Do you think it is cheating

ricksang · June 2010

if you are separated from your spouse and then start dating someone else?

I was roaming the nest.

luckyme502 · June 2010

Are they legally separated and planning on divorcing? If they are, then no, it's not cheating.

nda_roxybabe · June 2010

Depends. If you are seperated to be divorced and are both open to seeing new people, it's ok, I guess....

jennylove810 · June 2010

I don't think it's necessarily the right thing to do for a long, long list of reasons. However, going on a couple casual dates would be far less of a hurtful offense (to me) than sleeping with everyone you come across.

I realize I didn't really answer the question, but I'm tempted to say that so long as there's nothing seriously physical, and it's casual dating, then.. no?

But I feel wrong saying no, cause you are, technically, still married.

Gah.

ricksang · June 2010

No, not legally sep. She has to wait a year to get divorced.

sarah0725 · June 2010

If you're separated with the intention of divorcing and both of you are on the same page, then no, I don't see it as cheating. I think it's a little weird that one of my cousins is engaged to be married again when his divorce isn't final yet, but I don't think it's immoral. Just weird.

If the terms of the separation aren't clear to both parties, though, I think it's more of a gray area.

luckyme502 · June 2010

All I can tell you is that here in Virginia you have to be separated for a year before you can be divorced. If you start a relationship with a new person during that year it is not considered cheating.

ricksang · June 2010

I dated my H for three months before my divorce was finial but my exH and I were on the same page as far as dating goes. He had a new GF. I don't find this as shocking as someone cheating IN a marriage, but I guess in the eyes of the law it is still cheating.

ricksang · June 2010

Here is the post I was referring to if anyone is bored. It wasn't as shocking as I wanted it to be lol.

http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/38602326.aspx

shellydiane820 · June 2010

I think as long as the husband and wife are both on the same page about dating, I think its fine.

katiewhompus · June 2010

I think as long as they are on the same page and headed for divorce it's not.

I fell in love with Dh when I was still dating my exbf. I had been emotionally out of that relationship for a year, but hadn't ended it due to financial/stupid reasons. I waited until I ended it to start dating Dh, but I could see if I had to wait for a year before getting a divorce I would have started dating again.

ohwhynot · June 2010

Ditto others. If the marriage is all over but the waiting period and divorce details, then it's not really cheating (although it is legally adultery - a felony in my state). My ex and I both started dating after the marriage was over but the divorce was still pending. I guess we're both unconvicted felons, then.

katiewhompus · June 2010

You should definitely wait until the divorce is final before you marry someone else though

I've heard it can mess up the legality of the ceremony.

ricksang · June 2010

No Whynot, you are only a felon if you forget to call for jury duty :P

ohwhynot · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_think-cheating?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:78263cb2-00ea-4fda-8600-a7af78cf2692Post:4be90895-1338-48f2-a816-eb15c13f6ccd">Re: Do you think it is cheating</a>:
[QUOTE]No Whynot, you are only a felon if you forget to call for jury duty :P
Posted by ricksang[/QUOTE]

What kind of an idiot would do that?

katiewhompus · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_think-cheating?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:78263cb2-00ea-4fda-8600-a7af78cf2692Post:4be90895-1338-48f2-a816-eb15c13f6ccd">Re: Do you think it is cheating</a>:
[QUOTE]No Whynot, you are only a felon if you forget to call for jury duty :P
Posted by ricksang[/QUOTE]

Snicker

ricksang · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_think-cheating?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:78263cb2-00ea-4fda-8600-a7af78cf2692Post:8b179838-f650-4c36-b2ac-454eecb6296f">Re: Do you think it is cheating</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Do you think it is cheating : What kind of an idiot would do that?
Posted by ohwhynot[/QUOTE]

You b!tches are cracking me up tonight! :P

ricksang · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_think-cheating?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:78263cb2-00ea-4fda-8600-a7af78cf2692Post:8d20e78e-66de-4056-a03a-8f5a57434bf4">Re: Do you think it is cheating</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Do you think it is cheating : Snicker
Posted by katiewhompus[/QUOTE]
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ricksang · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_think-cheating?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:78263cb2-00ea-4fda-8600-a7af78cf2692Post:8d20e78e-66de-4056-a03a-8f5a57434bf4">Re: Do you think it is cheating</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Do you think it is cheating : Snicker
Posted by katiewhompus[/QUOTE]
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katiewhompus · June 2010

It was interesting reading her answers though.

"Will you be happy if Scott dumps you?" was one of the questions my dad asked me when I was breaking up with exbf. Basically, am leaving because of Scott, or because of the possibility of something better. I realized I'd rather give myself any shot of something better, even if Scott and I didn't work out.

ricksang · June 2010

Well it was a good move on your part, Katie. You have your H now. I assume he is great!

katiewhompus · June 2010

That he is

I am really glad we did the 3 months long distance though. It was definitely a growing experience to live completely 100% on my own during that time. I totally girled out too. Pink butterfly sheets and pillow cases, candles everywhere...Just me, my cat and the pet rats

ricksang · June 2010

Ha! I love rats! So cute.

katiewhompus · June 2010

I miss my babies. I sometimes think about getting new ones when they have cuties at the store, but I still am hung up on the "I want MY rats that I loved" phase instead of accepting new rats as being new.

jasmineh7777 · June 2010

My Aunt used to have rats. She said they were basically like dogs. They'd even follow her when they were out of her cage.

kimheartsscott · June 2010

Oh hi, just popping into this thread here...

Whoops! Did I just happen to drop this picture of my fantastically adorable rats in here? How silly of me.

ricksang · June 2010

OMG Kim, love them!

[Deleted User] · June 2010

Kim--they are so cute. I used to have 2 rats that looked just like them. I miss those little guys.

katiewhompus · June 2010

Kim, you have forced me to AW my little babies. It sounds cheesy but I am so glad I had the ladies on p&e to help me through their passing. My friends just didn't get it.

Mary getting into mischief

Pox and Honey

Demon yawning while looking at the rats. You can see Mary's head sticking out of the tube on the top level.