn't go horribly, either?

As for the wedding- can you give her some sort of job that doesn't involve handing over control? Like asking her to pick up something (suits? I don't know!) etc. There's lots of errands that she could 'help' with if she wanted to (I gather she's not in the bridal party?).

*eta: I like Roxy's idea! Maybe you could ask her to do something like that if she wants a 'job'?

*hugs for you*

ricksang · February 2010

Hi Julez

RachNRich · February 2010

There's always an agenda. I always hear about it---but only after I fall short. Either I'm not interested in her enough as a person (i.e. I don't ask about her health and job, so that means I don't care)...or I don't offer enough information freely about our wedding.
But I just don't know what to say. And then I break down. And cry. I don't know how I am going to get through this.

Nebb · February 2010

Regardless of how close they are rach, its not your job to be her best friend. You arent obligated to be anything but nice, and it sounds like you are. She needs to shove it and if Rich cant see that he needs to shove it too (i mean that in the nicest way possible).

RachNRich · February 2010

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[QUOTE]On the upside Rach, at least there wasn't an all-out conflict (or at least, it doesn't sound like there was...). It's bound to be uncomfortable given the history and that really does suck, but it sounds like it didn't go horribly, either? As for the wedding- can you give her some sort of job that doesn't involve handing over control? Like asking her to pick up something (suits? I don't know!) etc. There's lots of errands that she could 'help' with if she wanted to (I gather she's not in the bridal party?). *eta: I like Roxy's idea! Maybe you could ask her to do something like that if she wants a 'job'? *hugs for you*
Posted by thesuninherhead[/QUOTE]

She's Rich's "bestman/woman"---but she came out to see us to ask me what I want her to do--she says she's "managed" two weddings before--so she wants to do the same for ours, but needs to know all the information.
My sister is my MOH---but I am not having her do anything but stand there. And if I had things that I needed "help" with, I would turn to my sister first. I don't know why she doesn't just go to Rich. My sister isn't all up in Rich's face asking for explanations....<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-yell.gif" border="0" alt="Yell" title="Yell" />

thesuninherhead · February 2010

It sounds like you put a lot of pressure on yourself (well, SHE puts a lot of pressure on you, but you in turn internalise that) to make sure you're doing the 'right thing' in terms of your FSIL- thus the huge anxiety. I know it's so much easier said than done, but perhaps you've just got to do your best to step back- be pleasant etc, but accept that you'll never 100% please her and try not to let that get you down?

H's sister is a tiny touch like your FSIL in so much as the agenda and the opinion on everything. I've learnt she opens her mouth more than she should, though, and got to a point where I can pretty much laugh later at the things she says rather than take them to heart as I first did.

I know it's easier said than done, though.

mocha beans · February 2010

Sounds like my coworker.

I don't know how I'd deal with it either. Are you able to tell her she's being pushy? I bet she won't listen anyway, from the sounds of it, but worth a shot maybe?

julezlee · February 2010

That sucks, Rach. If it were me, I would just thank her profusely for her offer and tell her everything's covered for now but if something comes up you'll be sure to let her know.

How much do you think you'll see her once you guys are married?

RachNRich · February 2010

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[QUOTE]Sounds like my coworker. I don't know how I'd deal with it either. Are you able to tell her she's being pushy? I bet she won't listen anyway, from the sounds of it, but worth a shot maybe?
Posted by mocha beans[/QUOTE]

I think I tried to in the car---just tried to say that I don't have tasks for her---I don't need her to play coordinator--we're getting married in Vegas...they do it all for us.

But it's so strange--I just cannot be around her without feeling like the room is closing in on me.

katiewhompus · February 2010

Confession, today is the one year anniversary of my friend's two children being murdered, and I have no clue what to say to cheer him up at all

Knottie vibes his way are much appreciated.

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