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Re: Bachelorette Party Ideas & Ettiquette

  • peterandlauraforeverpeterandlauraforever
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    The "logic" behind this is poor to say the least. It's rude to throw a party for yourself in any circumstance except when you get married?

    Hey everyone, I'm getting married, spending lavish amounts of money on my dress, venue, food, drinks etc. Please come celebrate ME! But if I go out for my birthday I won't tell you that it's my birthday and I'll just pretend we're going out for the hell of it.

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  • emeejeeayenemeejeeayen member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bachelorette-party-ideas-ettiquette?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:c19f3ccb-a52e-4c03-93c5-baf1f53de023Post:40987c5d-53b6-4131-8f4e-318e6059ad5e">Re: Bachelorette Party Ideas & Ettiquette</a>:
    [QUOTE]The "logic" behind this is poor to say the least. It's rude to throw a party for yourself in any circumstance except when you get married? Hey everyone, I'm getting married, spending lavish amounts of money on my dress, venue, food, drinks etc. Please come celebrate ME! But if I go out for my birthday I won't tell you that it's my birthday and I'll just pretend we're going out for the hell of it.
    Posted by peterandlauraforever[/QUOTE]

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  • KellyBrian2013KellyBrian2013
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    In Response to Re:Bachelorette Party Ideas :[QUOTE]The "logic" behind this is poor to say the least. It's rude to throw a party for yourself in any circumstance except when you get married?Hey everyone, I'm getting married, spending lavish amounts of money on my dress, venue, food, drinks etc. Please come celebrate ME! But if I go out for my birthday I won't tell you that it's my birthday and I'll just pretend we're going out for the hell of it. Posted by peterandlauraforever[/QUOTE]

    I think you just gave yourself away add the troll that you are... Or should I say, the AE. This quoted post is very clear, concise and appears to make a valid statement on etiquette. Completely different from your other posts. So, which reg/poster are you?
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  • rdavidson827rdavidson827 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bachelorette-party-ideas-ettiquette?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:c19f3ccb-a52e-4c03-93c5-baf1f53de023Post:4beaf510-990a-453a-af49-29551fd71181">Re: Bachelorette Party Ideas & Ettiquette</a>:
    [QUOTE]I appreciate your thought. It seems like everyone I have met or known recently has invited their friends out for an evening of fun, often as a vacation or neutral city (no one lives there, no advantage) for meet-up/drinks/etc. Personally, I see nothing wrong with someone saying, "I'm celebrating my (figurative) last night of being single with all my favorites, so let's all do something!"  problem - 50% of my girls at odds with what THEY want to do / where to go.
    Posted by mdd123082[/QUOTE]

    So just plan a get together with them so they can all get together and get to know each other and NOT call it a bachelorette party.  You CAN'T throw yourself a bachelorette party, but you CAN host a get together for all to get to know each other, but with that comes the responsibility of 'hosting'.
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  • rdavidson827rdavidson827 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bachelorette-party-ideas-ettiquette?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:c19f3ccb-a52e-4c03-93c5-baf1f53de023Post:e8403a73-d2ea-49e1-946c-f971e443a602">Re: Bachelorette Party Ideas & Ettiquette</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bachelorette Party Ideas & Ettiquette :<strong> You asked on the etiquette board.  I don't really care what your group of friends normally does.  Proper etiquette dictates that you don't throw parties in your honor.  </strong>Someone else offers to do so.  Being the guest of honor at your own party is AWish.
    Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]

    What she said.
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  • rdavidson827rdavidson827 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bachelorette-party-ideas-ettiquette?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:c19f3ccb-a52e-4c03-93c5-baf1f53de023Post:ebffe0f0-812c-4b5f-8b4e-f0166b10cc3a">Re: Bachelorette Party Ideas & Ettiquette</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bachelorette Party Ideas & Ettiquette : This is just simply ridiculous. Sometimes I swear that "etiquette" has completely brain washed some of you. No common sense left, just the voice of Emily Post echoing through your head.
    Posted by peterandlauraforever[/QUOTE]

    WTF?!?!?  How is it that you keep popping up everywhere?
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  • peterandlauraforeverpeterandlauraforever
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bachelorette-party-ideas-ettiquette?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c19f3ccb-a52e-4c03-93c5-baf1f53de023Post:c197e6bb-cea2-454c-97f4-13f365a1db3a">Re: Bachelorette Party Ideas & Ettiquette</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bachelorette Party Ideas & Ettiquette : Um, actually the reception is to celebrate your GUESTS and thank them for attending the ceremony.  So, it's not really throwing a party in your own honor.
    Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

    People attend weddings to celebrate the couple that is getting married. I don't attend a reception to celebrate myself as a guest. bass akwards. Besides, if the reception isn't about celebrating the new couple then why do we turn all the attention on the couple? First dance, boquet toss, garter toss, cake cutting, head table, toasts, entrances etc. Last time I hosted an event I didn't have a head table and turn all the attention on myself just to pretend and lie saying that I'm celebrating my guests. How on earth does that make any sense?
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  • beardo1111beardo1111
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    I'm glad this post started because I've been wondering about something similar.  I'm having four bridesmaids for my wedding next September - they're scattered across the country (seriously - Seattle, Chicago, Boston and Texas) and none of them know each other at all (my sister, F's sister, two of my good friends from college but they weren't friends with each other).  
     
    I recently hung out with my Boston bridesmaid and she was asking me what we were going to do for the bachelorette.  I told her that it was bad etiquette for a bride to plan her own bachelorette, but her response was along the lines of, "well, none of us know each other, so you'll probably the one to organize something right?"  She said she definitely wanted to do something but that she figured I would plan it.  My Texas bridesmaid also told me she wanted to do something but also seemed to think I would take the lead.

    What do I do in this situation?  I don't care that much about having a bachelorette but at least a few bridesmaids seem enthusiastic about it.  I know I could give them each other's contact info but I understand that having never met each other they may feel pretty awkward discussing planning, finances, etc.  My MOH is my sister who is getting married three months before me in June, and is pretty busy planning her own wedding and possibly her own Vegas bachelorette. She and I have dicussed possibly doing a joint Vegas weekend since our wedding are so close and we're in each other's wedding parties, but I don't know her bridesmaids, she doesn't know mine, and none of them would know each other

    I dunno.....any thoughts?
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  • peterandlauraforeverpeterandlauraforever
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bachelorette-party-ideas-ettiquette?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c19f3ccb-a52e-4c03-93c5-baf1f53de023Post:5bd710d7-e554-4e07-8156-1ced0aed8f81">Re: Bachelorette Party Ideas & Ettiquette</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm glad this post started because I've been wondering about something similar.  I'm having four bridesmaids for my wedding next September - they're scattered across the country (seriously - Seattle, Chicago, Boston and Texas) and none of them know each other at all (my sister, F's sister, two of my good friends from college but they weren't friends with each other).     I recently hung out with my Boston bridesmaid and she was asking me what we were going to do for the bachelorette.  I told her that it was bad etiquette for a bride to plan her own bachelorette, but her response was along the lines of, "well, none of us know each other, so you'll probably the one to organize something right?"  She said she definitely wanted to do something but that she figured I would plan it.  My Texas bridesmaid also told me she wanted to do something but also seemed to think I would take the lead. What do I do in this situation?  I don't care that much about having a bachelorette but at least a few bridesmaids seem enthusiastic about it.  I know I could give them each other's contact info but I understand that having never met each other they may feel pretty awkward discussing planning, finances, etc.  My MOH is my sister who is getting married three months before me in June, and is pretty busy planning her own wedding and possibly her own Vegas bachelorette. She and I have dicussed possibly doing a joint Vegas weekend since our wedding are so close and we're in each other's wedding parties, but I don't know her bridesmaids, she doesn't know mine, and none of them would know each other I dunno.....any thoughts?
    Posted by beardo1111[/QUOTE]

    It sounds like your friends have expressed interest but obviously, are unable to plan something simply because they have no way to contact eachother. I threw a B party for a friend and I didn't know any of the other BM's. I asked her for the names and phone numbers of each girl and texted them. These days it's easy to text a stranger. I don't see a problem with making the planning accessible to your girls. If they don't do anything with it then you can leave it at that or you can plan something for yourself. Sounds like your group is expecting you to do it anyway.
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